I want to end a long term relationship because of his alcohol problems and bad temper but he refuses to leave my home?

[Anonymous]

Long story short. Current home is in my name. I've tried for years to make this work with him but things have got so bad. He needs professional help but denies he does. He is a binge drinker and I would often find him passed out when i come in work while looking after our two children (age12+14) He has developed a bad temper over the last 10 years or so. Will apologise promise not to do it again bring flowers etc etc. Then it will happen again. I'm at the end of my tether and I just want to be left alone to live my life and re build my self confidence. I care for him as a friend and want us to be civilised adults for our children's sake. He is refusing to leave making life unbearable. I have been open and honest about how I feel but he just shuts me down and pretend everything is fine. I dont feel anything for him anymore. Nearly crying writing this. It's such a sad situation. Wondered of anyone had had any similar experience and could help me thanks

[XHopelessRomanticX]

Are you married? If so you need to speak with a divorce attorney asap. If not, you have the upper hand in most things legal.
If the house is in your name (as owner not renter) and you’re not married, he can be trespassed from the house. If it’s in your name as the renter, you need to get with your landlord and see if they can begin the eviction process. Many police agencies do not enforce evictions, that’s a job for a constable.
Second, I would look into getting an order of protection (restraining order). You should also find out everything you need to know in regards to custody. If he has an alcohol problem, document everything.

[exitseven]

I am sorry you have to deal with this. You need to speak to an attorney to find out what your rights are. I imagine that they might be different than they are in the US.
Also you need to mentally prepare yourself and make up your mind that once you start down this path, you need to follow it until the end

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[loveslongnails]

Get a lawyer, that's the first thing. It's my understanding the UK does NOT have common law marriage, so that's a good thing. However, since there are kids involved, it's going to be messy, even though the house is in your name. You definitely need a good barrister to talk with before you take any action.

[Ironic_Method]

You gotta do what's best for you and your children. I had an abusive step dad with a temper and it got pretty bad. He passed away a decade ago, but it would have been better for my mom to leave.

[DextroShade]

Sounds like you fucked up by having kids with this loser. All you can do is call the cops to get him to leave, I would wait until he is drunk to do so then they will be more likely to remove him.

[Sparkie460]

If he won't leave on his own you need to call the police and have him removed. You might also want to talk to a lawyer and get a restraining order against him

[FunkyMonkee]

Have you ever heard of, the police? Not the rock band, the legal entity!

[Anonymous]

file for divorce get a restraining order and have eviction papers served to him once you show the courts the house is in your name only

[boggboss]

Tell him to leave or u will call the police

[vj0090]

Can I text in private?

[CubaPirate]

Time to take court action then

[Anonymous]

Get him heated then eliminate him in self defense

[provokeesmokee]

Get a lawyer. Now.

[slatyb]

Call a lawyer.

[fuddly]

Ask him to attend AA