So for quick summary me and my now ex girlfriend ended things a few days ago, when we left physically we still kissed goodbye and we still text, it didn't work out after 3 and a half years but i can't help myself from wanting to keep trying, there's something different in this girl that i don't see in any other girl i've seen so far, she doesn't know what to do and doesn't want to keep her hopes up. I proposed to take that step back and see each other as friends, we still both have strong feelings and thought maybe ending things would be better for both of us but i really can't let go.
Of course i'm asking this to a bunch of fucking strangers on the internet but it's my first real relationship and i regret making the decision heavily. Of course we have our differences but we started living as friends when we did see each other the last couple of months. I can't help but think there's still a possibility to save what's left and move on stronger together but that might be delusions at this point i don't know.
I'd really appreciate some honest advice if no one cares it's fine eitherway i got to rant.
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1. Trying to remain friends is just a way to stay close, hoping that you will reconcile your difference and reunite. Occasionally, that will happen, and the couple will be extremely happy. . . for two or three weeks. . . then the honeymoon is over and they re-discover all the reasons that led to their first break up, and they decide that reuniting was a mistake.
If you broke up for reasons not related to the quality of your relationship, such as she moved 750 km away to attend college, then a reunion may work. Otherwise, you almost always encounter the same problems, and those same problems lead to the same outcome.
2. So, if you are going to break up and actually try to move forward with your life. . .
Breaking up: you may want to die. . . but you won't, so do yourself a favor and deal with it!
Reasons why it has to end?
So... you didn't end things
Yes and no basically, but that's really not the point here. We kissed goodbye and hugged and still text because we both don't know what to do, i feel like i could still make it work but i fear i might be pulling on a dead horse, she still has feelings and i still have feelings but she is scared to keep her hopes up and i have no clue what to do, so yes in a sense we didn't end things but we had the talk and thought we came to that conclusion. Relationships aren't black and white