What is the best way to get revenge please read all?

[Jadeseymour]

So I am with someone who means everything to me and his ex is a real piece of work with me and him because he is with someone that is not him (they split up long before we got together) she has not let him see his son for Christmas or ever now it's unfair to him and his son I need help I don't want to play nice the her any more

[caring__1]

The best revenge is showing how enjoyable and successful it is to take the high road. Be a role model rather than perpetuate negativity, yet never push your choices in the face of others (implying you are better than them). Focus on making the most of what is rather than dwelling on what isn't.

If he didn't raise the child and the DNA doesn't match, then he's not entitled to any access to the child. If DNA does match, his best option is to take her to court. Your role, on the other hand, is to be a supportive partner and not involve yourself in the life of his ex.

[Guy13]

This is on him, don't you think? He should sue for visitation rights? Perhaps a lawyer... if you get up in the middle of it lessening his chances of normal with kid and you then he is going to blame you too. It is a NO WIN for you until he leads, makes good decisions, and takes action in all the important areas of his and your lives.

[Jadeseymour]

Hi had to get a DNA test and he is not on the birth certificate

[Guy13]

Is he father or not?

[Jadeseymour]

Yes he is

[Guy13]

Okay, that explains why she has him by the balls. Still though, he has to man-up and pressure with Court Orders... social services usually come out after those kinds of filings.

[Summeroflove]

That is really shitty. Some people get jealous especially when they find someone better then themselves.


A ex has no right to control their partner. I know when kids are involved as well as divorce situations….. You can’t just totally cut contact and there is some formalities that has to be done.


But don’t take revenge. Don’t do something to get yourself into trouble. He will find better.

[OlderAndWiser]

This is a child that was born out of wedlock? And there has never been a paterity petition filed?

[Jadeseymour]

They are never married

[OlderAndWiser]

In the court syste, he needs to file a petition to determne paternity and establsh his rights as a father of the child. Until he does that, he has no enforceable rights and is at the mercy of the mother.

[slatyb]

Not your problem. He can sue for visitation. Is he playing support?

[noohair]

I don't do revenge. I wait for the Karma to bite them hard.

[Anonymous]

If he wants to see his son , I would have thought you need a court agreement.

[Anonymous]

Don't get involved let him sort it out with her. That's their business not yours