Girls, how do I convince my girlfriend and female best friend not to hate each other?

[Anonymous]

Here's something that has been going on since past few months. I used to date a girl which my female bestfriend did not like at all, but after 1.5 years of dating we broke up due to some reasons (no cheating no heartbreaking). But recently after 4 years, we met few months ago and things went other way and we somehow started dating again. And it's much better than what it was (it's not a toxic relationship). But here's the problem, i know my female bestfriend likes me somewhere but she never tells me as she is already dating. Actions do speak and i always notice it. But now, my bestfriend and my girlfriend are the greatest enemy of each other. Sometimes my bestfriend even says things to me like "Don't mention her name I'll fuck her up someday". And its quite the same from my girlfriend as well. How do I solve this and come to a mutual understanding as one has been my bestfriend since past 8 years and other one i first started dating her 7 years ago. They both are important in my life.

[PrettyPriya]

Doesn't sound like it is possible to solve if it is that bad that she said "Don't mention her name I'll fuck her up someday". That sounds like it is irreconcilable for whatever reason. Do you know why your friend dislikes her that much? You don't really dive into that part in the details. What happened?

I get that the first time around didn't go well and your friend might be protective. However, friends are supposed to be supportive or they are not really friends. My friends have done some things that I didn't particular like as far as dating but I always tried to be there for support.

This sounds like you are going to have to choose which is more important, the relationship or the friendship. I just cannot see from the details you give how this can be fixed if they are at each other's throats that much.

I wish I had some advice, but I don't know what is causing the hatred in the first place. Even if I did, sounds like this is unsalvageable in my opinion.

[SueShe]

Whatever you do, do not intervene in that conflict because you will be asked by either woman to choose between the one or the other and if you don't comply, you will be banned by both and you will be sent to the doghouse.

If you take sides, the end result will be to lose the one or the other. However, as @PrettyPriya states, this is the problem that does not have a solution to it. Either way you lose.

Even if you don't intervene, you will sooner or later asked to take sides and then what are you going to do. It looks as if you will lose in the future as well.

This is the type of conflict you don't want to be involved with but for you, there is no turning back, whatever you decide to do. Good luck with the unsolvable problem.

[PrettyPriya]

I agree that the outlook is rather bleak.

[WhitneySnow]

This is almost impossible. They both really like you that way. Better to keep them far apart. Maybe if you have a mutual friend who’s friends with both of them you can get them to help work things out.

[Nikki1989]

I don't think it is a good idea to get in the middle of this. You might just make the overall situation even worse.

[DermalPunch]

This is why I go nowhere near guys with a female best "friend".

[sheenagwapa]

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