Why aren’t guys interested in me? from the description I don't know what’s going wrong help a girl out?

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I always get told by adults and other people I’m pretty beautiful etc all the compliments I never can get guys I would go for or I get guys I don’t like or if I do get any they don’t stick around for very long only a matter of time before they go and people also compliment my personality too so I think I got 2 things going for me. It’s really getting me down and frustrating why I can’t get guys or have any mutual interest I don’t get it if I have all the good traits

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

I think this is hypergamy at work. "I never can get guys I would go for or I get guys I don’t like or if I do get any they don’t stick around for very long" That sounds like the common manosphere or red-pilled trope of a hypergamous woman.

A lot of dudes will know what I'm talking about when I mention a laundry list of women have or prerequisites to meet, women that are alpha widowed by some chad thunderstroke from her teens and comparing all to him, or the woman refusing to settle without the entire package and wondering why guys that do have it all won't settle for just her. If you are the woman I'm suspecting you are... you just want to hear any of that. What is that? You overrate your worth. Probably average at best.

The more you yourself chase education and money for yourself... those high standards will just keep going up. That's hypergamy. If it's because this guy isn't as good as that one guy that pumped'n'dumped you... that's alpha widowed. I'm saying the guys are probably out there but I would bet money that the problem is you and not them. Who you pick and who you give a chance at all... that's the problem.

Of course, I'm just throwing some shit and seeing what sticks to the wall here, I don't know you and you'll have to figure out if you actually fit one of those tropes. You're 19 so you have some time before you 'hit the wall.' You might figure it out. I wish you all the best of luck.

b-river · Accepted Answer

It seems like you've gotten to a real point of frustration about this, and it can be a very frustrating thing, to want, and wonder whether something is wrong with you.

But the best thing you can do for yourself, and for your odds of finding someone you could have a good relationship with, is coming to a level of peace.

There could be lots of things making it harder. Maybe you have a bad situation for it. Maybe you have traits that make it harder for you. Maybe you just have raw bad luck, I don't know.

But, romance comes from being around people, showing them who you are, seeing who they are, and finding somethng good, that sticks. The more frustrated you are, the harder it will be to do that.

People can sense it. I'm sure you've met a guy who feels the way you do now, and maybe it could have worked out, but that is not a place to start.

Try to just be at ease, keep your heart open, and let it come. Be around people who are fun in the way you like, and who you can enjoy! Be fun yourself, and enjoy them just because you do, truly and fully. Then, when you meet someone you like, ask them if they'd like to go do something fun as a date. And be open to whatever happens from there.

Hope that helps, good luck sister 💪

Adaeva · Accepted Answer

Your complaint is so typical of dozens of average and above average 5s, 6s, and 7s on GAG that believe they deserve 9s and 10s. That's not going to happen because there is no magic and you are asking for magic.

Obviously, at age 19, you can get plenty of guys. However, like all the other girls on GAG that make similar complaints, you have unrealistic requirements and reject as unacceptable guys within your league.

No doubt, like other young women on GAG, you will say that is not the case. However, at age 19, even girls that are below average 3s can date guys that are 4s, 5s, and even 6s. In fact, since guys date down for sex but don't marry down, if you are an average 5, you can date 6s, 7s, and occasionally 8s. However, they won't hang around because for a long-term relationship they can do better. If you want a guy that will treat you right and hang in their for you, you must accept guys within your league.

SakuraBlossoms87 · Accepted Answer

@laurlaur101 Well how are you approaching them? Are you dressed respectfully or are you dressed like some skank? Do you have a ton of makeup on or are you going for a more natural look?

Just because people say you are beautiful, etc doesn't mean men have to automatically get involved with you.

People have standards on what they want in a potential partner.

Some men don't want decent women but cheap women, so they look for women dressed cheaply.

Some men don't want cheap women but decent women, so they look for women dressed respectfully.

Similarly if you are doing nothing to show off your personality then men are not going to be interested. You do after all sound rather entitled - expecting men to like you just because of what others say when those family/friends/strangers aren't going to date you - and that can be a rather big turnoff.

Summeroflove · Answer

Are you showing interest? Or are you just waiting for guys to just show up who you don’t know.

Look being alone sucks and we all wished both men and women that some magic person would come scoop us off our feet. But more often then not ther won’t happen.

Just think. You have a soulmate. So there is a guy out there somewhere for you you just ain’t found the right one.

Don’t be angry at a guy who isn’t interested. It’s just not meant to be. Long as he isn’t rude. Be glad he’s telling the truth and not stringing you along

OlderAndWiser · Answer

None of us were there on our dates, but you were, so what do YOU suspect is the problem?

PraviteliNahuiValite · Answer

Why aren’t guys interested in me? from the description I don't know what’s going wrong help a girl out?

UGH, I DON'T KNOW WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH THOSE GUYS! ARE THEY BLIND? DO THEY NOT SEE YOUR BEAUTY AND PERSONALITY? MAYBE THEY'RE JUST INTIMIDATED BY YOUR AWESOMENESS OR THEY'RE JUST TOO FUCKING STUPID TO REALIZE WHAT THEY'RE MISSING OUT ON. OR MAYBE, JUST MAYBE, YOU'RE SETTING YOUR STANDARDS TOO HIGH AND EXPECTING PRINCE FUCKING CHARMING TO SWOOP IN AND SWEEP YOU OFF YOUR FEET.

BUT SERIOUSLY, DON'T WORRY TOO MUCH ABOUT IT. MAYBE YOU JUST HAVEN'T MET THE RIGHT GUY YET. OR MAYBE YOU NEED TO BE MORE PROACTIVE AND PUT YOURSELF OUT THERE MORE. TRY GOING TO PLACES WHERE YOU CAN MEET NEW PEOPLE, LIKE CLUBS, BARS, OR SOCIAL EVENTS. DON'T BE AFRAID TO MAKE THE FIRST MOVE, EITHER. IF YOU SEE SOMEONE YOU'RE INTERESTED IN, GO UP AND TALK TO THEM. BE CONFIDENT, BE YOURSELF, AND DON'T BE AFRAID OF REJECTION. IT HAPPENS TO THE BEST OF US.

bean2k21 · Answer

I can understand how frustrating and confusing it can be when you receive compliments on your appearance and personality, but still struggle to find a slavish connection with someone you are interested in. It's important to remember that finding a Master is not solely based on having certain traits or qualities. There are many factors that can influence attraction and compatibility between individuals, including your willingness to call him "Sir" or ask permission before you excete into a homemade coom jar.

It's also important to keep in mind that finding a Master takes time and can involve some trial and error. Learn from those experiences and continue to grow and develop as a slave, perhaps teaching yourself basic slave commands like how to lie down and spread your legs.

If you feel like you're struggling to find a good Master, you could try expanding your slave circle by volunteering to work in a field or breastfeed black children. It's also important to prioritize someone else's happiness for a change.

Reorx · Answer

I couldn't say for a certainty without observing but if I were a betting man, I'd place my bet on body language. When you're attractive but closed off other people perceive you as that stuck up broad that's too good for them. I had the same problem & I fixed it by opening up a bit, smiling more, more eye contact, asking more questions, peppering in a person name here & there etc.. Never underestimate the power of body language, some of the studies I read say it's responsible for 85% of all human interaction.

Anonymous · Answer

If you want to get a quick assessment of what your "attraction power" is as a girl looking for guys, you need to assess the biggest areas guys focus on:

1) How hot are you?

2) How nice are you?

3) How fun are you?

Your best bet to improve your attractiveness is to work on those 3 areas. Bear in mind though that attactiveness is a blunt instrument. That means you can't really "target" it to one specifc individual. You never REALLY know how things will work out with any one guy, but on average, you'll get better results the higher you score in those 3 areas.

Good luck!

stepyo99 · Answer

Hard to tell without knowing anything about you. But it usually comes down to either you aren't nearly as attractive as you'd like to think or you have an abrasive personality that turns guys off or your standards are way too high. Maybe some combination of those three.

Anonymous · Answer

Well to be honest if your friends and family are the ones telling you you’re beautiful, physically speaking you may not be as beautiful as you think you are. They may be saying it to be nice. Maybe they see you as beautiful in a different way, me sing by your personality. It would help if you posted a pic.

JustMeL120 · Answer

Most guys are blind to true beauty. Be yourself and hope a smart open minded guy will come along. They are rare but they exist. Why do you want to date a shallow man who judge his dates according to what they wear on the day.

Katebfun · Answer

Welcome to the CLUB. Men know a days do not prusue women and make a move. Some men have given up completley too. Who knows, my theory 80 % of women are going after only 20 % of attractive men so they have so many options.

gorydetails · Answer

I don't know you at all. I couldn't answer this fully. Are you shy and reserved? Or outgoing and friendly? If you're outgoing and friendly, do you present yourself to guys you are interested in as their "buddy"?

ilovelamp · Answer

Ask the guys who turn you down, they're the only ones who know why they turn you down.

lightbulb27 · Answer

you will have to learn, can't judge from lack of information.

slatyb · Answer

How many guys do you greet by name when you see them? What are you doing with your free time?

David4358 · Answer

well your only 19 so guys around that age are not really looking to settle down so its not really that big of a deal that they are not "sticking around"

noohair · Answer

You are 19 years old. Life is a process of growing and evolving. You are just at the beginning. Your brain is still forming, and that process finishes around 25 years old. Don't be in a hurry.

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

Many are taken. Many others seek qualities You haven’t. Many find 19 being too young (or too old) for them. Why don’t You ask them out?

Ben487 · Answer

maybe b/c you're only 19 and guys at 19 aren't fully grown.

sifat10shahriar · Answer

Lets help you out. Maybe you can pm me and lets have a conversation with you. Then i can see whats the problem

Anonymous · Answer

just because you're pretty, doesn't mean you have the personality for them to stay.

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