If someone said they wanted to be with you because there was "something about you" but couldn't explain what, how would you take this and why?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

I understand the desire for some kind of hint about what he meant. But you should be able to tell if he said it with sincere admiration.

However, unless one is a poet, some things are hard to express in words.

If you were describing what you like about a song, you could specify something in particular like "the words", "the message", "the melody", "the way it makes me feel", "the instrumentation", "the arrangement", "the rhythm", "the vocals", or "when the beat kicks in".

Is it sufficient to say that you really like that song, or is it necessary to specify some reason in order to justify your opinion? Is it helpful to make a list of reasons or to try describing the technical aspects in detail?

Words are insufficient. And they often bring up more and more questions from the person asking. They can even lead to misunderstandings and debates.

A person can fall into a trap. If a guy specifies your voice, or the way your eyes sparkle, or the way the corners of your mouth turn up when you smile, or the way you move your hands when expressing yourself, he might be accused of only liking your physical appearance. Those specific things might even make you feel self conscious.

Maybe he should focus on aspects of your personality. But, in reality, it's an ineffable combination of things that makes him admire you or "feel funny inside" when he is with you. He adores you, but can he accurately describe you entirely? He would inevitably leave something out.

Would a description wind up sounding clinical and ruin the idealistic nature of his feelings? It would be like dissecting something to discover why it's beautiful.

In answer to your question. Is he a fuck boy? Was it a pickup line? Was he a sincere guy who couldn't articulate his feelings? I don't know.

zeitgeist057 · Accepted Answer

Some people aren't good at putting into words how they feel. It could be a positive thing or a negative thing. Maybe they are fantasizing about you in a way that is separated from reality and it's not healthy, or maybe they just really can't put it into words due to a lack of their own ability to express themselves.

If someone said they wanted to be with you because there was "something about you" but couldn't explain what, how would you take this and why?

I would take it as a positive thing, rather than be suspicious. Of course there could be other signs that made me feel it is coming from a negative place, so I would urge you if this is your situation to trust your gut.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I would take it as neither negative or positive because they can't exactly explain what it is about me that makes them like me. If I had to choose one I would be more on the positive side though because they do in fact like me, they just can't express why.

fonduegirl · Accepted Answer

It depends. If we've been going out for a couple of weeks, I'd be flattered that I caught their eye, that I tickle their fancy. It's amazing.

But if it's been an year... That's a load of garbage I didn't ask for. You should know better.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Six months later and they still can’t figure out what that something about me that they fell in love with, they better be straightforward if they see themselves with me in the near future coz I sure can’t see why I should be with someone who doesn’t know why they’re with me in the first place!

coachTanthony · Answer

Sounds like a canned line to make you feel "special" of sorts. Simply dumb to say in my opinion.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Bottom line is that they want to be with you, so unless you are paying them to date you, I would say this is a good thing!

Guy13 · Answer

Be thankful and gracious with a thank you, can you expand on that a bit please?

Adventurer23 · Answer

Absolutely. "Be with me" in a relationship or to have sex though? Not until she knew what it was about me she likes. But to date each other and learn what that is over time? Of course. It's flattering to be admired and attracted to for the qualities you have, so of course I would want to go out with her if I felt something for her too.

Mansearching · Answer

How can you describe the "it" factor? No one can. Its not just a 1 thing. Its multiple things. Always in sports announcers and coaches and upper management always say "they have it". But can't explain what the "it" is. They try but ends up being several things. But to pin point that 1 "it" thing. Then it can't be done.

serious · Answer

I will not take it the right way because how can anyone decide why they want to be with me if they don't know the reason or the basis behind that decision.

This would also indicate that the person who is saying this still does not know me well enough but wishes to be with me.

I won't accept that.

exitseven · Answer

I would think it is a good thing. I am not particularly good looking and I am not wealthy either. I have to assume that it would have to be some unknown quantity that made me attractive.

SnowedIn · Answer

I selected "other" but that's pretty sus. ESPECIALLY after six months. You have to be able to articulate some of this stuff.

SoIcyGang · Answer

Honestly I've had a bunch of girls do this to me. I just don't know what to think about it. It's been a while since it happened. Last time it happened it was a girl at a porn shop and she smelled bad but was cute.

They'll say things like "you just bring something out of me" or some shit like that.

I feel like they're just hoping I'm "daddy." It's a test to see if I'll take them home and do bad things to them in the bed.

LazerBean · Answer

If they can't describe what it is about me, then I'm going to assume it's because they really don't know which means it's probably just hormones. No thanks.

abc3643 · Answer

That would be very intriguing and possibly lead to a relationship. Ironically, 34 years ago almost to the day, that sort of thing happened to me.

lottiebannotie · Answer

Have you never liked someone but not been able to put your finger on it

Still-alive · Answer

Well i guess its a start. But eventually i would want them to offer a something more substantial than that.

Agape93 · Answer

Neutrally. I get that way, but I can articulate it well enough to get the sentiment across.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I’d find it sweet but i’d need them to explain before i decide to give it a go

AsaKyo · Answer

If they can't even tell you what makes you so special, then how do they even know if they really like you or not?

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Positively, please explain.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I would interpret that positively. The person wants to be with me. At a certain point, that really ought to be enough for me. It’s best not to think so much, sometimes.

Heterosketero · Answer

About the best anyone could say to me, I would respond to this best and most sincerely. I am attracted to "something about you" as well.

Guardian45 · Answer

Love is often undefinable, and should just be accepted! Why do I love chocolate?  No idea, I just do!

cherryxox99 · Answer

It could be the chemistry.

But honestly i think you guys need to hang out more and discover values that you might find different in, religion issues, dating life and personal things to determine if y'all are really compatible

RavVid · Answer

I am assuming she genuinely means this and it is not a line. Maybe I should try that. Where have I met you before did actually work.

Jdjfjcjj · Answer

Sounds like something someone would say to someone they just want sexually

Sparkie460 · Answer

They will figure out that I'm a nice guy soon enough

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Positive. If someone is interested, I'd take it as a compliment.

molonski2 · Answer

They want to be with you -- Who cares if they can't explain why? There is something there.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I would be very pleased and flattered. by the way, I have thought that about certain girls before. There are some women out there that are just really special individuals! ❤️

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

*mollifying truck sounds* “how VERY interesting, hohoho! You guys don’t even realize it but your silly comic just gave me the idea to wipe out laughter onzi estire p-“

Ninania · Answer

Oh yeah, the je ne sais quoi can be difficult to put into words at first.

Notsoshyguy1985 · Answer

If it’s a guy and he can’t explain  I imagine it’s physical  I’d recommend he masturbates and thinks deeply about the person after the tension in his body is relieved

SunnyRS · Answer

Well, at least it's something they like, and it makes them want to stay, so sure I take it positively.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I will take it as a compliment obviously. They see something to you that you don't see in yourself and that's a very good thing

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

I'd be confused.

noohair · Answer

There is biochemistry involved with love and that is hard for the average person to explain.

AnonGuy9000 · Answer

I would not overthink it. The fact that they like me is enough. Positive energy is always a good thing.

Jerre · Answer

I think they would be thinking about my Bigcock

msc545 · Answer

I would have many questions.

KarinMcDonald · Answer

It sounds like a pick up line to me

TallAnon · Answer

Intuition is a good thing

Jennz6 · Answer

I’m easy

Anonymous · Answer

they're full of shit

Twalli · Answer

I can't explain but it's not a bad thing.

TrillXHippy · Answer

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