I kissed my new boyfriend for the first time and after the kiss I feel like I lost all the feelings. He is a terrible kisser. Should I tell him?

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He kiss like he is cleaning my teeth with his tongue and also sucked my lips so painfully.

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

Yes, communicate.

Best case scenario, no one has ever told him, he has no clue he's hurting you, and he will want to make kissing pleasurable and will be open to working on this.

Worst case scenario, he knows, thinks it's "alpha" and doesn't want to change. In which case, your call if he's someone you want to continue dating, let alone kissing.

I had this sort of talk with my first boyfriend and my first girlfriend - funnily enough, for the boyfriend I gave critique and from my girlfriend I got critique, lol. So I've been on both sides.

My ex boyfriend used to... Like put his whole mouth over my mouth AND even sometimes nose. It was so fucking weird and unpleasant. I told him what I didn't like, what I wanted to feel, and how he could accomplish that.

My ex girlfriend and I both had a bad habit of trying to maintain eye contact (we were both used to closing our eyes in response to the other person and we ended up chickening each other, lol), and she just quickly quipped "do you ever close your eyes" and I got the hint. We laughed about it.

Lots of people think sex and kissing and generally being intimate with someone you love is innate or instinctual. And for a lot of things, sure! But sometimes we all have little things we do that we think are fine, but others don't quite jive with.

Communicating and finding that comfy spot for you two is what being a couple is kinda all about. Building what you do together.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

Even people in their 60's sometimes need to be shown how to be a better kisser.
In fact, my last boyfriend had to learn to kiss me real slow and gentle just moving your heads slowly as well. He had never kissed a woman that way he told me. He said he always thought he should be passionate and breathe hard and be all over her lips. He loved the new, soft and gentle way and I could tell. Oh, and the tongue goes just a little bit inside the other person's mouth. You'll go to your dentist if you need your teeth cleaned 😁

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

No do not tell him, just tell him the chemistry is not right, for you. You thought it was there, but it is not. That you think it best for you at this time to stay single.

Thats basically what I do, when this happens. Yes, I have woman come back at me wanting more information, I just tell them that I am comfortable leaving it at chemistry.

Honestly, I just recently I had one woman want to break down everything to me and listened to her. Then she ended and wanted me to tell her my thoughts, I told her my thought are this, it's a chemistry for me it not right. I am not going to break someone down or tear them apart, I am not that type of person. I am not going to break people down or tear them apart... we tried it does work for me. It's about chemistry and I am sorry.

I thought everything was on good with her, but the sex was terrible. Like how to do tell someone that you are ending it because they are terrible in bed? Like it was terrible, and I am not going to tell her the details as to why, there is not right way or good way to say it, and I there is no way it would not hurt her feelings even more. There is just nothing to say at that point.

Meropatrick · Accepted Answer

Good then u will have someone to help u clean ur teeth. Jokes aside. U should tell him maybe he is used to an ex liking that. men are usually very gentle when they deal with women because they know women r much weaker. So I think he had an ex who liked it rough or her is just dumb. U should tell him to be gentler or dump him

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Haha, once I dated someone, he was from Asia and he kissed me as if he was going to suck my soul out,

I think he almost went as deep as my esophagus with his tongue. I almost gaged. That was weird as hell.

Not all Asians are like that though, I had a relationship with someone who was an amazing kisser.

Anonymous · Answer

Can you deal with it? If not tell him

And if he will not change/can't change, and you really can't deal with it leave him, this my seem a shallow reason but if this is something that is important to you it's your choice, but also remember that everyone has something bad and nobody is perfect

DizzyDesii · Answer

Lmao been there 🤣 I had to teach him how to kiss for it to finally improve. But yea he still wasn't what i hoped for at the end of the day

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Of course you should tell him. Why on Earth wouldn't you tell someone how to improve their kissing technique?

Sarahr123 · Answer

Ewww that’s so bad lol how can people be that bad 🤣🤣🤣

sheikalana · Answer

I've been in this situation once when I was a teen. I didn't want to hurt his feelings so I just dumped him.

babyboo069 · Answer

Yep you should because when I kissed my crush once, his mouth smelled like cigarette and weed and seriously it was so yuck. Felt like vomiting. I stopped kissing and told him on the spot. He explained why and stuff but I never kissed him again.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

If you lost your feelings for him simply because of one kiss, then obviously your relationship isn't based on anything serious or substantial.

Anonymous · Answer

why break up with someone when you can teach him how to kiss better? seeing your age, yeah this is a bit immature.

RingOfFire · Answer

Depends on whether he is worth the awkward conversation.

femalepretzelmaker · Answer

Yeah tell him I'm your new 👦bf and I'm a greT kisser muah!

YouKnowMe2 · Answer

Tell him the truth. Both of you will enjoy learning/teaching how to kiss.

musicbrain5 · Answer

Yes, tell him! Maybe you can teach him.

HelpfulWoman · Answer

Yes. Just talk to him about it.

Luopio27 · Answer

Girl's can teach, can they not?

Wise4myage · Answer

He needs to know the truth, so tell him.

fuddly · Answer

Tell him All off Check out his dad

MaxUsefull · Answer

Maybe you don't have chemistry

whistlingwh0res · Answer

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