Are quiet boyfriends boring?

[Anonymous]

I think we are boring to the girls 😐 but why?

they are boring

they are boring sometimes

they are not boring

they are better than loud boyfriends or boyfriends, that can't be shut up

other

[Anonymous]

It depends. Probably. I wouldn't be with a quiet boyfriend. Im generally quiet myself, but when im comfortable, like i am with my boyfriend, im the opposite of quiet. I dont want a boyfriend that is quiet around others and around me. I wouldn't feel a strong connection. My boyfriend is very good at talking and socializing. Which is initially how he attracted me.


I also think the quiet kind would be the kind of boyfriend who doesn't explore, doesn't try new and exciting things, doesn't care about going to places, maybe also doesn't open up. My boyfriend inspires me to do all these things, which is exactly what i need. We balance each other out.


Quiet ones maybe would attract opposites, but not me.

[Hawkes_Lady]

Nope, not boring to me... as long as you talk when you need to. I hate useless small talk, I would rather my boyfriend talk about something that he is really interested in, that excites him and makes him want to talk about it. I suck at meaningless small talk, I don't see a point in wasting breath and words on something that isn't important to me, so in that same way, I am good if he doesn't want to waste air on that either.

[Asker]

You just described how i feel about it.
I know people start long and boring topics about irrelevant things and i don't know what to say.

[Hawkes_Lady]

I am the same way. Unless it is a topic that interests me I have a hard time trying to fill the empty space in a conversation.

It does make dating kind of hard though, not being able to engage in small talk as you are trying to feel out what the other person likes or dislikes.

[Asker]

It doesn't have to make dating hard. Maybe many people are really just boring themselves and thus they spread their useless boredom. It says more about them than it says about us.

The worst are those, that can't shut up once they get started, so your only bet is getting out of their radius. If they could, they'd keep blah-blah-blabbling from evening until morning. Ugh!

[Hawkes_Lady]

I so agree with you. I hate when people just keep droning on and on and even if you want to engage in the conversation, they don't stop talking long enough for you to get a word in. Ugg!

[Asker]

Yas! That's how I feel about it. Draining, isn't it? Sleeping is preferable over this.

[Hawkes_Lady]

I guess that we just need to find people who are similar to feel comfortable enough to have conversations about things that we like and are interested in, but don't just talk to hear themselves talk. Doesn't sound too hard.

[Asker]

People talking to us about boring stuff just to hear themselves talk 😄 that's a new one. Maybe they really do just that.

[Hawkes_Lady]

So, what kinds of things interest you?

[Asker]

Good places to travel to unwind, which are mostly beaches. Growing my capital and money is also a topic of high interest to me, so i can go to these places like every weekend if i want to.

[Hawkes_Lady]

I prefer the peace and quiet of a mountain cabin, nice trails around a beautiful lake or a crystal clear river. Someplace where I can write uninterrupted.

[Asker]

I was never on mountains. Maybe i should try it sometime. Not sure where to begin.

[Hawkes_Lady]

Where in the world are you? Maybe, I could give you some suggestions. I'm in the United States, but sadly I've never traveled outside of the country, although if you aren't in the States maybe you'd like to go to some of my wish places.

[Asker]

I am in Germany and we have the Alps mountains. I have not been there yet. Kinda too broke for that at the moment.

[Hawkes_Lady]

Yeah, I was afraid of that... I don't know much about mountain camping in Germany. It's a beautiful place though. Have you always lived there? I've always wanted to visit Germany, but never made enough money to take an overseas vacation.

[Asker]

I'm here since a year now. I too lack the money to do the things that i want. I am working on a side hustle to make more money but it's a slow progress with low capital.

[Hawkes_Lady]

I am a personal support worker (I care for people with disabilities- doing things or helping them do things that they can't do themselves or that they have issues doing by themselves). It's never going to make me rich in money, but it makes me feel good knowing that I am helping others make their lives better and more fulfilling.

[Hawkes_Lady]

Thanks for the MHO!

[Asker]

I am a software developer and while i can afford to rent a 1 room studio apartment and food and a few extras like hair care, that's where my living from paycheck to paycheck takes effect.

[Hawkes_Lady]

I definitely feel the living from paycheck to paycheck. I can afford what I need, but the extras are harder to come by. Vacations are a wish and a prayer, the last vacation I had was back in 2016 and I spent a week on the Oregon coast at a casino beach resort. It was great escaping from all of my responsibilities and being free to do what I wanted for a whole week. When it was over I wanted to cry, I didn't want to go back, but back I went and rejoined the grindstone of work and responsibilities. Haven't had a vacation since and I so need one!

[Asker]

I haven't even been to a vacation like that.
I am trying to multiply my money on the crypto and stock market so i can do the things i want to do, all of which cost lots of money. The market is merciless however.

[Hawkes_Lady]

I don't know much about the stock market or about crypto, never felt like I had the money to chance it in something as risky as the stock market.

[Asker]

fair enough. i expend my money in there. It would have been spend on dating or hobbies but instead i aim to multiply money and then do the things i want to do with the profits i make

[CaliAttorneyGuy]

Not all quiet guys/introverts are shy. Some of us just don’t like endless, useless small talk lol. And I’m actually quite talkative with people I’m close to if we’re talking about something I’m interested in. I guess I can be boring to some if I don’t know them well.

[CaliAttorneyGuy]

Also, check out the movie, The Banshees of Inisherin. It starts out about two old friends, and one of the friends no longer wants to spend endless time talking about aimless stuff with his old friend. So he no longer wants to be friends since he feels he’s too old to waste that kind of time. It’s a good movie lol.

[Avicenna]

Well, that is just one aspect of a guy's personality and what he offers as a boyfriend. Lots of women prefer such a personality anyway, for various reasons.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Not at all! As an introvert, quiet guys are VERY much appreciated and adored by me.
You just need to find yourself either an introvert, or a woman that appreciates someone that's a good listener and quiet- I assure you, we exist.
I much rather a guy that's quiet and keeps to himself, than one that's constantly talking and extroverted.

[Paris13]

Now and Before-----An Ex. xxoo

[RoseySarah]

Depends how quiet 🤫

[Paris13]

@RoseySarah Sneaky Silent... xxoo

[DeeDeeDeVour]

If the notion that "quiet" simply describes someone as "not talkative", that doesn't mean he's also timid and inactive.

Many quite guys are actually good planners and are just bursting with joy when something interesting & exiting is worth joining.

More action, less chatter.

[YesterdaysChild]

I wouldn't say boring. Maybe they have a lot of quiet thoughts, or are introspective, or live in a world of their own. They may just not know what to say, what they see, or what they hear from other people. Might be a stretch, but they could just be deaf and dumb too.

[Ms_Facesitter]

O in bed? Have you seen my username? I'm used to a quiet boyfriend ;)

How bad is it though? If you can be yourself with me, you'll open up, quiet or not. If we share the same hobbies, you're not boring at all. We can go do the thing together after all!

[Tomisworthless]

Im surprised women evenn date guys with low or no self esteem. I have none and women look down on me with scorn. So I don't know how men date unless theyre just attractive enough for the women to disregard their "standards" aka artificial loser deterrents

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I wouldn't think they are. I'm mostly (or sometimes) quiet myself. The nice benefit is that both of you could enjoy things together like watching TV, the clouds or stars outside, etc. Or just enjoy the peace and quietness together.

[Constatine]

No non nein , quiet men are not boring... ok a few of them are 🤭. I life by the rule : still waters run deep. We are not boring. As a girl you just have to dig a bit deeper to reveal the treasure hidden within..

[Adaeva]

Yes, because typically they are average guys; not hot guys. Most average guys know they have nothing to offer girls so they are quiet.

[HippoDino]

Just depends on the person, also depends what you mean by quiet. I am introverted don't really like talking to random people. However i talk all the time with people i like and am comfortable with.

[electromagnetic]

Not really. My partner is a chatter box and when he’s quiet, it’s actually quite nice. It gives us time to collect our thoughts.

[exitseven]

I imagine that the percentage of boring quiet boyfriends is about the same as the general population.

[Asker]

100%?

[CubsterShura]

It's not annoying unless quiet means that he literally doesn't communicate.

[purplepoppy]

Usually if a guys quiet it's because he can't get a word in.

[strateguy632]

if i were lady i would prefer, quiet guy because i can talk and not compete for talk time.

[love_conquers_lust]

If they don’t know anything or don’t share what they know. Don’t confuse with strong silent type.

[Anonymous]

You wouldn't be to Arab women or anywhere in the Far East, I can assure you of that. They're not looking for baby daddies, deadbeats or self destructing ex con thug life.

[Asker]

But premarital sex is haram, no?

[Pacquet]

I think if she finds you boring then it might not be a good match.

[Anonymous]

Not to a worthwhile woman. Any woman that tells you you're not exciting enough, tell her thank you for eliminating you. She did you a favor. Trust me on that!

[AVirgoMan]

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