Can I ignore someone until they go away?

[thatsmexx]

Hey guys so I’ve asked this question before it’s gotten a bit out of hand. I have been trying to get rid of someone for maybe 6 months I’ve answered less texts and not met up, I ignore texts and get more a few seconds later and still ignore yet ger another text within a week. It’s become stressful in trying to get rid of the person. The problem is I am majorly turned off due to the desperation he has If someone ignored me I wouldn’t talk again until they messaged me! It’s as clear as day I have no interest in being friends but he will not let me go!! He even text me on different platforms if I don’t answer on another one! My questions is , can I just completely ignore everything he sends me now? I answered every now again because I do feel bad at times but then I am irritated again and I want this to stop! I won’t tell him as that’s plain mean and I wouldn’t like someone saying to me ‘ I don’t want to be friends!!!’ And I can’t block. I am human and feel bad at times but he really will not get the picture ! Basically is it really awful if I just completely ignore everything he sends me from now on and will it make him stop contacting me

[quaranta]

You can do that but you can also try giving him an actual rejection instead of fueling his hopes with some answers here and there, (even worse if they have some cute emotes and use kindness). By doing so you are doing some kind of "bread crumbing" even though you don't do that on purpose to keep him there, but considering the amount of time he spend on contacting you he probably spent a lot of mental energies in you, in overthinking and in making his fantasies bigger, so any input from you now is seen as eventful and he desperately need more of that, to repay the energies he spent.
So it's very important you stop "being kind" first of all because you're dragging him forward for longer.

While the solution to the desperation of these guys shouldn't be a responsibility of their targets, I think that in severe cases like these they lost any tool to handle the situation and I don't think it's wrong to manage it yourself with a proper rejection and stopping being "kind", not believing in his ability to manage it anymore.

I got a similar situation with a guy, and it was not convenient to block him for some reasons. But aside from that I generally give clear rejections.
I explained hiim his way to communicate is annoying for X reasons I specified in detail (which also underlined the way I found it pathetic indirectly), and this plus the fact I was very busy and some of his requests being creepy (again explaining why), definitely gave him 0 chances to meet me or to get my interest of getting even closer as friends. He stopped, then after many months he restarted, pestering me with daily and obsessive "hi how are you" bs, to which I was replying in a sterile way. When he got frustrated, I explained him once again why, in detail, I'm not interested at all in meeting him or in getting closer in any form. I made sure he understood it was HIM, not me, so that he wouldn't see any chance behind a "oh I'm too busy in this period", "oh I'm too depressed" and shit. I didn't sugar coat any word and used only cold assertiveness, definitely being very rude in the content but also very honest if anything, that might also have given him some tools to be better with the next girl. After that second shower of shit he actually stopped permanently and I didn't have to block him.
If he will ever restart (I doubt, a lot of time passed), I would repeat the same operation.

If I was in your situation I would tell him: that I am permanently turned off by his desperation, that I reply only because I feel sort of guilty and that is extremely off putting as well, that what I see is only misery and I can't see how this could give me anything, that being pushy with sterile words is like a desperate call for attention I find pathetic and scary, if not abusive. And that his obsession and stalking on other platforms made me pull away even harder and after seeing all these real sides of him he pretty much sealed the impossibility to get any reciprocation from me, forever, even in terms of simple friendship, and that I decided to tell him because I noticed he doesn't get any clue by himself but is rotting in his obsession only, so I took the responsibility to stop it for his own health, and mine too.
If he gets unhinged and starts really losing his mind (most likely) then the next step from me would be telling him to understand that I need to block his contact, and I'd proceed to do so regardless of his replies.

[thatsmexx]

Thanks so much for this I’ll just have be more stern because I had enough !

[SteveSmith1985]

Oh, yes. Ignore him completely. This is a no-brainer.

This dude is acting in a highly inappropriate way. You don't have to give a fuck about his feelings at this point. Not at this point.

YOU have a right to not have this asshat bothering you. I don't know why you wouldn't just block him. If ignoring him doesn't work. Do block him.

This is ridiculous. You shouldn't put up with this. Definitely ignore him. Hell have his messages sent to a separate folder and delete them without reading them. But go 100% no contact. There is no reason whatsoever for you to say one more single word to this guy. It's done. You can decide that by yourself.

Ignore him. If that doesn't work, then block him. If that doesn't work, file a police report for stalking.

Don't fuck around with this. Get this guy to leave you alone. MAKE this guy leave you alone. No matter how far you may have to go to do so. This is bullshit nobody has to put up with. So stop putting up with it! Fuck this guy (figuratively)

[thatsmexx]

Thanks I am definitely taking this advice :) !!

[SteveSmith1985]

Good! I am super-confident in giving this particular piece of advice. I do indeed hope you take it! 🙂

[Lliam]

I agree 100%.

[SteveSmith1985]

@Lliam Thank you sir!

[Guy13]

Yes and that’s called grey stoning. There’s a female India 🇮🇳 clinical psychologist that’s a great resource for that. You tube.

[thatsmexx]

Ahh interesting!

[SnowedIn]

You CAN block. All texting services have that function. Heck, even GaG has that. If you're not blocking, that is YOUR choice.

The answer to your question is, yes, you can ignore someone until they go away -- if they choose to. Perhaps, as in your case, they won't.

[riverrat3]

Did you tell them to stop bothering you

[Anonymous]

wow you're an asshole a real piece of shit

[legalboxers]

why not