I feel like my boyfriend is stressed about me being pregnant what do I do?

[Anonymous]

When I first told him he was over the moon, then he turned quite horrible and was forcing me to get an abortion which I said no to and told him to leave me alone. He was very mentally unstable about it. Then I gave him 2 weeks to not speak to me and he turned around and said he wanted to be in the child’s life and that’s he’s sorry and that he can’t leave his child alone and not be there for me so then he asked to come round mine yesterday to speak to my parents about it and he never shown up? I tried calling a few times and he just hasn’t shown which is unlike him? He always answers his phone too? Do I just give him time and space? I feel like he’s really stressed about that I’m keeping the child? I invited him out of a kind gesture just to talk about things and he just did not show. I don’t wanna keep calling him and overwhelming him but I do need to speak to him about it as it’s a big thing and I need to ask him questions about the child. How do I handle a man who is stressed about this because I get that it’s a MASSIVE shock it’s bringing a child into the world.

[DownInTheDumps]

Give him space. Don't contact him. You need to focus on yourself and your baby. If you stress to much about this guy, It could end up leading to a miscarriage or you giving birth early. If he wants to be in the baby's life, he has your number and he knows where you live. Focus on yourself right now.

I'm advising you to focus on yourself and your pregnancy and not so much on this guy because as someone who just recently gave birth, I spent a lot of time focusing on my baby's dad and chasing him and basically begging him to be in our baby's life while I was pregnant that majority of my pregnancy I didn't get to enjoy because I was so focused on bub's dad in the end my baby ending up coming early and I grieve being pregnant. I wished my baby hadn't come early, I wish I had focused more on myself and my pregnancy than I did bub dad maybe my baby wouldn't have come early if I did.

[Pterodon]

Get an attorney and get court ordered child support and visitation scheduled now