Don't feel loved by my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years now and we moved in last October.

Things were really rough in the beginning of moving in but since then we've worked hard and things have been much better.

My boyfriend doesn't express how he feels or say nice things and it's hard because one of my love languages is 'words of affirmation'. I've gently expressed this to him quite a few times and told him that this is one of the things that makes me feel loved.
I recognise his love language is 'quality time', so I work hard to incorporate that and plan things to show him how I feel. I also leave him little notes and do sweet things for him to show him I care.

He doesn't say 'I love you', or show emotion. When he walks in the door after being away for a night or even just heading out I'm really excited to see him, and it would feel really nice if I felt like he was happy to see me too.
I don't know what to do. I've sat down with him and got us to both voice what we need to feel loved so the other and work on doing that, and I feel like he hasn't tried very much. The best he's done is start to text me occasionally when I'm out and ask how I am or say he's thinking of me, and that feels so nice I just wish that he could try a little more.
I'm just someone who is a romantic and gets excited around the one I love and crave someone who matches that energy.

I love him and don't know if I just try to accept I'm not going to get that from him, and learn to live with it.

Any advice?

Thanks x

[MaazHussain]

It sounds like you have communicated your needs and feelings to your boyfriend, which is a great start. However, it's important to remember that everyone expresses love differently, and your boyfriend may not express it in the same way that you do. It's important to understand and accept that.

That being said, it's also important for both partners to make an effort to show love in ways that their partner appreciates. You mentioned that you have been putting in effort to show love in his love language, and it's important for him to do the same for you. It's okay to continue to remind him of your needs and express how important they are to you.

It might be helpful to have a more in-depth conversation about your love languages and what specific actions and behaviors make you feel loved. Maybe you can even come up with some new ways to show love to each other that will be meaningful to both of you.

It's also important to remember that love is not just about grand gestures, but also about the everyday little things. It sounds like he has started texting you occasionally and that makes you feel loved, so keep focusing on those small moments of connection and appreciation.

Overall, the most important thing is to continue communicating openly and honestly with your partner, and to work together to find ways to show love and appreciation in ways that work for both of you.

[mark000h]

He is unwilling to be more considerate of your needs and this probably won't change. Consider breaking up since you two are incompatible.

[Anonymous]

gotta say, since you mentioned love languages, if those don't match up... your relationship will fail. or if he doesn't put in more effort to meet your love language, it'll fail.

but that's besides the point, on the other hand, he doesn't even say i love you or show emotion? he may just be checked out of the relationship and is no longer interested...

i'd move out...

[Katebfun]

Leave you deserve better. I did not read the whole thing but what I did read it's a huge RED Flag. Move out find another.

[Anonymous]

Well change your boyfriend. Gimme a chance I will show you true meaning of love and feel you to be my queen