He’s saying he wants to step up and be a dad? Do I trust it?

[Anonymous]

I’m 22 and he’s 26 and I told him I’m pregnant and he was over the moon and then he was so upset about it. He said he wanted to kill himself and didn’t wanna live and was angry and aggressive and I guess me i took it literal as I always take things literal. He was screaming crying and just angry about it all and threatening to kill himself because he can’t bear being a bad dad but he’s not ready at the same time so I stopped answering for a week and gave him time to think. after a week He’s asking to see me though and sort things out so that we can be on good terms because he’s came to terms that he was angry and that he wants to see his kid and that he can’t bear with himself to be a dead beat dad since he never had one. I was just really horrified the way he was so angry at me and threatening at first would I be stupid to let him around HIS own kid? I know he was angry and it was a big shock to the system since I only said last week I’m keeping it but is this a normal reaction from a person who is scared to be a dad?

[Anonymous]

It's understandable that you may be feeling hesitant and unsure about how to proceed given your boyfriend's initial reaction to the news of the pregnancy. It's important to prioritize your own emotional and physical well-being, as well as the well-being of your unborn child.

While it's possible that your boyfriend's initial reaction may have been due to fear and anxiety about becoming a parent, it's important to take his threats seriously and to ensure that you and your child are safe. It may be helpful to seek the advice of a trusted friend, family member, or professional, such as a counselor or therapist, to help you navigate this situation.

If you do decide to let your boyfriend be involved in the child's life, it's important to set clear boundaries and expectations, and to communicate openly and honestly about your concerns and needs. It may also be helpful to establish a co-parenting plan to ensure that both you and your boyfriend are on the same page when it comes to parenting responsibilities.

Ultimately, the decision of whether or not to involve your boyfriend in your child's life is a personal one that only you can make. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and the well-being of your child, and to seek support and guidance as needed.

[Gingerbread_GB]

Not normal. It sounds like bipolar disorder. He should seek mental health help.

A normal person may be afraid to be a dad; they might feel insecure; they might feel regret; they might ask you to get an abortion; they might ditch you; but they wouldn't want to kill themselves.

What you need to watch out for are quick mood swings and violence or threat of violence against himself, you or the baby.

[Asker]

I agree. I know he wasn’t going to kill himself I know he was just doing it as I do mental health nursing and I’ve always told him that when people say stuff like that it wounds me up and I take it very seriously. It’s just the fact he felt so comfortable to emotionally blackmail me. The baby isn’t due till novemeber but I’m really questioning if to just see his behaviour until then

[arodriguez664]

Is he going to therapy? Sounds like he really needs to go and work out some issues.

[Asker]

I know he’s been speaking to his family about the situation for the first time, usually if I wasn’t with child I would have taken him back straight away but since I want my child to be protected I’m very on the fence. I don’t think he’s dangerous at all but he just gets very angry and if worries me but I don’t think he is in therapy

[arodriguez664]

I totally understand. I wouldn't want my child to be victim to generational trauma I could have prevented. It just makes me think of Chris Brown how when he first hit Rihanna he talked about how he was so disappointed in himself cuz he watched his dad hit his mom and he never wanted to be that guy. And now he's been convicted of assaulting multiple girlfriends. So I wouldn't take him back unless he got therapy personally. If it was me

[Someonerandomgirllol]

Yes he clearly wants you as a wife and to commit his life with you

[Anonymous]

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