When is enough is enough and time to end a friendship?

[SunnyCaliGirl]

I have a particular friend who I've known for about 5 years now, and the other day she texted me telling me she was feeling sad, and being the person I am I ask why are you sad?

Which ended up in me calling her to talk talk about why she was sad,

And my friend starts the conversation with her saying: "I am sad because I am no longer in love with my boyfriend and we have been fighting a lot as of late" because I have reconnected with an old flame from high school, and I am sad because this old flame stopped talking to me, She said this flame made her feel a way that her boyfriend no longer dose. And went on the mention her boyfriend who she's still living with says its dumb to be sad over such a thing.

She's as a point being embittered and resentful now where she tells him they are "not together" so it's "OK" for her to be back on Tinder and talking to old flames all the while she and her boyfriend as still living together. While he's saying he'll improve and wants to make things work out. But according to her his improvement "Isn't fast enough" for her.

I can't make this crap up even if I wanted to. And it has be revaluating our friendship status because to me how she is going about things goes against personal values of what I want in a friendship influence. And in the 5 years I known her this is the 1st I've ever experienced with her, and not some repeated behavior of hers as far as I'm aware.

I don't understand why she just didn't wait till she moved out and officially ended what she's not happy with, when she mentioned that she would be able to take care of herself on her own.

If this was a friend of yours would you cut ties or have patience helping them come to their senses?

[Iron_Man]

No, I wouldn’t cut the ties because I remain loyal to friends just let her figure it out on her own. I told you about this before if this is the same person. You’re back in college. You can just focus on your studies and talk to her when you can but don’t let it affect your life her disturbing ways

[SunnyCaliGirl]

Thank you for your helpful and kind reply

[Iron_Man]

Of course, you’re very welcome my friend

[Iron_Man]

Thank you so much for most helpful Award

[Lliam]

I don't think you need to do either one. You don't need to completely cut ties and you don't need to help. But you can still be friends.

[Lliam]

Thanks for the MHO, SunnyCaliGirl. :-)
I'm a CaliGuy, by the way. Grew up in So Cal. Now I'm up north.

[SunnyCaliGirl]

Nice 👍 I’m a SoCal girl but on the desert end of SoCal

[OlderAndWiser]

I'm not sure I would cu ties, but I would be the good friend who tells her what she NEEDS to hear, and not what she WANTS to hear. I woul openly express my thoughts about her behavor, and she would either that those comments to heart, or she would push me away.

[Biancam13]

I wouldn't cut ties with her. Sounds like she's just stressed with her relationship. I would provide a listening ear, but be firm but in a kind way, if she keeps going round in circles. That's what true friends are for; they set you straight but in a loving way.

[Potteplante]

I'm not sure I'd cut ties of but I'd probably distance myself after I've told the indivual the reasons for it.

I can't support someone, who's doing something I think is wrong or goes against my values and support is something I feel is an important part of a friendship or any private relation.

[jackieistired]

You don’t have to have a reason. If they don’t make you feel good anymore, you can walk away. It’s not like she’s your child, you can’t get arrested for child endangerment. If you have to question your friend, even bring your friends actions to the limelight, you know in your heart something is wrong and a friend, YOUR friend shouldn’t be acting like that

[SexyRedd1966]

People are going to do what they want to do... you should just be there to listen and let your friend vent... don't even try to give advice because they're not going to listen anyway

[Massageman]

If they had a real relationship/friendship (yes, there's a difference) , someone should initiate SOMEthing. But, in my opinion, not a sham wherein she is shopping around while still in her own store!

[Flower7]

It sounds like the “boyfriend” is aware of what she’s been doing. And yet he still stays. Not only that, but he’s also trying to improve (change) himself for her. That makes me question his intelligence more than her morality.

[Fuentes]

She's just a bad girlfriend with a weirdo mindset and thinks she can cuck her boyfriend, it's not just her fault it's his too cause he allows it & should have dumped her awhile ago. So they both weird af if you ask me.

[Hummertime]

I've hear you and ShadesMcGee the two of you compadres have been harassing alwayreckles93 .

Is that truth?
Be honest and no she isn't my sugar baby.

[Fuentes]

@Hummertime I don't know what kinda simp you're but please be gone from my presence dweeb. Before I buy myself some bug spray to keep this reject white knight pest away.

[Fuentes]

@ShadezMcgee @PrettyPriya @dustybiker @msputiton @jamie05rhsI hate to have to even add you or even tattle about this situation but sense I see this guy going around saying we're harassing with Reckless who is a constant racist and many can confirm this

I think it's clear they're most likely the same people & who is really harassing who hahaha at this point it's beyond normal. I will always respond witty but this is is bizarre now.

[Msputiton]

@Hummertime you mean the woman i had to block because. I asked a question fuentes would answer and she would literally jump on all his opinions trying to start a random argument 🤔
What i witnessed she was stalking him

[Dav1dTh0ma3]

When you are likely having to say "enough is enough and it's time for a change"- Owen Hart

[Exterminatore]

She will be endlessly chasing a honeymoon period all her life. Sounds childish to me.


Not sure what to say about cutting ties.

[LiamJHayden]

I end it when the negatives consistently outweigh the positives.