Do guys care if a girl is poorer than them? Is that a determining factor? Am I out of his league for not having as much money?

[Anonymous]

I really like this guy, but his family is more wealthy and my family is on the poorer side. I didn’t see an issue, but then I was just randomly talking to my mom about it and she told me that I won’t have a chance with him, a rich guy only wants a rich girl, and that I am out of his league. This really made me a bit upset. Is this true or does it depend on the guy? If he is a decent guy will he care?

[MrOracle]

Most men do not care about that at all - the reverse is NOT true, however. Men have a long history of picking less affluent girls, as long as they have good morals and values and are feminine and cooperative - that's FAR more important to most men (who are looking for relationships - not all men are) than how much money she or her family has or makes.

The main reason is for this is because no matter how much the woman makes (or doesn't make), the man is always going to be expected to be the primary, if not sole provider in the relationship, and as a rule, even when women make significant money in a relationship, women rarely contribute significantly to the household bills. It's far more common for the woman to contribute only if both the man and the woman are struggling financially.

I cannot stress this enough: men and women have vastly different priorities when looking for a relationship partner. Women tend to care a lot about a man's career and income, but men simply do not care about those things - they care about OTHER things - her youth, purity, femininity, loyalty, attitude, and cooperativeness. Those are FAR more important to most "relationship men" than her income will ever be.

[Asker]

Wow, thank you so much for taking the time to write this. It truly helped me to understand and stop worrying. I am so glad to know this information. I really truly appreciate you and the time you took to help me out. This is literally such a genuine reply and I can tell you really know what you’re talking about. Thank you so so much for all of the help and your reply. ❤️

[MrOracle]

Happy to help.

[Anonymous]

Men usually don’t care about how much you make, or your education. Even if you were homeless but cute a lot of men would date you. Women on the other hand usually don’t. They want a man who makes as much as them or more. They won’t date down according to many women. Funny men never referred to dating down when we picked women who made less or didn’t work. But women today call it dating down when it comes to picking a man who isn’t on their level.

[HippoDino]

A rich guy most likely is willing to date a person with less money, i certainly would. It does bring up an issue of him potentially wondering if you are using him for money, which there's nothing you can do about that besides not asking him to buy you stuff. Dont let your mom ruin your fun of dating him just live your life how you want.

[Asker]

Thank you for your reply! Honestly he’s not like rich rich I guess bur like his house is like $300,000 more than mine and I’m just like dang… and his parents have all the expensive things and good vehicles lol. I didn’t think anything of it until my mom said that, but honestly she’s always saying things to upset me lol. You’re right, thank you so much for the help & encouragement I really appreciate you.

[HippoDino]

Sounds like your mom is just jealous, but also just because his family has money doesn't mean he is rich, so you won't really seem like a gold digger to him.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I only care if a woman spends more than she makes. I don't care what she makes, I want to see good monetary policy. I've known people that made 6 figures a month and were still always broke by the 25th. That's not going to work. If she's making $10/hour and getting by then I have no issue dating her. If anything, it may be a plus that she's demonstrated an ability to stretch her money and persevere.

[Asker]

That’s a really good way to put it. Thank you so much for your reply & help

[BoopBoopBeep]

My pleasure and thank you for the good words. Glad to be of assistance.

[CurrentJohn]

Guys in contrast to girls are barely ever gold diggers, we don`t care about how much money you have.

[Asker]

I’m so glad to know that, thank you so much.

[TheSpaceGnome]

As long as she's not expecting to take my money and can afford to take care of herself, I don't care what her income level is. I care about mental compatibility.

[Asker]

That’s a great response, thank you so much!

[TheSpaceGnome]

You're welcome.

[Anonymous]

That really depends. I do not judge people on either thier income or their education and I despise those that do. But I'll have a problem with her if she makes peanut butter sandwich wages and has caviar taste.

I will say this about your mom's comments. She right in the sense that like generally attracts like. She's seeing the division between you. But that don't make it impossible. But if you do pursue a relationship know and understand that his wealth does NOT make your views ANY LESS important. Regardless of income. Mutual respect is a MUST. If he doesn't show you mutual respect don't even bother with him.

[Unit1]

Love doesn't have to be about the money. People Just make it about the money.

So long i am not being used by any gold diggers it's fine.

[Asker]

Thank you for your reply!

[Flatmanlewis]

Like the other respondent said, depends on the guy.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the guy. It's not about the money though.

[Masterodd]

Men don't care... Only the female cares about money... Oh, wait a second...

women tell me all day money doesn't matter. :) but they won't date a broke man?

[Asker]

HAHAHA. Me personally I would but I can never find guys in general lol. For me as a female, it’s about how he treats me. I could live with him on the streets and be happy. But you’re right, most women are like that unfortunately and that’s sad :/

[Masterodd]

You're the type of girl I would love to find... that's real honesty... thank you!

[Asker]

The world needs more guys like you!

[shortster]

I don't care as long as she doesn't ask me for money.

[RedInnocent68]

Not in the least! #LooksNotPocketbooks

[Asker]

I like that hashtag! Thank you for your reply :)

[jahaims]

As long as she isn't lazy idc how much she makes.