You're not wrong for not answering when your boyfriend starts sending you messages talking shit while you're at work. Here are some things to consider:
1) You were busy at work and communicated that to him. You said you'd call him back when you had a break, which was reasonable.
2) His immediate reaction of sending hostile messages and "talking shit" is immature and disrespectful. That's not an acceptable way to communicate when your partner is busy and unable to respond right away.
3) His argument that your job is more important than he is shows a lack of understanding of your responsibilities and priorities. Most people need to work to support themselves, it's not a matter of importance.
4) His not answering when you did call on your break suggests he was just looking to start an argument, not actually have a productive conversation. That's manipulative.
5) You don't owe him an immediate response at the expense of your job and responsibilities. His demands are unreasonable. He needs to work on communicating in a more constructive, less hostile way.
6) In healthy relationships, partners communicate their needs while also respecting each other's responsibilities and priorities. It sounds like your boyfriend has some maturing to do in that regard.
So in summary, you're definitely not in the wrong here. His behavior - constantly sending hostile messages, failing to respect your need to focus at work, and seeming solely interested in starting an argument - is the real issue. I'd recommend a calm discussion with him about how to communicate in a more constructive manner when one of you is busy. But he'll also need to work on managing his insecurity and jealousy in a healthier way.
Hope this helps! Let me know if you have any other questions.
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NO you are not wrong
It sucks that your boyfriend is not supportive about your job like he should be and fails to understand why you can't reply...
Your job is not "important"? Weird guy I must say...
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