First of all, I am 21 years old.
I have not had an active sexual, relational or opposite sex contact for many years
While watching a movie with my friends, the word "I'm a virgin" came out of my mouth (film about it). Now they make fun of me for being gay (I'm not gay but they make fun of me). They know I haven't had a girlfriend for a long time and they started coming to me more after that virgin word. Frankly, I'm not very good with girls and that's why I get these jokes. Because this is dating, fb, girlfriend etc. I don't understand their work.
Actually, that's not exactly the problem. The problem starts after that. My subconscious mind is telling me that if you don't have a relationship, sexual activity, and intimacy with a girl, you can't really be a man. And it hurts me so much. As men, we know how sickening the word "not being a man" can be.
My experienced friends.
To be a real man, do you have to have a girlfriend, a relationship, an active sex life?
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A real man focuses on putting himself in a position to better support and maintain relationship with future wife. this means develop spiritually (In Christ Jesus), mentally (knowledge and experience), professionally (career), personally (emotional social skill set).
Being a Virgin gives you High Value to a high quality woman. Do not screw the virginity situation up. She will be very impressed by your steadfastness and ability to handle life pressures related to maintaining the Virgin status.
I'm pretty weak emotionally. How can I strengthen it without ever having a relationship? I believe that if I get married in the future, I will alienate my wife of the same weakness from me. And you know women want experienced men.
I think it’s a wonderful thing that you are still a virgin, and I’m sorry you’re friends don’t feel the same way. Single or married, a real man tames his passions. He doesn’t abuse women or children; he protects them. He keeps his hands off a woman who is not his wife and treats his wife with love, respect and dignity. He keeps his eyes off pornographic images. He protects a single woman’s virginity and innocence. He’s not defined by his exploits below the waist. He’s a man with a heart, head and conscience.
A valuable man has strong, high values and self control. Promiscuous men are the ones lacking valuable masculinity.