Your relationship is building slow and they are going to call it quits. Do you wish you had more time?

[YesterdaysChild]

Things have practically have ground to a halt. You are afraid if it doesn't pick up that it will be over. Do you think to yourself, "If only I had more time we could make this work?"

[TheSpaceGnome]

What do you mean by slow or halted? I don't understand.

Either a couple enjoys spending time together and loves eachother, or they don't. Whats all this nonsense about speed? Who are you trying to beat? And to what finish line? And for what reason?

[YesterdaysChild]

@thespacegnome Simple! Some relationships start out but then move on very slowly. Almost to the point of not really having a so-called relationship. Some people like to go fast, but hardly even know the person's name before they have sex. In my opinion slow is better. Some don't agree and tend to bow out before getting to the good part because they want it all - now! Do you get it now?

[TheSpaceGnome]

No, I don't get it. You basically just said the same thing but reworded. Move on to what? isn't the relationship itself the "end goal/finish line" you get to from being strangers? (strangers, then acquaintances, then friends, then best friends, then in a relationship).

Once in a relationship, the couple has already vetted eachother as a perfect match, and the goal of marriage is already decided and planned out, because the friendship portion lasted a few years to sniff out any possible incompatibilities. So my question is what specifically needs to move? What is slow once you're already a couple? Whats not decided upon yet?

[YesterdaysChild]

You apparently didn't read the question through.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I did actually, my question still stands.

[provokeesmokee]

I was the dumper in a relationship like this.

No amount of time can fix anxious avoidant behaviour. Only therapy and self-awareness can.

I have it all the time and attempts at communicating as I could. It wasn't ever going to work out.

[YesterdaysChild]

Sometimes no attempts are going to be fruitful. All you can do is move on.

[exitseven]

Wow, I can remember this playing on the radio while I was driving to rhe shore with my parents. My brother and I were really little kids.

[YesterdaysChild]

I don't remember the year that came out but it sounded like it would go with my question.