Now if you all have kids together that is a different story. It's always a good idea to remain somewhat cordial and friendly for the kids sake.
It depends on how you define friendship. I am still friends with most of my exes and I was never able to maintain that right after breaking up, we both needed time to heal and move on. However when I say that we are friends it is more along the lines of that we are on good terms, can be in the same room together and have a conversation, and are able to text the other person if we need something but I do not actively go out of my way to talk to them or hang out with them nor do they with me. I think the last time I messaged an ex was maybe a year ago to see if he and his girlfriend wanted tickets to a concert since my boyfriend and I couldn’t go, the other time was him asking where somewhere was so he could go with his girlfriend lol. So if anything they are more like just another acquaintance at this point and while some of them I do still care about as a person it is no longer romantic in nature, so while I did love them at one point I no longer have romantic feelings
I can’t be just friends with a man I used to sleep with and someone who I loved as intensely as I loved him.
I can’t picture staying friends with my ex without having feelings and he couldn’t picture it either. Hence, why we are not friends.
And I would rather stay single than be with someone who’s still friends with an ex.
I do care for him, he does care for me. But we are not friends and we will never be.
People that hold on to their exes are people that shouldn’t be pursuing other people period. It’s disrespectful and immature , when a girl compares me to her ex or other guys I am on my way to the next girl that doesn’t talk about her exes period
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I won’t jump into a relationship with someone I’m not in love with. So if things didn’t work out, I can remain civil with them coz after all he was once one of the most important people in my life. We shared good times too. So there.
My ex-wife and I are still civil towards each other. Our kids are grown so that's not what's important. Our divorce was amicable. We had a good 20+ years of marriage and it's okay to remember that.
That's not true- it just means you have moved on but still have something in common with them.
I voted neither. You can friendly with an ex but not real friends.
The problem is both of you crossed a line that there is no turning back from. There is almost a 100% likelihood that one of you has more lingering “what ifs” than the other.
I think its okay to communicate and get closure about past wrongs out of principle and for a peace of mind. That is if you are both mature enough to do so. But it needs to come from a place of knowing that being reunited isn’t going to happen and you have to accept that. There can’t be any other incentive for having that conversation besides getting closure.
Also many people nowadays believe that it’s best to completely rid yourself and all memories of an ex. That’s definitely appropriate if there was legit abuse going on (physical, cheating, theft, etc.). But if that’s not the case that can be cruel. This is someone you shared a good part of your life with. You can close the chapter in the book but that doesn’t mean ripping out the pages.
Anyway I say “legit” abuse because some people equate amorphous “emotional” abuse with real abuse (e. g. Jonah Hill’s ex). In that case she’s actually the real abuser for trying to destroy his reputation. They definitely shouldn’t talk at all after her pathetic “victim” insanity. Same for the amber herds out there.
I would say False, and respond to the contrary. It''s the opposite of what the question proposes: If you're UNABLE to be friends with your ex you were NEVER actually in love with them, because you didn't get to know them well enough to actually love them.
What happened was you were infatuated with an IDEAL that you IMAGINED, and when the actual person started to break through that façade, distance began to be created.
Falling in love, real, actual love with a person requires that you actually know who that person is. Most people don't do that. They meet a person and push a bunch of their illusions on that person, place them on a pedestal of expectations, then get butthurt when that person turns out to not be the perfect illusion they were trying to create.
People that hate on their exes make me laugh. They never knew what love was in the first place.
Neither and or, depending on the particulars and a ridiculous propensity for thinking about such issues in terms of only's and absolutes.
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Whoever said that no sugar, means no friendship, has raisins in their 🧠-case. No relationship dynamic has a monopoly on friendship, and these ideas of being freind's, or being something else-without consideration to the circumstances and individual needs and feelings of the people involved, l are limiting to the potential of human social development and growth, and should never be imposed on anyone for any reason. If you are intimate with someone who is not your friend, than you are probably with that person for the wrong reasons.
If you are not on good terms with someone you used to be in love with, than that is most unfortunate for both of you. Parting under such circumstances is not healthy, and should never be embraced as the social conventional norm. If it's the established Norm in today's society, then that is sick, a pestilence, that must not be embraced or accepted, but rooted out of statistical normalcy-or was that malignancy👉🤔💨✨💫🧠💫✨ like any cancer should be, to change society for the better.
If you're not able to be friends with your ex then it was a mistake for you to ever be together in the first place. If you can't be friends, then you should never have tried to be lovers.
If your relationship is based on primal, skin deep considerations only, then don't bother getting to know each other's last names, and use protection when in bed, and don't share an apartment together.
I disagree, my ex husband and the father of my children I don’t believe I ever loved him. If I could I wouldn’t even be civil with him but that’s a long story. The man I was with after I divorced I loved but our relationship was toxic, I still care about him and truly wish him the best but I am no longer in love with him and I have no desire to ever get back with him.
There are folks who can end cordially. Some people have easygoing relationships where no one was super hot or super cold. They started out as friends. Love grew from that. The love wore itself out, and they could remain friends.
I don't know how often it happens, but I think it's a realistic possibility.
me and my ex are not friends. everytime he sees me it seems he is seeinh a ghost but i try to smile. i want him and i have ok relationship. not close friends but at least we can smile even fake smile at each other. i do not love him anymore but i carw.
I think after a relationship ends part of you always remains with that other person since you gave your heart to them for the time (unless you a playa). And so you’re not gonna stop caring about them - part of you will always care for them. You don’t need to be in love with someone to care about them - and being in love is different to having love for someone. If you love someone it’s not the same as being IN love. And tbh that’s the tldr answer!!
No, I have a good friend who I was in a relationship with. She's a cool chick and we broke up over the kid thing (she wanted them I didn't). But it was amicable, she went on to marry a guy and have a very nice son. I went back to my ex wife. But we stayed in touch and went to coffee now and again, until she moved out of state. the part of her that attracted me to her was still there, we just didn't work out as a couple.
I don't think there's a definite answer to that question, because you could still be in love with them or never in love with them in the first place.
I say it depends on how deep the love for the person went. Like some people like them and some fall deep for the person. For me, the last girl I liked I asked her out and she started dating a guy I knew. Me and the guy aren’t crazy friends to begin with but we’re friends. I was friends with him first. I still say hi to her to be nice. But I can’t just be friends with her because I was so deep in my feelings for her and she knew. But this other girl I talked to was really nice and all but my feelings were there but not as deep so I tried to stay friends but she couldn’t
me and my ex are still friends but just fuck buddies nothing else i dont want someone like him in my life again as in in a relashionship i get on better not loving him the 2 of us just humpingveach other and still watching movies having fun is all it is now a ain't going down that path again being friends sleeping together is how it stays nothing more
My sister and her ex are over each other. He's married and she's been dating another guy for about 5 years. It took a while before they became friends again. Part of it could be that he lives in Georgia and she lives in Texas so they don't really come in contact.
Patently false. Not all relationships work as relationships. That doesn't mean there wasn't love or there shouldn't be friendship.
People do grow and mature in different ways. You could get along with someone now, but their circumstances make them different from you over time.
It's one reason the Christians ideal of "marriage till death" was so flawed and rarely works out these days.
False i have fallen out of love of one my ex boyfriend but my ex boyfriend is still in love with me. i'm not be intersted in him since he did cheated and did ask to have more then one girlfriend that was while i was in my final year of college.
Well, I've never been "in love" so I guess that part might apply to me, but if I enjoy her company and it turns out that we do not click romantically I am not wired to suddenly despise he like so many seem to be.
I know from first hand experience. My ex dumped me and he's my best friend. 3 months later, here we are happy together as ever.
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