He called me the prostitute, now he is the one giving me the silent treatment?

[hanifa]

iv been with my boyfriend for 3 years now, we have a very healthy relationship, we are like best friends more then partners, as usual we always joke 2 days ago we were joking and he called me a prostitute, it started of as a joke and I took it as a joke at first when he started to over do it, I told him "OK I'm not laughing any more, its upsetting me and its hurting me" he responded back by saying " its not his fault that's the truth hurts and I'm in denial" he continued to call me a prostitute and went to the extent of saying "how I should promote my jobs by advertising it and he will help me" by this point it went further then a joke and I was telling him how I'm not liking this joke, he kept on reminding me that he wasn't joking about thinking I'm a prostitute, and he wouldn't say sorry for telling me the truth, this really hurt my feeling and I put the phone down hurt and tearful, we then texted me with a song he made up about me being easy, I love him so much and forgive him as hurt as I was, the next day I didn't message him all day but called him at night he didn't pick up, the next day I tired again to call him and message him but he hasn't replied back to anything, its been 2 days now and I haven't heard from him, I just don't understand him his the one who hurt me and made me upset then why is he the one who's giving me the silent treatment? I'm going crazy cause I don't know why his acting like that? in the past he has given me silent treatments but iv always begged him, said sorry countless of time and always made it up to him, even with things that wasn't my fault. help me please as I'm going crazy what I'm I meant to do, has he walked aways, is he coming back this time, but I haven't done anything wrong, what I'm I meant to do I just want him to come back, I do everything he wants never put myself first always him then why, why treat me like this, does he even love me, we have been together 3 year and barely have arguments, then why give me the silent treatment for a mistake that he made

[Darkfairie17]

I would stop talking to him, don't try to contact him or reach him in anyway. I know its going to be hard, but he isn't respecting you at all. Why should you be the one who has to apologize when he was the person who instigated the argument and took it too far. He is being a jerk and isn't thinking about how you feel at all. He seems to only care about himself and wants to make you apologize and make up for something he did. Sounds like he is taking a power trip and he doesn't sound like a very nice guy. He has done something like this before and I think this is a red flag. Why should you have to apologize every time he makes a mistake? If he really loved you, I think he would be trying really hard to make it up to you. But instead he is only ignoring you, this should show you just how much he cares.

I would find a guy who will care about you and not criticize how you carry your professional life. He doesn't sound like he is trying to help, but just to put you down.

Give him the silent treatment, if he still does not talk to you after a couple weeks, ask to talk, and if he doesn't respond just take that as it is over. Let him go if he is going to be that stubborn. People like that do not deserve to be in your life. If someone makes a mistake, they should be mature enough to own up to it and make ammends. Not ignore the person and think they should have to ask for forgiveness.

I actually had a friend do something like that. She dated a friend of mine and they broke up. Now she is telling us who we can and cannot be friends with. Well we were not going to take that and basically told her we are not picking and choosing who we hang out with just because she does not approve. She now ignores us and I am not reaching out to her, she needs to grow up. And so does your boyfriend. He sounds so immature. I just hope you find the strength to let him go until he decides to grow up. You shouldn't have to go through this every time you two have a fight. Nothing is always your fault!

[toulouse]

what is it you do for work? and why would you forgive him. its not as tho he was hurt and angry and said it by accident but didn't men it. he kept badgering you with it even tho you told him to stop. why would you even be speaking with him, what a f***ing sh*t.

problem tho is that you are not respecting yourself here. WHY would you forgive him. people forgive when someone is sorry. you can not forgive someone who does not even give a sh*t grow a back bone and leave his ass.

btw why is he saying your job is a prostitute- what the hell do you do? I mean if you ARE a prostitute he still shouldn't tease you if you ask him to stop. but I'm just trying to figure out why he would call you a prostitute? of all things..

anyways es a sh*t, he sounds emotionally 6, and abusively over any number which is already too much.

[fascination_streak]

You are right, you didn't do anything wrong so stick to your principles. He carried it too far and it wound up hurting you. He should be able to discern when enough is enough. Why should you be the one to beg forgiveness to make peace? He should be doing that!

I think he is on a little power trip here. He doesn't want to own up to his actions. He may be used to you making amends no matter what and once again he is holding out for that. I wouldn't contact him as hard as it will be. Let him be the one to wonder WHY you aren't seeking him out. He will contact you. I seriously doubt he will terminate a 3 year relationship over something so petty. When he does contact you, try to reach a compromise on how you both can move past the trivial things quickly.

Be well.

[Anonymous]

This is messed up. He gives you the silent treatment and you have to apoligize to him for stuff he did to you. Your boyfriend is super immature and emotionally abusive, I am sorry to say. Stop chasing him and move on to a nice guy. You love him but he does not deserve your love. The sooner you leave him th e sooner you will be over him.

[Anonymous]

I was with someone like that beforw.. as in the personality.. wverytine we have a fight, he will act like he is the victim and i have to apologize.. He became like that all the time and victimised himself, and make me feel bad, instead of reflecting of his wrong. I blame myself for treating him like that to start with, and it became habit on his side.
I dont think he love you if he call u prostitute and dont even apologize for it. He is looking down at you. You should stay away from him.