I've done too much? What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Here's a tricky situation that I'm in. I've been long distance dating this girl for 7 months now and I truly feel as though we're in love with one another. We had an amazing first 5 months and the last two months have been a little rocky but the last week or so has been pretty good.

Here's the problem that I'm having.. I go all out for this girl. I don't talk to other women and I try my best to take care of her ($) and be there from her from a distance. The problem is that I feel like if I'm extending myself this much for this girl, I wouldn't want her to be talking to other guys. She tells me about the conversations that she has with other guys and it bothers me. She's recently got upset with me and said that maybe we should take a break (it isn't the first time that she's said this).. it troubles me because it makes me believe that she just wants to drop me to see if she can make things work with another guy and if not come back to me because I do so much for her. I hate this feeling. I don't like the feeling of being kinda disposable

I'm set to move closer to be with this girl in a couple of weeks. I would be changing my entire life for her and she does things that I don't like. She was in an abusive relationship before and the guy kinda kept her in check about talking to other men because I honestly feel like it's disrespectful. I feel like I shouldn't do so much for her if she's gonna act like this but if I pull back on doing things now, she's probably going to get upset with me. I'm not really sure on what I should do or how I should go about explaining this to her because anything that bring up something I don't like, she gets upset.

She also has very strict parents that don't let her leave the house or have a social life. So she kinda clings to anyone that is willing to have a conversation with her. I understand that talking to just one person all day can be tiring but boy.. it doesn't feel good. This is my first serious relationship and this is her 3rd.

[Xia1994]

Relationships are difficult it is not easy to find a partner who will match your energy and love you as much as you love them.

that girl is not ready for a relationship if she was she’d be all in and putting as much energy as you into y’all’s relationship.

I’m not going to tell you to end things with her that choice should be yours to make, but do know that she definitely is not the only woman in the world there are many women who would be a farrrr better match for you and who will put as much effort as you into building a relationship with you!.

You just have to go find her which may not be easy but if you want a relationship and you’re ready to deal with the challenges of being a relationship then it will all be with it. Also, to be fair nothing ever comes easy in this world!.

Also, you sound like you really like her but if you do end up leaving her just remember that heartbreak is a part of life, you’ll be fine eventually after y’all break up only if you allow yourself as much time as you need to heal from the breakup and then when you are ready you can go find your fish 🐟 🎣 in the large sea containing manyyyyy different kinds of women!

good-luck with it all, and do choose wisely!.

choose wisely!

[Xia1994]

It will all be worth it*

[Asker]

What you said is true, relationships aren’t easy. It’s difficult to find someone that you get along with and someone that you share values with. We’re also at different levels of preparedness for a relationship (traumas and other baggages).

I feel like she’s ready but she’s struggling with being in the house alone for so long and she’s craving the presence of other people, that’s what I feel like. She pushes me away but the thought of me leaving her makes me really sad. I know that she loves me.

I know, there are plenty of women in the world but I would feel regret if I didn’t try to make things work with her first.

You’re right. Nothing in this world comes easy. I think that I can deal with some of the issues that come along with relationships because I know that they’re going to be present with almost everyone.

I do really like her. I don’t want her to be a lesson. I don’t want for things to end. I will do my best to choose wisely and I’ll be seeking help from the Man upstairs!

Thank you for taking the time to share with me your perspective on everything :)

[Xia1994]

You're welcome, I will keep you in my prayers Jesus will Guide you through!. He is a farrr better judge than I can ever be and if you have Him on your side then you will always be on the right track. Trust in Him, Let Him take the steering wheel and Direct your life!.

If God decides that she is not the one for you then it means God will send you the woman that he made just for you, to suit you and to be you're partner!.

[Asker]

AHH! A fellow follower of Christ!! Thank you so much. I thank the Lord for using you to share this wisdom with me. I will undoubtedly be seeking Him to see if it's His will for me. I want nothing more than for the Lord to lead me, guide, and direct me. I pray that He does the same in your life, all the days of your life. I agree 100% if the Lord sees that she isn't the one we must both take in stride. She is also a believe and in fact we're about to read the Word together :). Thanks again for reading this. May the Lord continue to bless you and watch over you in Jesus mighty name. Amen!

[Xia1994]

Amen!, May the Lord watch over you and protect you as well 💞!. Reading this filled my heart with happiness because I know how beautiful your life will be with Christ by your side!. May he bless you and be with you always!. Thank you and Take care!. In Jesus name Amen!.