I've been dating a woman for 3 months. Things started fast, but have steadied out over the past month. I feel like we are where we should be. I drive 90 minutes to see her every weekend. Text her every day. Talk to her every night.
She was much more into me than I was her, but that's not to say I wasn't into her at all. She told me she loved me on the second date. I couldn't say it back but she respected that. She's been much more vocally affectionate than I have. But I've been far more physically affectionate.
A couple of weeks ago, we went to London and shared the same bed for the first time. We were soo excited and happy to spend the entire night together. It turned out she wasn't well that night and I sat up with her for hours stroking her back comforting her. We still enjoyed each others company.
I saw her last weekend and I thought things were good but she was a little more distant than usual. Monday she didn't respond to any of my texts or calls. I got trapped in the spiral worrying that something had happened to her, so at 10pm I set out to go and check on her even though I had work early. A hour into my journey she called back and told me she was OK and to go home, which I did although I told her I was upset.
Next day she called and told me she wanted space. I didn't understand why, and she wouldn't tell me. I thought space meant rather than talk every day, we talk 3 or 4 days a week. But she's continued to call and text me since and we have made plans for the weekend.
I've noticed she has stopped being as vocally affectionate I'm the last week. Last night she disclosed to me more space meant break up. She was shocked that I didn't know this. She wouldn't tell me why, or what I did. She wants to "start the relationship again from the start", like we don't know each other. Like we're going on the first date again. I don't understand. I told her I don't like it, and I don't want to be friends. She begged we try. I agreed, but I don't know where we stand.
