Is it okay to have a relationship with someone who gets angry to quickly?

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Xoxocutekitty · Accepted Answer

Red flag.

Life is hard and you will always have problems, whether your rich, poor, ugly, attractive etc. It's how you respond to those problems that determines you character.

Someone who gets angry too quickly hasn't reached the level of maturity to deal with these problems rationally and head on. Where there is anger, there is often entitlement.

The rich guy with the mercedes gets angry his car gets dinged by a beat up sedan. Maybe that sedan driver is careless or maybe that's just what you can expect from a busy parking lot on a Saturday afternoon, where there are statistically more accidents than say on the freeway, driving 60mph. Sure it's normal to get a little upset, but it's another to ruin everyone else's day because one bad thing happened to you.

Everyone has problems, but most should be handled calmly and with forethought.

SueShe · Accepted Answer

That is an instant red flag and a no go.

Someone that gets angry too quickly is someone that cannot control his emotions and that will take you down on the long run. Why?

Because you will have the feeling that you are walking on eggshells and that you have to watch your every move and every single word you speak in order not to upset that person. What kind of life is that? He is indirectly forcing you to be someone else, someone that is not you. That cannot work out because you will get frustrated and you will accumulation this frustration until one day, it blows out and then it is probably too late to correct the issue.

caring__1 · Accepted Answer

I always find it odd reading these types of questions. "Is it okay to have a relationship with someone who rapes my daughter every day?" This is your life to live, and only you can determine if a decision is acceptable or not to you. How does asking others help? "Should my favorite color be green or blue?" Do you question your ability to think to that extent? Unfortunately, most parents are so concerned their kids will make the wrong decisions that they constantly tell them what to do and how to do it. We'll never develop confidence in our ability to think for ourselves when we're constantly told we're too stupid to think for ourselves. Think things through before asking others to do your thinking. I'm sure you have the ability to come up with decisions that make sense.

Orion76 · Accepted Answer

Those are usually the People who don’t hold a grudge especially if they cool off quickly, apologise if they were at fault unless they are violent or aggressive or the kind that had no control and can publicly embarrass you with an outburst. So if they are not aggressive and obnoxious they could be very compassionate and trust worthy people because they can’t hide their true feelings so are they responsible? The things that make them angry can you avoid them? Or they get angry at everything if they are not and even they are good people you will have enough at some point only you can decide that.

Rosexøxø · Answer

Ofc not, you’d have better chances growing a farm next to a volcano 🌋

Guy13 · Answer

It probably will not end well.

Makeushiver · Answer

I'd avoid it. Anger is very much a reaction to fear it is self- hatred turned outwards to find a scapegoat. If you are having a relationship with someone prone to anger it would depend whether the anger is ever directed at you. That would be grounds to walk. Even if the anger is focused on certain types of people. gays, blacks etc. it's very often a case ( esp. w/ gay me as the target of anger) it's often someone who detects femininity within himself and hates seeing it. Anxiety is inner directed and anger is pretty much the exact same emotion but other directed. Men are a lot more comfortable with anger than anxiety- it seems more macho. Still the same thing. I usually wind up giving out apologies after an anger jjag

Breanna_nonbinary · Answer

Quick to anger is a BIG RED FLAG!!! It means they are impulsive and do less thinking and more reacting. Generally people like that are abusers and tend to hurt their partners physically.
https://www.portlandoregon.gov/police/article/60653

Quick to anger falls under number 8

21Cowboy21 · Answer

Sometimes men will by nature as they are more masculine and have more testosterone influencing this kind of aggressive behaviour. Which is good against external threats if at a bar together.

But its never ok to get angry or physically violant, or even gesture physical threats to your spouse - and that goes for both genders equally.

Emiliamazing · Answer

You need to let them know whether or not you approve of their quick to anger mindset. Then it's probably important to figure out the underlying reason of the anger, what's triggering it. That's what you do if you want to continue or establish a stronger relationship.

ChiTown33 · Answer

It certainly doesn't SOUND healthy. I think it would depend on the person as a whole. I was a little more intemperate in my youth. But I'm quite mellow now and I was never violent. But I do think I used to have a short fuse and now I've just grown into the fact that most thinks aren't worth getting worked up for. I guess what I'm saying is maybe learn to discern a person with passion from someone who just a angry jerk.

Spiritofn · Answer

You can try, it's hell. If I were you don't start the relationship, sweet talk her though and make sure she knows she's loved. "O baby I'd already have you pregnant 15 minutes ago if you weren't so angry all the time, give me a goodluck hug now I really need it."

oseveno · Answer

I personally wouldn’t date someone who’s quick to get angry. They might lash out at me one day. Plus, after seeing my parent’s marriage I told myself I wasn’t going to put up with anyone’s shit.

Реrverted_creep · Answer

There could be more to this question than what's said. Is there? Or is that all you noticed? They could be just a little too stressed during the first impression.

TheVigilantFox · Answer

No, it’s not worth the agro. I’ve been there I know, it’s toxic and horrible as you never know what will start them off and living in fear isn’t worth it.

WellGreetingsISay · Answer

It's okay, but it's best to get them something to get through that. For years I used to get angry easily. Never towards a person, but to objects. They might have some trauma that lead to the anger.

tzdc21 · Answer

Only if they are willing to work in their anger and are making an effort to fix it. If they're not then you gotta get away from them

lightbulb27 · Answer

if they can manage that. I can't and won't.

kevypatyy7 · Answer

Everyone deserves someone to love and you be loved. It's really okie. You just have to learn to bare with their moods.

AydenHazor · Answer

While that's a decision you have to make, that is a major red flag that it could lead to an emotionally, verbally and/or physically abusive relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

No. Because one day he’ll punch a hole in the wall. And one day It might be my face

Agape93 · Answer

If you can handle them, sure, but otherwise no. It's not likely to end well

Justneedtokno · Answer

It’s fine as long as you know how to navigate through the emotions

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

I can say at the very least it shows emotion. Does anyone want to start a life with anyone that hides theirs?

Jamie05rhs · Answer

That's a red flag. I would avoid someone like that.

collie22 · Answer

Sounds like me sometimes. Probably not the greatest thing

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

It's your life. I'd accept that, but only off they weren't abusive.

Wise4myage · Answer

No, that is never a good idea. He should be looking into anger management and not be dating.

Alex8736 · Answer

Gabby Petitio made that mistake and never lived to tell her story

BJP21 · Answer

Nope dont do it.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

I don't have the time for that, no from me.

krystek_pl · Answer

I couldn't be with that person

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Red flag

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

Nahhh...

skyee_727 · Answer

noooo

TheMoreMiffed · Answer

Not for me

halfroots · Answer

It never ends well

dinojames22 · Answer

Nope

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