How many of you if given the chance would have an open relationship?

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I don't really mean do what you want with whom you want, but one where there is a certain amount of restrictions like the above, with approval or to your own rules

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

No, that be heart poison. The number of things that can go wrong are immense. There's a reason for "traditional" values... in general to provide a family foundation which to raise offspring.

Maybe some people don't have the same emotional attachments, sense of security, or values. There may be cases in humanity where there are other organizations and they work for those people, either because of whom they were raised to be.

It makes no sense to me when offspring showup, and whom is whose? All the sacrifice required, finance. If one guy is just getting the "wookie wookie" and the home husband is getting some of that and all the difficulties of the relationship that are part of life (caring for ill spouse, prioritize kids, arguments about this and that, etc)... why would he stay in relationship? It just doesn't make sense other than a way to fill peoples selfish voids their made cannot provide, and because they have attachment difficulties. I can see that, but it's got risks.

no thanks.

Guy13 · Accepted Answer

I am interested in taking an intimate one-one relationship and trashing the bond by throwing some other body into the middle of it. Unhappiness and unfullfillment will not change because you throw another body into the mix. It is Fools thinking and doing.

LovingJo · Accepted Answer

It is known to have many benefits and I've thought about this concept, many times before whilst being single.. But every time I'm in a relationship, it usually ends up being different, dye to being in love with that person and how I'd feel about "sharing" them with someone else, etc.
But, I will also say, that I have thought long and hard over the past few years about remaining open to these ideas, down the road in long term relationships, and whether you would introduce different stimuli.
For example: threesomes/multiple partners, cuckold, polyamory etc.
It works for a lot of couples if you remain honest, with respect, boundaries and communication!!
For me, it would take immense trust, I wouldn't be able to do it with someone casual/short term, or with someone I had issues with. 😊💯🥰

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Im sure everyones had that “chance”. Its just up to them to be about it or not. I ain't about that life. If i EVER gave in to an open relationship, I would still only be physical with one person. The other person would just be there to meet whatever emotional support that I don’t feel I’m getting from the other. So that said, me being in an open relationship would seem kind of pointless because although i’d flirt with both, its not gonna appear that I’m dating both since one is just there for “occasional advice or cuddles”

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Not in a jillion years. If I want to have sex wth more than one sexual partner, why get into a "committed" relationship? And why call it a "committed" relationship?

AviatorTom · Answer

If it was okay with my SO, sure, we'd have an open relationship.

Avicenna · Answer

No way. That is not a relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

Never.

If they want to be open, it becomes closed. Open relationships are inly championed by those who wish to cheat by admitting their intention to cheat, and my low value individuals trying to keep their current partner from leaving them by satusfying their desires.

The only person whi wins in thus scenario us the sude whi gets the sex without the loyalty. Man or woman, they're cheaters either way.

Cheating the system by trying to rewrite the rules is still cheating and disloyalty.

Breanna_nonbinary · Answer

Thankfully I have an open relationship. It’s not for everyone but I think it’s the best since I enjoy sex so much and I love showing others the skills I possess. It’s a great way for our relationship to stay fresh. However the only reason it works is because we keep no secrets from each other and disclose all our encounters. We love each other and trust each other. We don’t seek love from others and only the friendships and physical needs we have with others. Like many friendships you have the ones that are good caring listeners and the ones that are always the loud fun ones. But you can’t expect the caring one to always be fun and vice versa. A spouse is the same way. We rely on each other for so much as a life partner but sometimes we can’t always rely on them for everything. Thus we allow the other to seek what they need in others.

Ricky1966 · Answer

I actually have a permissive attitude towards being cheated on, so I would be okay with this. Basically, if It's just a one night stand, go ahead. She doesn't need to ask permission nor even tell me about it. if It's a regular booty call, I would appreciate being informed, no need to drop names as I can respect privacy. If It's a full time affair with feelings and emotions, I would likely be supportive, however I would prefer she marry me before hand. I would be insecure she would run off with the other guy, so marrying me would ensure she stayed. Otherwise, have at it.

initially, I would have mixed feelings of jealousy while simultaneously being turned on. Yep, I'm one of those types who not only like being cheated on, fantasies about this, so the jealousy wouldn't last.

So, yeah, I actually want to be cheated on. to the point where I would never end a relationship because of it.

Jersey2 · Answer

No. I am too territorial to grant access to others into my wife, home, cars etc. I would also feel like a loser with my neighbors and others knowing as well. Why would I allow that? No. I would rather not be married then and just play the field.

I have known a couple of couples now who have that lifestyle and it caused havoc about a year into it. I am not sure they still do it actually. One was an employee of mine and I think the wife wanted to screw the boss. My wife never liked her from day one so that would have been bad plus I was uninterested even though she looked like a decent F*ck. There is a long story about this which boggles my mind.

The other couple are poly and one is trans now. They had a huge fight about one of the people who comes over for “date night” after about a year into the relationship. There may have been a third couple but that was a very long time ago and they may have been just into femdom. That was a wacky night.

Mayo503 · Answer

Everyone to themselves….
But end of day it’s like if you like the look of he/she and end up in bed with them that’s what it’s all about isn’t it…?
Is it sexual or for company…?
But if it’s company it be more like a friend then isn’t it…?
But for me that’s like a bit on the side ….
If you’re single and want to be the bit on the side maybe….
But if I’m in a relationship then no ….
That’s the commitment you both have with each other…..
But if your into all that fair play on you both…

7Roses · Answer

My preference is an open relationship. I realized in my last one that it was the only way for me to live long-term.

I want a relationship where my girlfriend/wife is allowed to have sex with others however I have to stay loyal to her. I am completely willing and have gone through enough in my life that I am sure that this is what I want. The only rules I would desire is that I can veto on my own friends. I wouldn't mind her having sex with specific ones I trust however I wouldn't be happy for her to have free reign on my friends.

I have some other criteria that I would prefer to have which are optional but these are the absolute necessities,

If you would like to know some of these preferences you can message me.

Beatrix7 · Answer

i dont cheat in relashionships am sick of being cheated on in relashionships or used for sex or money or 1 was mostly to pissed tae go out and a decided when i broke up with the last ex i decided to stay single all i get is used am happy with my hands fingers buttplugs vibirator 2 dildos iam also not a sleep arounder either a gave that shit up when i grew up

Anonamam · Answer

I personally couldn't due to jealousy of the other person but some can. I would say assess your family needs I always say if young children or teens in the house this can be very dysfunctional if children left home then maybe something that suits for you. Only trouble is explaining to family and who has who on family events birthdays Christmas it can get very complicated. Who would they live with are you the main and they the second as in they live with you or are you happy to be the second. As someone always will be the second. Its very complicated I personally would stay away it can end very toxic

CourtneyJane2 · Answer

I'm already in an open relationship. My boyfriend and I have friends with benefits and extracurricular partners outside of our relationship, but that doesn't weaken the love between us, we're together more often than we're apart and we're both healthy.

Hell, last year we had a live-in girlfriend that we shared.

CopperStove · Answer

No. I’m firmly monogamous. I enjoy that exclusivity and the commitment it carries, it’s never been a struggle for me to not sleep around of someone I’ve promised my devotion and loyalty to. So I have no desire to find a workaround that would mean I don’t have to feel guilty about it. I don’t want to be the first man I want to be the first and ONLY and I offer the same in return to my woman.

LickwidSkie · Answer

Definitely not for me. I value the love between me and my woman. I wouldn't want her having sex/being intimate with another man, so I wouldn't even think about doing it to her. If a woman is okay with me having sex with other women, in my eyes she doesn't love me the way I want to be loved.

Bricealan · Answer

I was, and would be, and the only REAL problem with it would be to 'lose' your partner to another man/woman. I liked my one SO to have sex with other men, but sometimes she seemed to get to 'involved' with that person along with the sex. She would tell me if she was 'hot' for someone, and I even encouraged her to meet one guy who sent her a 'large" 'dick pic in email. She did meet him, jacked him off in her car, and then later he went to her house, but did not have a condom and she backed out.

elizamichale1 · Answer

Thats the only relationship i go for

bean2k21 · Answer

All my slaves are emotionally and sexually involved with one partner and have the knowledge and consent of the only person that matters, their Lord and Master Bean2k21.

It's important to communicate openly and honestly with slaves about my desires and boundaries, and I require trust, communication, and emotional maturity. If they can't learn to speak when spoken to, then the decision to pursue an open relationship with someone else is their choice.

nrm736 · Answer

No f*cking way.

Open relationships are pure, shallow trash. You want to get laid with everyone and have an SO in your life at the same time. And you actually believe that it's gonna work and you can have it all on a long term. Like WTF.

For me it's just another futile self-justification of greedy, selfish, indecisive and morally immature people.

Anonymous · Answer

I would.
Ever since my one and only decided to leave this world without me, I don't give a single shit about being in love and having something special with one person.
She's still and will always be the only one for me, but with my luck I still have another 60 years on this planet until I meet up with her again. So any relationship I get into in the future will be a meaningless fling where it's ok to fuck other people until we inevitably get sick of eachother

AimeeKyle · Answer

Not really interested in that. I would entertain various threesome or couples activities but even then, it would never be a swap or anything like that (and that wouldn’t be the norm, rather the exception / occasionally). It would be sharing experiences together/ always in contact with each other.

Lliam · Answer

Nah. I was always more interested in exclusive, infatuated, boyfriend-girlfriend relationships. I wouldn't like the idea of sharing my girlfriend and I wouldn't expect them to want to share me, either.

desidoll · Answer

I would love to, but my fiancè will be too jelly of that.

Miristheiss · Answer

No.  I'd divorce my wife if she even proposed the idea. She already has some guy lined up or is already cheating anyway if she mentions it.  If she is capable of that then I don't want her anymore.

humanearth · Answer

Did that with my first wife (her idea) didn't really work out. Caused more trouble then it was worth

21Cowboy21 · Answer

I am single now - but likely would not want an open relationship. I would be too jealous to share my partner with anyone else so would want us to be exclusive.

Nikki1989 · Answer

We have been in an open marriage for years, and we couldn't be happier.

Adam1978 · Answer

It's not a relationship if it's open, it's just people sleeping around. I don't see a point in it, stay single if you want to sleep around.

Ninania · Answer

I'm polyamorous and practice full autonomy with open and honest communication and expectations with each new partner. I know what I want in my relationships and make sure to discuss boundaries and relationship structure early on.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

What would even be the point of it? You’re basically telling your partner they aren’t good enough for you but you’re too lazy and comfortable to break up with them. I would rather remain single.

Étoile9 · Answer

Never I don't share. If I ever become ok with sharing you, that's mean I no longer care about you.

KarinMcDonald · Answer

I am in a one sided open relationship. It works well for us. It keeps my husband in a constant state of arousal, and I get satisfied.

loveslongnails · Answer

I'm in one, and it's awesome. The only "restrictions" are no secrets and exercise extreme caution with any newcomers. Sharing is a good thing too. My SO appreciates a beautiful, hot woman as much as I do.

Juxtapose · Answer

I REALLY don't feel like dealing with that. I go years in between dates, I'm not going to be picking anybody up while she would be picking up guys left and right. Go ahead and tell me that wouldn't cause any problems 🙄

DermalPunch · Answer

It seems every relationship opportunity is an open one since people are so selfish and untrustworthy these days. To answer your question, no.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly no. I couldn’t share my man with another woman and I couldn’t imagine cheating on my man even if we were in one. Someone would get jealous and someone would probably be killed.

TheSimFans · Answer

I wouldn't be interested if I'm give a chance to have a open relationship would be too much. Prefer one at one pw person at time for a relationship.

Hassan_8 · Answer

Open relationship isn’t really a relationship

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Not me, to many potential issues, such as jealousy, stds etc.

genericname85 · Answer

hell no. open relationship usually means, she fucks around why he gets more and more dusty. open realationship is not an advantage for men.

Anonymous · Answer

Largely depends. I agreed to this in the past with an ex who I couldn't see a future with but still wanted to have sex with as well as other women. She was suprised when I left her.

Berethor · Answer

My rules is that only women can be added, not men, if she bisexual then might want that.

Yumix · Answer

I'd be okay with it but not sure about my wife. She's okay with threesomes and stuff like that but don't know if she would open it up completely

Agape93 · Answer

Already am. Been monogamous once, it didn't end well. So, fuck that

Chad345 · Answer

In have been very tempted. I don't look down on those who do.

exitseven · Answer

No, I would not enjoy it and I doubt my wife would either.

Vegasrunner · Answer

I am currently in a one sided open relationship w/ three. Open on mine closed on theirs. Its perfect.

Rizwan_khan · Answer

I don't have any problem in open relationship. We can enjoy eachother and live as free without any rules.

imawfulatusernames · Answer

absolutely not and you won’t convince me anyone who respects their partner would even consider it

rabbitzzz · Answer

Yes. I with multiple women. And my women with me.  One to many open relationship.

AdithyaR · Answer

I'm fine a poly relationship but i can't do an open relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

I would be willing to give it a try. It could be fun.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

I would end the relationship with the mere suggestion of it.

Kelly6 · Answer

I am already in open relationship, and to me I like it better then monogamy.

CharlieDMX · Answer

I'd definitely would, but my partner is not so open minded

msc545 · Answer

Open relationships work really well for women and they don't work well for men at all.

krin_m · Answer

I'm in polyamorous relationship but that is different than open relationships.

EmmaMary · Answer

Hell would need to freeze over first.

Anonymous · Answer

Not me, to be honest. I support others doing it if they want, but it's not for me.

Anonymous · Answer

I can never share my partner I don’t want an open relationship even if i had the chance

HappyWoman34 · Answer

I don’t fancy that.

How many of you if given the chance would have an open relationship?

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