If it's ok for a woman to wait until marriage to have sex then is it ok for a man not to want to spend money on her until she's his wife?

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MzAsh · Accepted Answer

Both choices are valid, but they’re not comparable. Physical intimacy involves personal boundaries, emotions, and physical well being. Financial decisions revolve around economic resources and personal values on money.

YesterdaysChild · Accepted Answer

If a man decides to take that route, I'm sure she will think him a skin flint and drop him in no time. I think most women would agree that the ball is always in his court.

Apple1996 · Answer

Money and sex are two different things. They should never be compared as similar things

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If you view dating and marriage as legalized prostitution, it makes sense.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I get where you're coming from but I think it's important to consider that a woman in this situation is likely to have a totally different view of sex than the guy.

It means something else to her in the context of a relationship, especially if she's a virgin.

The value of something depends on who it's being offered to. A woman's virginity and who they have sex with has an impact on their feminity just like how the woman a guy has sex with and other things have an effect on his masculinity. These things are important to both sexes.

No man wants to feel like less of a man, I'm pretty sure in the same general sense, no woman wants to feel like less of a woman.

I'm trying to say it seems like an apples to oranges comparison.

The way I see it it's like this:

The woman's virginity is obviously very important to her (at least, usually just before losing it), it takes a lot of discipline and self control to say no to something like that long enough to find a husband. It's a value she has as a result of her world view and it's I. Portant to her. So if it's not important to you as a man, you can either show her your way of thinking and accept whatever her reaction is or she's not for you, so stop wasting everyone's time and move on.

RespectfulGuy · Answer

About a decade or more ago, Singapore built 2 casinos.

What captured my attention was the license tendering process. One license, with three operators spending more than a million$ each on their proposals.

That day I learned what it means as "cost of investment": that some form of noticeable spending is necessary to achieve something big.

(eventually the government accepted two proposals and issues two licences instead of one.)

The answer to this question is: Marriage is like the license issued. But before issuing, the she may like to know if the man is "up to standard".

If he's not willing to spend that mmillion$, chances are he'll lose to the other competitors.

But spending doesn't mean he'll get her in marriage.

Nevertheless, is he "good enough" to show the world that he's capable?

These I think defines th person - a calculative misor, or a generous person of character?

And this is probably what she's considering before handling her vagina and more importantly her entire person and soul to him.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I would disagree on that one. I don't see what one has to do with the other. If she wants to wait till she's married, and I am leaning that way anyway, I am not about to punish her by not spending some time and money on her/us.

Sex constitutes so little of your overall time together. I would rather spend the time and get to know whether she and I are compatible in other ways first. Besides, as soon as you involve sex, it seems to blind some people as to what the real goal is which is make sure you can spend your life with this person and not want to throttle them 6 months into the marriage.😂

WhereIsMyMind · Answer

This logic is dumb in my opinion, I believe that money shouldn't be something you spend carelessly on someone of course, but it's also not something you should think of as a trade for sex.

If my friends are short on money, I have no issue with being the person that pays if we go out to eat or go bowling for example. I just think that if you care about someone you should not see an issue in treating each other equally (money-wise). If both parties are in a financial position to do so, why act frugal about this, especially if it's someone you care about? The same goes for a person you're romantically interested in.

el_Te_de_la_Rosa · Answer

Those are not related.

If a man finds a woman who is attractive and nice to him enough so that he'd like to take her out, catering her and accompaning her. I think it's natural for a masculine man to want to be a protector or a provider.

If a woman agrees to have sex with a man she doesn't know well, there's still no guarantee that he'd instantly marry her, right? Worse. She would become a hoe to him, keeping him wondering how many men she had before him? Is she worthy to marry at all because she can't say no to a man who's obviously not her husband... or at least a boyfriend.

CubsterShura · Answer

You spend money on your friends, family and other loves ones all the time. You buy them gifts, food etc. Do you tell those people the same thing? Just never spend money on a surprise party or Christmas gift for them because they never have sex with you?

Even the way the question is phrased is odd. There are men who don't want to have sex until they get married, and nowadays most women also pay for their partners to an extent. Is sex only worth it if your partner is spending a lot of money on you? Is it only worth paying for your partner if they have sex with you? In that case you are better off just seeing a sex worker instead of trying to date.

LazerBean · Answer

Because waiting for marriage is traditional, and men wanting to pay is also traditional. Men who don't want to provide are modern and should stick to modern women. Easy solution. And I'm saying that as someone who didn't accept gifts worth more than $15 from my husband before we were married.

Yunakim · Answer

Are you for dude, like you are comparing money with sex. whyy

Listen sex is not something you can do alone okay unless we are talking about masturbating so if a girl denies having sex before marriage the guy does have the same authority to deny or ask for it. So it all comes down on consents. I do not wanna go personal here however if you are really dying for sex why don't you book one for yourself. Its not like you are broke or whatt.

Don't get me wrong but the question is dumb.

Billlewis · Answer

Absolutely not, in my opinion. The sex/money equation should not be regarded as a two way exchange, and a woman has every right to refuse to let the guy have sex with her until she's ready to do so. However, in no way does that then give the guy a valid reason to be cheap, stingy and tight with his money. This is my opinion only.

Anonymous · Answer

My response to many comments I have been seeing: Only naive women are fail to see the relationship between money and sex. Men learn early on there's is a clear relationship between money and sex. Women expect men to invest in them financially and emotionally before they have sex with them. Rich men tend to have access to more women. And women often screen men based on how much money he makes. It's one of the 2 most common screens women make one being income the other being height.

To answer the question directly: I think it depends on the type of role the woman is respected to bring into the relationship, if she is expected to be a stay at home mom or wife and have traditional duties, I think it's expected for the man invest in the women to summon some extent, but not completely as the relationship would be unbalanced if she's not having sex with him. If she will be an equal or near equal bread winner then no, I don't think men should have to spend money on her.

RingOfFire · Answer

The question made me laugh so hard I couldn't answer it! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Let's face it, every species of animal has one sex that makes itself appear irresistible to the other one and the other sex that has to do all the courting to win them over.

In humans guess which sex is which?

Womens' power comes from the fact that men are hornier than women. Whoever needs something less has power over the other. So men need to pay to get what they need. It's a fact of human nature.

Mermaidess · Answer

It's also ok for men to wait until marriage and ok for women not to waste time and money on a guy until marriage. Waiting for marriage and spending money on gifts isn't gender specific, it depends on the culture the person's were raised in and how much they earn

DermalPunch · Answer

I agree with this. It's called a dowry. Why not? Everyone gets vetted beforehand. Prenuptials deal-breakers everything upfront. Once that's sorted she gets spent in and he gets laid. It worked for a gazillion years but someone decided dating was better. Doesn't seem that way to me...

normalice · Answer

It's fine to propose that. It's not fine to expect the woman to be okay with it, just as it is not fine to expect a man to be okay with no sex before marriage.

Iwasthinkingif · Answer

That would make sense only for a person that doesn't see the meaning and value of having a wife and being in a marriage.
If marriage is only a piece of paper to the people involved, there is no reason to even get married in the first place.
So, for men who think it's okay to think like that, maybe look for women who don't care about marriage, or don't want to get married.

Constatine · Answer

Yes... No

The one has nothing to do with the other. If he doesn't want to spend money on her because she is not his wife yet he better move onbecause he is not worthy.

Realy.. these 2 things are not related in any way. { weird question... I don't understand}

AmeerX · Answer

Lol, that's crazy. You are not buying a wife here. A person wants to spend on a good natured woman not because of sex you idiot. We do it because we like to take care of her. Do you take a male friend out to eat or watch a movie because you are marrying him too 🤣?

anon1903 · Answer

I think in terms of money, they should always go fifty fifty.

Men should also stop dating younger girls, 18-25 age group, who are studying or don't have proper employment options.

Because as a man, it's not possible for you to date a younger gal and expect her to be self sufficient.

DreamLife7 · Answer

Sex and treated a woman you asked out for dinner are two different things. Yes a man should still pay. If he does not want to pay then he needs to stop approaching women. If he thinks sex should be in exchange for meals then he needs to go to a prostitute.

Nifrayu · Answer

That's a very strange question. The two have nothing to do with each other.

SexyBrunetteNY · Answer

Any man can stick his $$ up his a**, I got my own. Always have. Face it, men have almost no power over relationships. Women don't need your money, so keep it and keep on not getting p*ssy either lol.

msc545 · Answer

It should be but of course it is not ok. If he does that there will bw no marriage.  Men marry for sex. Women marry for money.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Fully agree and have even told dudes that we dont need to know anything about eachothers income unless at least engaged

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I don't spend money on a woman to have sex because i never pay for sex and won't have sex before marriage...
Paying on a woman is something in my morals and because if i'm in a serious relationship than the girl will know that she's going to be a housewife after marriage

Anonymous · Answer

1st part of you question the answer is "yes".

The 2nd part my guess if all of this hinges on her putting out then it's not going to matter much after he gets married because he's most likely going to be a cheap motherf***er then as well.😆

mobiusforniner · Answer

A man who is content with himself doesn't have problems sharing his wealth with others, woman or not.

AnotherDay88 · Answer

You’re straight up saying that women are prostitutes and men should only spend money on them if sex is involved. How old are you? What kind of man thinks this way? JFC!!!

HitsyHonesty · Answer

I don't see how one has anything to do with the other. If you don't want to spend money on me, fine. As long as you spend your time.

sheenagwapa · Answer

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 fair enough if i think about it 😂😂😂😂

strateguy632 · Answer

depends if i am paying for her food expected sex and she said wait til wedding then i won't wanna pay. but if i pay because of society then unaffected.

Nikki1989 · Answer

You do know sex and money are not related in any shape or form, right?

WhitneySnow · Answer

No because it’s not a transaction of sex for money

Siri137 · Answer

It's okay for anyone, of either gender, to wait until marriage before they have sex. Actually, that's how it used to be, a long, long time ago. Why is this at all controversial?

Anonymous · Answer

Will you ever get a life.. Your questions become sillier all the time

silvermoon84 · Answer

I would say so. In fact I prefer to go dutch until I’m married to the guy, or at least in a relationship, but that’s just me.

CheeseMonster · Answer

It's perfectly OK for a person not to want to spend money on their partner until marriage. But that's not really comparable to having sex.

Anonymous · Answer

Considering dating is essentially legal prostitution, Without the guarantee of sex, I fully support that.

Unit1 · Answer

Hehehehe. I see. That is funny. They say women are the gatekeepers of sex and men are the gatekeepers of commitment and marriage. Your idea Seems only fair.

SUMAIREBRAHIM · Answer

What 😂😂 it's two different things and 18 virgin girl value is equal to a billionaire 😂😂so if ur dating one u have to take care of her n spend money it's not an argument it's fact it's law...

elizamichale1 · Answer

I don't think it's ok for anyone to wait till marriage

Fireguy17 · Answer

yes and no. Then basically he would be paying for sex indirectly.

AngelLily · Answer

If you want to treat her like a prostitute then I think that says more about the Man then the Women wanting to uphold her purity/sexuality

andreasderjuengere · Answer

''My money - my choice'' :D heh heh Counter question: is it ok to wait with studying (something, or anything) until you got a job?

Belgie · Answer

Sure. But in both cases they're going to make it harder on themselves to find a partner.

catarecute · Answer

say that to your girlfriend and see what happens.

SolitarySolace · Answer

If the woman gets the choice to wait till marriage than the man definitely gets his own choice as well on whatever it is he wants to have a choice on.

Strong_Warrior · Answer

As I told you before. You are not a coach, you are just a simp. If there is sex, I would still not pay anything for her. Men should never pay a womans bill. No matter what.

annabananna · Answer

Weird comparison but your free to do what you want.

blairbear99 · Answer

Men spend money on prostitutes. So what's the difference.

Mykejones · Answer

Depends if she’s pleasing me in other ways. No sex before marriage is possible but no pee pee play at all is just blasphemy. Bjs and handys you get it all. If your just teasing me till marriage we can split the bills till then.

Anonymous · Answer

Why do people keep equating money to sex … do men not have sex?

AngryCarl2 · Answer

Why would any man spend money on a woman? Surely women have their own money? If not then feminism has failed.

RedInnocent68 · Answer

Kind of like the old days when her family would pay you to take her away? 😂

Anonymous · Answer

So he's not going to take her out on dates? Or do anything romantic for her that requires money like buying her roses or gifts for her birthday? Not even a damn ice cream? Damn he's cheep.

Anonymous · Answer

unless she’s a hooker i don’t see the correlation between money and sex

whatever417 · Answer

If this is what you think of women and relationships then everyone is better off if you stay single.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes its okay. He’s probably gonna die alone but its his choice completely lmao.

Stopbrhr · Answer

I’m not spending time with a man not spending money on me. I also don’t fuck before marriage.

If it's ok for a woman to wait until marriage to have sex then is it ok for a man not to want to spend money on her until she's his wife?

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