My boyfriend dosent see me in the day and I don’t actually know what to do?

[xolaurenxx]

I’ve been seeing him for 6 months and he NEVER sees me in the day, it’s not even like he’s up to something he FaceTimes me all day and he does say he’s at work as he is sinc him and his friends have there own business so he can chose when he wants to stop but I understand he’s making money but at least make time for me? He’ll come home at 10pm or sometimes at like 11 and this happens all the time. I get he’s busy but he can LITERALLY chose to stop working and spend time with me. I’m very easy on him and I let him just come at 10-11 at night as I like spending time with him but I feel like an owl? I have to wait up and I’m tired sometimes it’s even 1am it’s a bit ridicolous. I would think there’s another woman but he literally calls me every second so none of it makes sense. There has been the odd occasions he’ll come to see me early but that’s only a Sunday as he’s not at work. I complain about it and nothing changes shall I change my style of what I say and not nag. Shall I just refuse to let him round until we go out in the day or is this just manipulation.

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1 y

I’m also carrying his baby so it’s not like I can actually go and explore other people to make him realise

[Screenwriter]

When he comes over at 10 pm, just what occurs? Does he simply spend the night? Do you ever go out and do anything during the day?

This doesn't sound right. Why should you have to wait on him appearing at night everytime he comes by?

Since nothing has changed and you allow this to continue, why do you think he would change. Since you've accepted this arrangement, he has no reason to change.

You have to make the decision to allow this to continue or to call a stop to it and look elsewhere. He wants you to fit into whatever it is he's doing and hasn't made any effort to be with you during daylight hours. You've said it. He can CHOOSE to stop his work at any time, but he doesn't.

I don't know that he doesn't have another woman or situation elsewhere. Sounds like you're just a fuck buddy. WHy do you allow him to come over or wait for him until you're tired. He doesn't inconvenience himself for you, does he?

This is too one sided. WHy are you putting up with this?

[Anonymous]

I saw in the other comment that you wouldn’t stay if it weren’t for you being pregnant and let me just say girl that is the quickest way to waste your time that you can never get back. Like the other dude said, your man’s isn’t going to change so you either stay or go. I get wanting a two family household or whatever but sometimes it doesn’t work like that, you can still coparent and be just as involved.

[OlderAndWiser]

You have no reason to expect that he will ever change his behavior. Getting pregnant was a catastrophically horrible decision. Your greatest obligation now is to your unborn child. Do what is right for your child. You may have regrets later, but you will have even more regrets if you don’t put your child first.

[slatyb]

Assuming it's not going to change, are you willing to continue in the relationshi?

[xolaurenxx]

No I wouldn’t be if I wasn’t pregnant

[Screenwriter]

You have your answer. It's a difficult choice, but he doesn't sound like any sort of gift to you, or your coming child. This is sad that you're pregnant. But you need to make plans to make yourself and your coming child happy. You won't be happy with this man.