I’m 27 years old and I moved from one state with my parents to another. I have a 2 year old son and I found love at my friends wedding in my home state. I have decided to go back to school so my parents have been taking care of me financially and I am separated from my sons father. Growing up the household I live in has been somewhat toxic mentally but regardless I still love my parents. My parents, well mainly my mother, has disapproved of my new relationship. She thinks I can do a lot “better”. I said to her if this is what I want she should be happy that I’m happy regardless if she likes the person or not. This man has traveled to and from my home state to visit me, has also taken on the role of a father to a child who isn’t his. My new partner has suggested me moving back to my home state to build a life together. I am torn because I know that will hurt my parents if I move back because we all agreed to move here together as a family. I also know I am happier where I live now. My son has lived with my parents and I since he was born and they are very close with him. When I first met my partner I told him I moved to another state and I said I was not going to move back. I told him if he could not see himself moving to where I live then it would be best to know now so we do not continue a relationship and form feelings for one another. He told me he would be willing to move to where I live if things work out with us. Fast forward to now and he has been putting pressure on me to move back to my home state. He says he does not think he can make as much money living here and it makes more logical sense for me to move back with him there. I am torn because I know I will not be happy long term, my family will be hurt if I leave also.
Do I risk my relationship with family for love?
