Is it ok if a guy I just started dating is talking about marriage?

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I met him in person for 1 week then he has to go back to his country for work and his kids. He has one kid with his first baby mama and his second baby mama they have 3 kids together but never married any of them cuz he’s not ready and not so sure about the girl but he been with me only a month and talk about marrying with me while we just met on January? Or he tryna marry me to be his rebound or revenge on his baby mamas? Cuz if me and him work out together, I would want to marry too.

Guy13 · Accepted Answer

Have fun dating first and the start worrying about Marriage. That being said, I suppose your intentions has as much to do with whether talking about marriage is good or bad. Most people in today's world, who are serious about finding a husband and wife, jump at a guy who expresses where he wants to be. A guy who exposes his End Game and his long range intentions. Some would say that you are very fortunate to be able to discuss these things so early. Many would be like, "wow, this is a mature man."

Given that you are 19 years old this subject matter is a little deep and I understand this. Dating is firstly suppose to be fun. Enjoy each other and do not worry about this aspect of the guy. He sounds reasonable and he may be dreaming out loud. And, I am assuming that he is the same age and does not have a high body count or history of hopping from one girl to another. This is more of a red flag.

Don't overthink and smile with soft eyes as this is seemingly a guy with a plan It does not mean he expects you to immediately join him. But yeah, better one like this than someone working three girls at one time.

MaazHussain · Accepted Answer

It's not necessarily a red flag if someone you've only been dating for a short time brings up the topic of marriage, as people have different timelines and expectations for relationships. However, it's important to communicate openly and honestly about your feelings and intentions in the relationship.

It's also important to be aware of any potential red flags, such as his past relationships and the possibility of him using you as a rebound or revenge. Take your time getting to know him and make sure that you both share similar values and goals for the future before considering marriage.

Overall, trust your instincts and make sure you're comfortable with the pace of the relationship. Don't feel pressured to rush into anything that you're not ready for.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Honestly my true opinion I don’t care if it’s ok or not what I care is WHY a 19 years old women at the best age of her life is wasting wasting WASTING her time with a mother fucker who has kids up and down and probably older then you or spiritually ugly and unstable.
Don’t tell me no he is kind , spiritually ugly I mean at 19 years old as you are he should be treating you like a QUEEN is he doing that? I don’t mean in bed. I mean Socially financially mentally etc

Just leave don’t even give a fuck about him trust me before it’s too late. Find a snack for your snack don’t go to open Cheetos. Don’t ruin your life for a dick

xHoneyxBeex · Accepted Answer

Huge red flag…if he really wanted to get married, I’m not sure why it wouldn’t be with one of the mothers of his children. If he was with them for so long, had children, and still couldn’t commit to getting married, what makes you think he’ll marry you? It sounds like he is manipulative and just saying what you want to hear. I would suggest proceeding with caution.

Lycirian · Answer

To be honest, you are 19. I get married 8 years ago and I'm 34 now. I nearly everyday saying this was too soon. Trust me to get marry with 19 is not an option. You are young. Focuse on your carrier. Because if you get married and suddenly get pregnant, just pretend, you got to count on him and this will always backfire on people who does that.

PrimalInstinct · Answer

You don't look that intelligent in your photo and this question verifies that.

1) You're 19. Are you that pathetic & desperate you wanna be involved with what is a complete & utter loser & douchebag.

2) He already has a couple of bastards with women that were likely dullard dimwits that he said he'd marry soon after meeting & ran off on.

Anonymous · Answer

oh god lol major red flag and baggage. and you're only 19... you'll be an early 20's step mom... not fun! look at the pattern, it didn't work out for those other 2 girls, it most likely won't work out for you. especially since he's already talking about it when you guys haven't even been dating long.

Adam1978 · Answer

If you are 19 don't go for a guy with 4 kids. You are still young enough to make a much greater pick who can give you all the attention. He has failed to retain two families don't be the third baby momma.

Wade12345 · Answer

Why is a 19 years old woman interested in this dirtbag? He's just going to screw you over and leave you too. You know that, right?

Breanna_nonbinary · Answer

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Huge red flag. If someone you meet us talking about marriage this soon it’s a bad sign. I can’t tell you enough that it’s too soon to tell what his true behavior is.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Are you nuts or trolling? I'm sure know the answer to that already.

007kingifrit · Answer

what trash is this? if a man has kids with another women RUN, if he has kids with TWO though? you laugh at his face.  you think he didn't try the same lines of never wanting marriage before with them?

SunnyRS · Answer

There is nothing wrong with it according to me but your and his priorities can be different.  Maybe he wants marriage early and maybe you don't.  You should tell him how you feel about it.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Red flag for him to have 1 baby mama, let alone 2.

AydenHazor · Answer

He may be taking about marriage to get a visa to live in your country

Alex8736 · Answer

most likely to become a citizen in your country

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I don't know. Sounds sketch.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Ha! Good luck with that.

Guardian45 · Answer

RUN! RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN!

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