I can't get over my boyfriend's last relationship. He doesn't tell me much about it. Should I encourage to tell me more or is it better not to know?

[Bloopbloopbloop]

I feel like I tell him more about my past experiences than he does. He's only had one relationship before me but he doesn't really talk about it in details. I try to play it cool but I'm burning inside. I want to know everything but I know I can't handle it. I feel grossed out by myself because I'm so immature and insecure. I stalked his ex a few times to see if she seems prettier than me and I feel pathetic. I kind of told him about this before and I felt so ashamed. I don't wanna hurt this relationship but I think I'll be at peace if I know everything or maybe I'll become more insecure thinking she did things for him that I'll never do.

[caring__1]

Your insecurities will destroy any relationship you get into, so work on those before you focus on others. Never ask for details about a partner's past relationships, as that information will only complicate your relationship with him. What you can ask is what he's learned from his past relationships and how those experiences have impacted and changed him. Based on what he's learned from the past, what is he looking to find in a new relationship.

[Tamera952]

Leave it behind. Don’t focus on it, don’t ask him about it. It doesn’t matter at all. It’s wasted time & energy - water under the bridge. You should catch yourself every time you find yourself wanting to ‘look into it’ & tell yourself to stop. Focus on moving forward, the past is the past. What he did & who he did it with has no bearing on the present with you.
That kind of behavior is destructive, & leads towards jealousy, & misunderstandings.

[sheikalana]

Why do you care about his previous relationship? That's so childish and immature of you. Also you don't need to tell him about your previous relationships and exes either that's very weird.

[Anonymous]

Lol you have issues. You need help. No you’re not going to be able to handle it. Leave it alone. You already said it yourself. I’m surprised he has t broke up w you yet. If I was him I know I would. All your insecurities are going to cause your relationship to end. Move on from it or he’s going to move on from you.

[lildkman1090]

I think you should take it from someone who wanted to know my exs past and when she told me it made me not at ease something’s are best left alone

[Bloopbloopbloop]

Maybe you are right.

[lildkman1090]

That pretty much brought jealousy and trust issues from the start and I ended up cheating on her in the beginning and she cheated on me and after that to never saw anyone else because of how much it hurt I never wanted her to feel the pain I felt and I know she did so for 6 more years I satiated faithful to her but all the damages were done to both sides zero trust and neither could move past what each did so I broke up with her and left the house after we split she became herself again

[BoopBoopBeep]

You need a mountain of therapy.

His past relationship is none of your business.

If you were stalking my ex you'd quickly become one.

[jahaims]

Just work on finding out what your root cause of insecurity is.

[Billlewis]

I think you should let him open up and tell you whatever he's comfortable sharing with you.

[Drewtate]

You are acting like a bunny boiler. Men put exs in the past.

[Jdodkfndosn]

there isn't any upside and divulging. The only good answer would be for him to say that they're separation was mutual as they just grow apart

[Jdodkfndosn]

Cuz if not that then it's either someone cheated on the other which in either case makes the guy look bad or it didn't involve you but he was toxic or weak

[Twalli]

You either can or can't handle it. You decide whether you can and then go from there. If you can, press for details. If you can't, don't.

[noohair]

I leave a sexual past in the past. You can't grow if you live in the past.

[abc3643]

He will open up when he's ready. Don't push it.

[slatyb]

That was then, this is now. Forget about it.

[LoverOfBooty23]

Have her for your ffm threesome.

[Bloopbloopbloop]

That'd make me so much more insecure.

[BigDog1989]

get over it