Do you agree that physical attraction is the most important thing when choosing a partner - especially for marriage?

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I don’t think it is fair to tell people to compromise on this. I only consider someone if I am wowed by their face. My type is MENASA men with sharp facial features - particularly a sharp long nose. A strong jawline and nice wide big brown eyes (not round eyes) to top it would be lovely and then thick hair and a full beard and plump lips.

I’m not even that fussed about their body. They just shouldn’t be too thin and they shouldn’t be fat. I myself am very thin though I don’t go to the gym. I just go for walks sometimes because I don’t want to bulk up but I like maintaining my 24 inch waist. I have natural curves (wide hips/big bust).

I am of the age where aunties are expecting me to find a husband and it pisses me off when people say that looks are not everything or that one had to be willing to look beyond the physical. I think I should be able to ask for what I ask for because I myself have those features and I want someone who looks like me (looks similar to my dad). Even though I am fairly tall I don’t even ask for a tall man yet short girls get married to tall men and nobody says anything to them. I’m find with someone who is an inch taller - since I am 5’7 I have a minimum requirement of 5’8.

Why do people try and pressure girls to compromise on their taste? I don’t even ask for much. Girls check a man’s car and bank balance. I don’t even care if he doesn’t have a car, I just ask that I should be attracted to him - that he should have similar phenotype as me.

TipsyFr · Accepted Answer

Completely agree, looks are very important and I definitely don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t find me attractive. Obviously looks ain’t the only factor here but it’s the first thing you see in someone, sure some women need to lower their standards but looks shouldn’t be part of it unless you have seriously high standards. Your standards seem perfectly normal to me. unless your in a highly dense city with great public transportation, you might want him to have a car though it’s not much to ask for either in my opinion 😂

Mr1derful · Accepted Answer

I def agree to an extent! Physical attraction for me usually comes first, sorry to sound shallow. But if I’m not attracted then I never want to even try to go further.

ohsheeT · Answer

I do like physical attraction yes but what I like more is somebody that's confident as a beautiful heart is kind considerate smart intelligent has wisdom can speak with her eyes or her smile doesn't get in other people's business because judge people and she's happy.
And once I get to know her from the inside then I will actually take a look at her on the outside and say wow.. and you also beautiful..

Like they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder I need to see it from the inside first because that's the real person that's the person you're going to date that's the person you're going to marry and be with that's the person that you're going to communicate with each and every day that's the real person

If I was just to look at physical attraction.
For me that would just be a total waste of time I have seen the most and I have meant the most beautiful women

And 5 minutes into the conversation I want to leave I want to get away from them because they are somewhat ugly on the inside the only place ugly can come from by the way but no it's more about who the person is the outside is just all an extra bonus

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

You have a right to like whatever you like.

If my experience showed me anything so far, is that looks really don’t mean much.

Last time, I dated someone who looked like a Viking,

but so what?

He wanted to sleep with me as soon as possible, that’s the reason why we didn’t work out.

My mom told me “Now you can finally quit judging men by their looks. You aren’t an angel either.”

It deeply resonated with me.

When something proves to be unsuccessful , you should change the way you do it.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

No, I don't agree that physical attraction is THE most important thing in selecting a partner. I think being physically attracted is an absolutely essential ingredient but, by itself, quite insufficient. There are other qualities that are just as important

Pinay_ako · Answer

For marriage? Long lasting relationships aren’t built on purely looks or physical attraction alone. Looks fade. There’s more to staying in love with another person than just what meets the eye.

MrOracle · Answer

No!

I'm not saying it's not a factor, but it's absolutely NOT the primary thing. If it was, then beautiful people would have great, lasting relationships - but that's not the case.

What should be the PRIMARY factors are: your partner's MORALS, VALUES, AND LIFE GOALS. Not matter how attractive your man is, if these things aren't in alignment, then his looks will mean NOTHING to you, and you will be miserable and will want to leave the relationship.

This isn't a secret - it plays out every day.

Look at Joe Jonas and Sophie Turner. Both very attractive and successful, and very misaligned morals, values and life goals. And now they are divorcing.

WhereIsMyMind · Answer

I just like to have an initial attraction to someone, as humans we do of course need sexual attraction to some degree. But this could come in so many different ways, it could be their kind eyes, confident stance, engaging smile, etc.

But their personality really is what would keep me interested. It might be cliché to some but looks really aren't everything and if you marry a person, you're going to have to deal with their personality and their morals for as long as this union lasts. I would not want to be in a serious relationship with someone if they were not a nice person, even if their face looked like it was carved by angels.

HiveBee · Answer

I don't want to be with someone that is not attractive. That is a very painful idea. The idea of being trapped in a marriage with someone I don't even like to look at.

She doesn't need to be a 10. Just cute enough for me.

But theirs plenty of attractive women. I have plenty to choose from.

Seems to me like women are not as attracted to most men the way it is in reverse.

It might be a detriment to you to try to find an attractive man. Apparently we are kind of rare. I'm not sure.

MiddleAgedClimbee · Answer

I think physical attraction is important, as it is often what draws you to notice another individual. I think having a healthy, sexual relationship in a marriage is also very important. What's important to know, is that we all will not retain our youthful and vibrant appearance for our entire lives. I believe you can still be sexually attracted to another person, regardless of how you have aged. It's a bond and a desire, that forms as the years pass.
Staying fit and healthy certainly helps you retain those physical desires, as well as have the energy to fulfill those desires.

Finchie40 · Answer

Attraction is important but not the only reason you should want to marry someone , A person’s heart and the chemistry and connection you have with that person is most important. If you marry someone just because you are physically attracted to them, then more than likely that marriage won’t last because no one stays attractive forever, but their heart does. So not only are you wasting your time , you are wasting theirs as well if you feel physical attraction is the only thing that makes you drawn to them. You will be in for a rude awakening if you have that mind set sorry to say. So again attraction is important but shouldn’t be the only reason ypu are with someone

Fireguy17 · Answer

Looks change over time, so what happens when mother nature kicks in and his receding hair line shows up,, his 6 pack turns into a spare Tyre, all sorts of things happen as you get older beyond your control.

Spit out 2 or 3 kids and your body goes through all sorts of changes.

Your once perky boobs are now not so perky after feeding your kids, your butt gets larger, your hormones are all sorts of screwed up, hot flashes.

There better be more to a relationship than just looks to keep you interested in your SO.

Otherwise there would be a lot more single people out there.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

I have always said physical attraction is the most important thing when you meet someone, but is the least important thing when it's time to break up with them. That being said, I think you can meet people that aren't exactly your type and they may overwhelm you with other compatibilities, maybe sexual, maybe you have the same hobbies, whatever it is. I have slept with over 200 women, and I can say with ease that the hottest ones were definitely not the most special ones to me. That's not to say the ugly ones were super special, but I would say the average hot girls that we had compatibility, we're much better than the super hot girls.

LazerBean · Answer

No, it is not the most important thing. It's important, but it is not the most important. In real life, nobody is telling women to marry unattractive men and women are not getting access to the bank information of men they are not married to. Those are not common problems at all. If your family is telling you these things, then it is likely because they think poorly of you and don't think you can get a man that is both attractive and good.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

That's a tough one, honestly. She could be 100% flawless aesthetically, but I wouldn't want to marry her if she was stupid or we had nothing in common. At the same time though, I also wouldn't want an intelligent girl that was ugly. I've heard people say they've stopped caring about physical attributes after they ended up liking other things about the person, but I'm not sure. I'm incredibly picky and I feel there are certain physical attributes I could not compromise on.

So I guess to answer your question I will say NO, because I think looks and personality are both equally important

monorprise · Answer

Seeing as it won't be particularly important for nearly all of your marriage , I wouldn't rate it as very high.

Certainly not higher than any other far more stable attribute like stable aspects of the personality, proven success via career, and at this day & age mere will to actually marry.
Nothing much matters if they are married to their feelings rather than you.

MrNameless · Answer

It's not the most important thing for a long-term relationship. Looks fad over time, but character matters way more. But if you're asking if you shouldn't get into a relationship with someone unless you're physically attracted to, that's fair enough.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I think physical attraction is the like a match, it's what ignites the flame, but it's our commonalities and compromise that take us the distance when it comes to long term/slow burn relationships and marriage.

EmyyWolf · Answer

Obviously!! ‼️ Otherwise how tf am I supposed to get wet? How tf am I supposed to look at him and get nervous or blush? If I don’t feel butterflies… I’m not spreading my legs. 🖕🖕🖕

magiusX26 · Answer

nope. that is the initial and superficial start. lacks substance though because looks fade for everyone. saying looks being most important for marriage is like saying how much peel there are on potatoes for potatoe salad. looks do not tell you personality, morals, how good or bad a person is, their hopes or dreams, their intelligence and wit, their wisdom and knowledge, their apptitudes, their physical prowesses, their physical capabilities, or the quality of a person.

Anonymous · Answer

70+% of marriages that are built on looks fail within 5 years. Statistical facts.

In countries, such as American society, people marry others quickly - "spouses" that are more friends with benefits than actual partners - because of lust founded off of appearance than anything of value (such as mutual likes, etc) and statistically end up divorced more than they end up with children that aren't fatherless bastards.

worldscolide · Answer

Not as much as other things. Physical attraction can only carry you so far. Looks fade. There has to be something more there when that happens. To marry for looks alone as stupidity and doomed to failure.

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