Boyfriend says he likes me a lot but he is not in love with me. What does it mean?

[Anonymous]

Well we have been together for 6 or 7 months. Since the beginning he keeps telling me he likes me a lot, that he finds me impressive and so on, but he is not in love with me. He had a relationship in the past that hurt him a lot and I guess he has some trust issues but I dont know exactly. Do you think it is possible he may fall in love with me later on or is it too late for that?

[MrOracle]

Since you (and some other women here) clearly don't understand, allow me to explain how the majority of men work:

The vast majority of men either develop romantic feelings towards a woman upon their first significant interaction (not always the first time they ever meet, but the first time they spend some time around each other), or they NEVER develop romantic feelings for that woman. I could say that "men fall in love right away" but that wouldn't really communicate things as clearly as the first sentence in this paragraph. It's very, very rare that men develop romantic feelings over time - men know RIGHT AWAY how they feel, even if they're not willing to admit it to others.

So, what your boyfriend is essentially saying is that he sees you as a friend, but your relationship is never going to be romantic from his side. Since I assume that you're looking for a romantic relationship, this means your only sensible move is to break up and move on.

And before you ask, you need to realize that most men don't need to have romantic feelings to get sexual with a woman, and if they're the kind who enjoy relationships, to get into a "casual" relationship with a woman they don't actually have romantic feelings for. It's not as good as an actual romantic relationship, for many men, it's a lot better than being alone. However, he's been honest and up-front the whole time, by telling you exactly what his feelings for you were and are.

Your options now are to either accept and be okay with a casual sex relationship, knowing it will never become more than that, or to end your relationship and move on. You will not change his mind - that's NOT an option, and you can't complain that he deceived you, because he was honest from the start. You have to take accountability for your choices, and accept the consequences of your choices.

[EricSummer]

This does not sound very good. I think you should insist on having a boyfriend who can give you love.

I do not know how you first started dating, but it seems that an attachment was not formed on his side. For many men that happens when there is sex too soon and too easily. If the couple then moves together it can get worse and there is closeness without a true emotional connection.

I think it cannot really be fixed in the same relationship, but rather in the next.

[Chikky]

You have to discuss whether he is planning on hearing and moving past his old relationship or not. And you should be planning on setting some boundaries yourself either to walk out or stay and hope on him reciprocating

[Daniela1982]

I think he loves the sex, but not you. It happens. If he has not fallen in love with you after all this time, he most likely never will. You will have to either live with it or move on.

[Bachorellete25]

I don't know I think it means he care for u and doesn't want to hurt u but maybe deep down he wants to leave. But it not all or nothing cause he cares and he really doesn't want to hurt u but perhaps he just not in love. I'm very sorry. I could be totally wrong but either way that must hurt to hear

[hbg84]

It means you're not the settle down and marry type. He doesn't see you that way. He likes you sure. But dont expect him to ever be more than a glorified best friend you have sex with. Most people know within a few weeks if they are in love with their SO. 7 months is a long time to be with someone he doesn't love

[Anonymous]

The real question is are you in love with him because if you aren't then you can easily just move on because after 6 or 7 months of being with someone there should be love there. If you are in love with him then you can wait for him to reciprocate those feelings or you can try to move on.

[Bklynbadboy12]

It means exactly what he said he likes you a lot but he doesn't love you. That's not a bad thing you don't fall in love with everybody you meet so you have a decision to make. You have to decide if you want to stay with a man that doesn't love you or are you gonna move on and find you a man that does love you. How long have you been with this guy

[Adam1978]

Not without you changing your ways. You need to get past his wall. Which requires time effort in showing your love for him. While completely ignoring other guys.

[Nik1hil]

Question here is,

"If he falls in love with you, what is the gaurantee that you will not leave him, hurt him in any way, till his death. So he does not gets hurts that badly again."

Give me a gaurantee!..

[richardcory]

He's being honest. He enjoys spending time with you but its not love. You need to decide whether you want to continue things, but at least you can make the choice knowing how he feels.

[Sasha0426]

I feel like those who have been hurt in past relationships are just using you because they don’t want to be alone. They want to be with you but at the same time don’t want to move forward.

[es20490446e]

It means he doesn't see you as girlfriend, but he doesn't want to say that so explicit that it could harm you.

[itsalyssaagain]

6 months is too long not to love someone you’re dating…

[itsalyssaagain]

People with trust issues will still fall in love.

[Kelly6]

like is that he likes your personality.

love is for sexual.

fyi love and sexual are not same

[ASVPcurtis]

Men typically want to see stability and loyalty, if you make him feel like he's replaceable or disposable he'll go into the she's not mine it's just my turn mindset.

[In_Trance]

Toxic is when they can't give you what you need, but won't let go of you either

[DextroShade]

It is on you to earn his commitment with your femininity, your cooperation, and your submission.

[Rahulaj]

Keep distance with him otherwise he will just use you and leave you alone

[Roger56]

He likes means he want some benefits from you and he don’t love you means he don’t want to share his life with you

[barn_stormer]

you're wasting you life

[justabuddy]

He likes you, but he's not serious about you.

[Anonymous]

You've been friend zoned.