I understand the desire for some kind of hint about what he meant. But you should be able to tell if he said it with sincere admiration.
However, unless one is a poet, some things are hard to express in words.
If you were describing what you like about a song, you could specify something in particular like "the words", "the message", "the melody", "the way it makes me feel", "the instrumentation", "the arrangement", "the rhythm", "the vocals", or "when the beat kicks in".
Is it sufficient to say that you really like that song, or is it necessary to specify some reason in order to justify your opinion? Is it helpful to make a list of reasons or to try describing the technical aspects in detail?
Words are insufficient. And they often bring up more and more questions from the person asking. They can even lead to misunderstandings and debates.
A person can fall into a trap. If a guy specifies your voice, or the way your eyes sparkle, or the way the corners of your mouth turn up when you smile, or the way you move your hands when expressing yourself, he might be accused of only liking your physical appearance. Those specific things might even make you feel self conscious.
Maybe he should focus on aspects of your personality. But, in reality, it's an ineffable combination of things that makes him admire you or "feel funny inside" when he is with you. He adores you, but can he accurately describe you entirely? He would inevitably leave something out.
Would a description wind up sounding clinical and ruin the idealistic nature of his feelings? It would be like dissecting something to discover why it's beautiful.
In answer to your question. Is he a fuck boy? Was it a pickup line? Was he a sincere guy who couldn't articulate his feelings? I don't know.
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Some people aren't good at putting into words how they feel. It could be a positive thing or a negative thing. Maybe they are fantasizing about you in a way that is separated from reality and it's not healthy, or maybe they just really can't put it into words due to a lack of their own ability to express themselves.
I would take it as a positive thing, rather than be suspicious. Of course there could be other signs that made me feel it is coming from a negative place, so I would urge you if this is your situation to trust your gut.
I would take it as neither negative or positive because they can't exactly explain what it is about me that makes them like me. If I had to choose one I would be more on the positive side though because they do in fact like me, they just can't express why.
It depends. If we've been going out for a couple of weeks, I'd be flattered that I caught their eye, that I tickle their fancy. It's amazing.
But if it's been an year... That's a load of garbage I didn't ask for. You should know better.
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Six months later and they still can’t figure out what that something about me that they fell in love with, they better be straightforward if they see themselves with me in the near future coz I sure can’t see why I should be with someone who doesn’t know why they’re with me in the first place!
Sounds like a canned line to make you feel "special" of sorts. Simply dumb to say in my opinion.
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Bottom line is that they want to be with you, so unless you are paying them to date you, I would say this is a good thing!
Be thankful and gracious with a thank you, can you expand on that a bit please?
Absolutely. "Be with me" in a relationship or to have sex though? Not until she knew what it was about me she likes. But to date each other and learn what that is over time? Of course. It's flattering to be admired and attracted to for the qualities you have, so of course I would want to go out with her if I felt something for her too.
How can you describe the "it" factor? No one can. Its not just a 1 thing. Its multiple things. Always in sports announcers and coaches and upper management always say "they have it". But can't explain what the "it" is. They try but ends up being several things. But to pin point that 1 "it" thing. Then it can't be done.
I will not take it the right way because how can anyone decide why they want to be with me if they don't know the reason or the basis behind that decision.
This would also indicate that the person who is saying this still does not know me well enough but wishes to be with me.
I won't accept that.
I would think it is a good thing. I am not particularly good looking and I am not wealthy either. I have to assume that it would have to be some unknown quantity that made me attractive.
I selected "other" but that's pretty sus. ESPECIALLY after six months. You have to be able to articulate some of this stuff.
Honestly I've had a bunch of girls do this to me. I just don't know what to think about it. It's been a while since it happened. Last time it happened it was a girl at a porn shop and she smelled bad but was cute.
They'll say things like "you just bring something out of me" or some shit like that.
I feel like they're just hoping I'm "daddy." It's a test to see if I'll take them home and do bad things to them in the bed.If they can't describe what it is about me, then I'm going to assume it's because they really don't know which means it's probably just hormones. No thanks.
That would be very intriguing and possibly lead to a relationship.
Ironically, 34 years ago almost to the day, that sort of thing happened to me.Have you never liked someone but not been able to put your finger on it
Well i guess its a start. But eventually i would want them to offer a something more substantial than that.
Neutrally. I get that way, but I can articulate it well enough to get the sentiment across.
I’d find it sweet but i’d need them to explain before i decide to give it a go
If they can't even tell you what makes you so special, then how do they even know if they really like you or not?
Positively, please explain.
I would interpret that positively. The person wants to be with me. At a certain point, that really ought to be enough for me. It’s best not to think so much, sometimes.
About the best anyone could say to me, I would respond to this best and most sincerely. I am attracted to "something about you" as well.
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