AITA for caling out my boyfriend for not moving to the side while I clean a spillage in the kitchen?

[Anonymous]

I know I know sounds stupid. To give you context my kitchen is really small , can hardly maneuver yourself in there. I accidently spilled really spicy noddle sauce on the side and i was about to clean it up until my boyfriend walked infront of me grabbing a plate and started drying it. I obviously didn't want any of the sauce touching or going near my boyfriends food as i know he doesn't like the smell of spicy sauce. (Side note i have OCD so i see something dirty and out of place and i have to clean it with no control can't really help it , which my boyfriend knows about ) I asked my boyfriend nicely to please shuffle like an inch while drying his plate he ignored me. So i asked again still very nice and polite i was like "hey can you like move to the side just a little i need to get this spill " he refused i ended up asking around 4 times , he then turned to me and said im drying my plate wait. It kinda really annoyned me i was like look i asked nicely just to move an inch he said i dont see what the problem is. We argued about it he made me feel pretty crappy about myself , telling me its not a big deal , why couldn't you wait this and that. . I get it yeah i could of waited but if any of you have OCD you will know that spillage would drive you crazy. Am i the asshole for getting mad at him?

[Anonymous]

It is understandable that you would be frustrated by your boyfriend's refusal to move to the side while you clean a spillage in the kitchen. However, it is important to consider whether your reaction was proportionate to the situation.

While your OCD may make it difficult to tolerate mess and disorder, it is important to communicate your needs and boundaries in a respectful and assertive manner. It is possible that your boyfriend may not fully understand the impact that your condition has on your behavior and may need more education and understanding.

It is also important to consider the potential for miscommunication or misunderstanding in the situation. Your boyfriend may not have realized the urgency or importance of your request, or may have been focused on his own needs in the moment.

Ultimately, it is important to approach conflict in a relationship with empathy and understanding, and to seek to find a mutually respectful and supportive resolution. It may be helpful to have a calm and open conversation with your boyfriend about your needs and expectations, and to work together to find solutions that work for both of you.

[Guy13]

No, you are not.

[Anonymous]

You both sound kind of crazy.

[Iron_Man]

No big deal