Any moms on here, I feel like I regret staying pregnant?

[Anonymous]

I’m 21 years old and I’m 17 weeks pregnant. Abortion is just not in the option I’ve heard the babies heart beat, know the gender and I just think he’s the cutest thing on the scan and I know that that option would push me into a deep depression. Everyone is so excited for me and I feel so depressed and down, I feel trapped. The father is just all over the place and bipolar and I feel trapped for my life. I love the father but he is just horrible sometimes I feel so trapped and I’m connected to the dad forever and that scares me sometimes as much as I love him it scares me. I feel so dark, I know this isn’t the place to post it but I don’t know any moms. All my friends have no children. I just feel suicidal I wouldn’t harm myself for my baby but everything is just going wrong because of just chosing the wrong man. I’m sad, when I’m with my friends I just feel like a normal 21 year old girl again and everything’s how it used to be minus the drinking. Has anyone felt like this, how is it being a mom? Will I still regret it when the baby is born. It’s hard as I don’t really know the baby yet I don’t feel kicks or anything so at the moment it still dosent feel real.

[BonnieBoo]

I didn’t want my son, I was pressured into keeping him by family. All I wanted was to be a normal 16yr old girl again hanging around with friends. I feel like my son has destroyed my whole life. In the end I did what I thought was the right thing at the time, I gave him up to his grandma she was able to give him the life that I couldn’t. He’s 20 now with a son of his own, I deeply regret giving him up but it was the right thing to do at the time. Now he wants me dead he hates me so much that he attacked me for no reason last time I saw him. Only you can decide what you’re going to do, don’t let other people pressure you to do something you don’t want to do eg, adoption etc. I’m not a doctor but it seems to me that you could have a little prenatal depression? Please see your doctor hun. I know how you’re feeling you feel trapped in this situation & don’t know what to do. Im not very good at giving advice but I hope this helps you. Only you can decide what to do, don’t let this situation ruin your life. Take care hun hope you’re ok I know it’s not a nice situation you’re in I’m sure you’ll work it out. 😊😊sending you big hugs xx

[Anonymous]

I have commented on every one of your posts telling you the same thing get rid of the guy and forget him. When I was pregnant I was abandoned by my baby's dad. I went through my pregnancy completely alone with almost no support. I don't have any friends and I didn't really have any family support either.

I didn't feel my baby first kicks or movements until I was around 24 or 26 weeks and they just felt like butterfly feelings in my stomach until I was further along and I could feel her pushing her butt and head against my insides and i could feel her hiccups. I had very bad reflux that didn't respond to any medication.

I felt suidical during my pregnancy and I had thoughts of even leaving my baby at the hospital as everything was also going wrong for me and it didn't help that I was also depressed and I also had a high risk pregnancy.

do I regret going through with my pregnancy no not at all I do regret having my sisters there in the delivery room as they screwed me over and ruined my moments and memories with my baby but I don't regret going through with the pregnancy. My baby is officially 6 weeks old and I am shocked at how fast she is growing up. You will get through this but you need to stop chasing the baby's dad because while ever you are chasing him you will continue to feel the way you do

[Anonymous]

I think you should talk to your doctor. I understand you have a lot going on right now, but add to that the effect that changing hormones is having on your body. It could be causing additional mood and thoughts. I'm sure your baby is healthy and you could be a good mother even without a man. Talk to your doctor and don't do anything rash. You need help and so does your baby.

[Apple1996]

Sounds like you might have prenatal depression/anxiety. It's somewhat normal especially for a first time mom to have these feelings of not being enough for the baby but once the baby comes you'll find your purpose and things will come together so try not to stress to bad. I doubt you'll feel any regret about going through with the pregnancy after you meet your sweet little baby.