my boyfriend is the sweetest guy and he loves me so much. we have been together for two and a half years and we have had our ups and downs but we really love each other. i never cared about his followers, followings, likes, dms whatever. but it always concerned mine somehow. i didn't notice it at first but a 4 months back we had a huge fight over so many issues and broke up for 15days. when i patched up with him we were again so in love. then he said he needed something from me. he wanted to 'invade' my privacy i asked what do you really mean then he suggested that we should share passwords. I've always been against this. He had always had problems about my snapchat friends. i even removed some to make him feel better earlier. little did i know. I have had 3 4 guy friends who were great but he never liked them. i even introduced them to him. i still don't understand why. (they aren't my friends now)
and now since 2 3 weeks he has been keeping track of my snap score. i always open snapchat to make memories whenever I'm with my friends or family and i don't open any of his snaps at the moment as there are sometimes nudes in it. i have been trying to explain this to him so bad. yesterday night he said i want you all to myself. i said i am yours but not JUST yours just to be clear. there are many more little things but i really don't wanna lose him. i wanna have my social life and i wanna be with him. i could see our future but i don't want my boyfriend to be so insecure or possessive but i love him so much and he loves me more. what should i fucking do?
and now since 2 3 weeks he has been keeping track of my snap score. i always open snapchat to make memories whenever I'm with my friends or family and i don't open any of his snaps at the moment as there are sometimes nudes in it. i have been trying to explain this to him so bad. yesterday night he said i want you all to myself. i said i am yours but not JUST yours just to be clear. there are many more little things but i really don't wanna lose him. i wanna have my social life and i wanna be with him. i could see our future but i don't want my boyfriend to be so insecure or possessive but i love him so much and he loves me more. what should i fucking do?
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talk with him calmly. don't try and shame him for he's doing naturally
for you, you need to think carefully who has your best interest. is it him or the other guys? because from his male intuition he has every right to not trust the others just like a father wouldn't trust some dude with his daughter
the other guys might tell you what you want to hear but poisoning the well between you and your boyfriend so they get a chance with you and some users here might do the same because they're following the same narrative of territorial protection = insecure and possessive
if you truly loved your boyfriend you wouldn't mind being his and no it's not a one way street. this is what it means to be in a truly committed relationship. total devotion to one another. not playing the field or even entertaining the idea of playing the field
If you're in a relationship, you should not have SnapChat. PERIOD. Delete the app!
Why are there nudes in his SnapChat?
how is being in a relationship related to having snapchat?
also, i keep only my friends in my snapchat that is, 15-20 people
by nudes i mean that me and my boyfriend share nudes with each other.
Because SnapChat was designed for people who want to be sneaky. It's the perfect app for cheaters.
So tell your friends to come to a different app. You're adults now. It's time to grow up.
Ah oh, okay. Well, you guys don't need to be sending each other nudes anyway. Just get together in person.
put up with it or move on