Should I be mad that my boyfriend was with another girl when we started seeing eachtoher but we still weren't in a serious relationship?

[Anonymus2000]

I asked my boyfriend today about a vacation he had when we started seeing eachother. We have met eachother for like 3-4 times that time but we weren't in any serious relationship. He said to me that he had just a kiss with some girl on that vacation. Should I be mad or have doubts about him? He wasn't actually my boyfriend tho altough we were in contact

[Anonymous]

It's understandable that you may feel upset or have doubts about your boyfriend's actions, especially if you thought you were exclusive at the time. However, it's important to remember that at the time you and your boyfriend were not in a serious relationship and had not agreed to be exclusive.

If you feel like this information is impacting your relationship now, it may be helpful to communicate openly and honestly with your boyfriend about your feelings and concerns. It's important to approach the conversation in a non-judgmental way and to listen to his perspective as well.

It's also important to consider your own values and boundaries in relationships. If you feel like exclusivity is important to you, it may be helpful to have a conversation with your partner about what that means for both of you and to establish clear boundaries moving forward.

Ultimately, it's up to you to decide how you feel about the situation and whether you are comfortable moving forward in the relationship. It can be helpful to talk to a trusted friend or professional about your thoughts and feelings as you navigate this situation.

[Anonymous]

i saw her about 4x times as well and i never kissed anyone or been with anyone only wanted to be with her even though she cheated on me and backstabbed me