Is it normal to doubt if you want kids? (Page 2)

[butterly248]

You have to really think this through. Please speak to your boyfriend and your family. There are lots of options and helplines. You are not alone ❤️

[anon1903]

Sounds very normal. I hope you overcome your fear soon.

[Akam93]

I would just take the plan b and kill it. Your not ready obviously.

[AnusNdaPainus]

I don’t want any but as I come into my prime my body keeps trying to have them

[Guido]

Talk to your boyfriend. It is something the 2 of you need to decide together.

[andy530]

Yes this happens even after having them sometimes it’s just a part of parenthood

[artgorgeous]

Have a kid. First kid you must have.

[Asker]

Why?

[artgorgeous]

Because it's the first kid. There might be no other chance to have another kiss, so you need to have at least one. No one knows what happens after abortion for example.

[artgorgeous]

kiss = kid.

[Asker]

I’ve already had abortions before, it didn’t effect my fertility.

[anon1903]

If you've had abortions before.. does it mean motherhood doesn't interest you after all?

[PrincessAlis]

@anon1903 no it means they aren't interested in motherhood at the time of the abortion. They can have kids later or they can choose not to.

[artgorgeous]

@PrincessAlis Or they can't have kids later, because no one knows if the next abortion causes complications or not.

[PrincessAlis]

Pregnancy also can cause life altering complications plus the rate of complications from abortions is LOW especially compared to pregnancy.

[anon1903]

I am aware. But it adds up to their current story, so I'd to ask.

[Asker]

@anon1903 I’ve had 2 abortions. One when I was 18, one when I was 20. I’m disabled and at those times I was constantly in hospital, had no job, had no boyfriend and I was very sick. It was absolutely terrible timing to have a kid. But this time, I’m barely sick anymore, I’ve recovered a lot, I haven’t been in hospital in over a year, I’ve been in a relationship with my partner for just over 2 years, we have a house together and we both have jobs. I feel like it’s the right time to have a kid because the support is there, but it doesn’t stop me from still being scared.

[PrincessAlis]

Pregnancy is hard and it takes a toll on the body. its a lot of work and then birthing is difficult too but I hear a lot of mothers say they were so happy after the fact to hold the baby in their hands and to feel it growing. I understand that its scary, its normal since there's a lot at stake. You're not alone on that front.

There is a lot of resources for your concerns so I recommend going to reputable websites and speaking to a doctor for anything you're worried about. You should join an online community for some support!

Is it possible your disability could cause you higher risk of death or more undue hardship from the pregnancy? You have to be careful to take care of yourself too but it sounds like you're in a much better place overall to have a child.

[sheikalana]

Most normal thing ever.

[Drumlin2001]

What did he say when you told him?

[Jessikkaaa]

Congratulations on becoming a mommy

[Asker]

Is what I’m feeling normal though or is it a sign that I shouldn’t have kids if I’m doubting it?

[artgorgeous]

No doubts. You must have kids.

[Billybob46]

Very normal, I don't want any myself.

[Anonymous]

Pretty normal actually

[KrakenAttackin]

Troll.