Do you feel understood by anyone in your life?

[Anonymous]

Part of me feels silly or gross for wanting it so much. I try really hard to form meaningful relationships but it’s like pulling teeth for some reason. Sometimes being alive feels like a mistake and I’m so tired and exhausted from trying to find things to fill the void.

[_Maya_]

Yeah. As far as it relates to relationships mine is pretty new but I think we are both on the same page and understand each other. Besides that my parents certainly understand who I am and what I am trying to achieve in my life. Same goes for my sister. I cannot speak for all my friends but I would say the closest ones of mine definitely understand me. With any partner I wouldn't be with them if they didn't understand who I was and what I was about as a person.

[Asker]

Did you have any difficulty forming your relationships or was it seamless? And at what point of your friendships did you feel understood? I feel like I’ve missed something fundamental growing up.

[_Maya_]

There are always some growing pains getting into romantic relationships. You have to discover the person and not everything you are going to find is going to be perfect. It is about learning whether you can look past some things. As for friendships those kinda develop over time. Most of my closest friends I have known since I was a lot younger.

[Asker]

Growing pains are expected and I don’t think perfection exists but it doesn’t feel like relationships are as accessible to me, romantic or otherwise. When I think about my life it just feels like 30 years of emptiness. It’s like natural selection has it out for me.

[LazerBean]

Yeah. By family, close friends, and especially my husband.

[Asker]

Glad you feel understood. Can you recall at what point you felt particularly understood by friends?

[LunarEclipse433]

Heck no. Most of the time I stay quiet because I feel my opinion doesn’t matter.

[Asker]

How long have you felt this way?

[LunarEclipse433]

For a long time. Most of the time I am fine with it. I don’t have to be the center of attention

[Asker]

Neither do I but I’d like to know someone wants to understand me.