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Does anyone truly know us? Do we put up a false facade in order to pretend we are something else because if someone knew who we really were they might either be amazed or aghast? What do you think most people can do in order to really know you? Or, do you even want anyone to know you?
Knowledge is a social construct. ﾠ
Every part of me that I reveal is real. But, I rarely reveal everything.
It takes time and energy to invest in any relationship, romantic or otherwise.
I reveal more of myself to those whom I deem worth investing in.
Everyone else only sees a fraction of me, only that which I choose to show.
So I never pretend, but I do hold back.
Those who are close to me, see the best of me.
Those who aren’t close to me, only see what I allow them to see.
As for the worst of me, I keep that under control and work through those dark things rather than bottle them up.
Any trauma or existential struggles or deep fears or dark thoughts are dealt with by myself, as always. Those demons are mine to conquer, to control, and to resolve.
I like that. Did you say this or did you get it elsewhere?
Thanks. 🙂 I wrote everything, yes.
If I quote things, I usually put it in quotations, mention the source, or leave a citation. 🔗
I’ve been through a lot of dark things, wrestling with suicidal thoughts as a teen, and depression during college, my parents also were very emotionally absent.
At the age of 19 I was left to fend for myself while my parents left the country. I was forced to adult quickly while most of my peers lived more comfortable lives.
I spent the majority of my 20’s learning how to be independent while wrestling with existential questions and finding myself.
Those were hard times, but once I solidified who I am, I’ve always been able to stay grounded ever since.
Well said. Just because you have a skeleton in your closet it doesn’t you should broadcast it the whole world to know. ESPECIALLY if you have no serious conviction to change it.
Another problem is context. Some people are too mentally lazy, hypocritical, judgmental or flat out un-relatable to fully understand your POV about your issue. You have be able to understand someone first before you pass judgment.
That doesn’t mean the judgment is or is not justified. But if you can’t fully understand the other person than your judgment can make everything worse.
This is especially problematic in the male and female dating world. It’s virtually impossible for a man to relate to a woman’s experiences and choices and vice versa. That doesn’t mean there aren’t legitimate red flags and dealbreakers. Doesn’t mean people shouldn’t watch out for them.
But flat out admitting some serious issues on a first date or something is never a great idea. Reason being is the person hasn’t had the time to truly get to know you. But if you are moving into a serious relationship then things should (tactfully) be brought up.
You did it, so you have something to be proud of- plus bragging rights.
Thanks! 🙂
We know ourselves better than anyone else. Unless our thoughts are openly displayed to someone 24/7 no one knows you as well as you do. That’s not necessarily a bad thing, either. The image of who we are is imprinted on the mind of every person we interact with, whether that image is accurate or not depends on the amount of time spent with that person. No one is going to know you as well as you know yourself, but the more time you spend with someone being honest and showing those inner workings in your mind, they can get pretty damn close to knowing you as well as you know you.
Who am I?
I am getting to know myself too.
I am not a person I was 1 year ago,
I am not a person I was yesterday,
How can anyone know “me”,
when I am still searching for it and building it?
There are people who knew me truly, but with every new day, every life change I come across, they know me a bit less and less.
One would think the opposite. The longer someone knows you, the more they will learn new things about you that they never knew before. Sometimes that is great, and other times not so great. How many of us truly even know ourselves?
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I don't even know the real me.
Is that so? Well then, my dearest interlocutor, it would seem that even your spectacles can smear. For don't you know? The female gaze is not a phenomenon open to our input. We are slave to it. Just as my ancestors were to yours. It is the way of life. Until it is not. Then it won't really matter much as its relevance will fade. But there is significance to these words I say. So I hope you hear them.
Do us all a favor & install a damn dictionary app, learn what u need to learn, then come back here and say your damn lines right.
Next time u interrupt a scene u better at least use some damn subtext. U wanna be in marvel so bad, go to their studios & pull the crap you just pulled.
Yes, everyone I am around.
First, I can't shut up. I am an open book. I not only tell everything that I should, but many time things that I shouldn't.
In some circumstances some would probably like to know less... lol
https://www.youtube.com/embed/EheLN-MDzrA Here is another talk too much song.
https://youtu.be/CTwAtr4VMpM?si=xeZYobJyfb1Qckn6
Thank you Ms YC, you are very sweet and funny :)
“You never really know someone until you have lived with them.”
And the longer you live with someone, the more you learn.
Depending on what state you live in will determine the amount of time for a divorce to become legal. Where l am it is 30 days. The state below me it is six months.
More religions need to allow living in sin first. Same with the states. This would allow for the honeymoon phase to wear off and lead to longer, happier marriages. The whole biblical reasoning for no sex, no cohabiting before marriage is actually more detrimental to the marriage to begin with. Until you know you can live the rest of your life with someone, the healthier marriage you will have. To marry first, then having children, leads to more dysfunctional families where the children suffer the consequences. The children should not suffer while their parents fail at settling their differences.
No one could possibly know everything about someone else. They would have to have been that person and lived their life. And most people don't even understand themselves completely.
My wife knows the most about me. We've even enrolled with counselors to learn more about each other. I'm an open book with her, but she will never understand everything that's in my head or everything I've experienced.
People are complex.
Ironic you posted a question like this. I was just at a Christian men’s conference today that my father invited me too. They got into deeper subjects and discussions ( i. e. sexual deviance/addiction/porn issues) and i was tight lipped. It’s a very uncomfortable thing to discuss around people I know well especially family members.
Anyway I’ve got some skeletons in my closet but in the past 2 years I’ve brought many of them out to light. But not all of them. I am going to a anon group for one of them.
I’m not a criminal or anything but I definitely can’t claim I now seriously question if how I sometimes act and think is “normal” especially I am getting older. There are just some things I’m very ashamed to admit out loud.
But I am taking this much more serious now. Not getting any younger. But the only thing I hate more than liars are hypocrites. I want to change/improve and I am making progress.
I tick the Poor Life Choices, Things I Shouldn't Say, and Inappropriate Humour category. It's every one else around me who has problems with the other three. I try not to blame them for my issues.
Shit, do WE know ourselves? Are we honest with ourselves? How can we expect others to accept us is even we won't accept us?
Know thyself, love thyself.
u yes... even here at the G@G forums, for anybody that really paid attention, most about me is here
is it everything out there? no... that requires a bit more time and time is what I've always dedicated to friendships, family, partners and everyone in my life...
I am an open book.
Anyone who talks to me can get to know me within 10-15 minutes. Although I don't talk much about myself usually in the beginning.
My hubby knows me best. He is a lot more analyistical than me when we met and that was kinda annoying. But he is putting up with me so.. i give him all the love and credit for putting up with me. :P
None of the above apply to me. where is the one that says: I'm perfect :) jk
Honestly, no one really knows who I am. I'm the type of person with multiple personalities for everyone. So even at some point, I don't even know who I am. But I feel like it's a beautiful thing. Because I'll always learn something new.
I feel like everyone in person around my age and under know the real me. Im pretty open. I feel like the people on here also know me. I’ve only ever faked it around my boss or my mom because she can't handle who she truly raised.
I’ll take Things I Shouldn’t Say for $500. lol
I’m always honest and willing to talk about anything, but no one’s ever asked me about those sorts of categories.
Nope, none knows me and none ever will. It’s funny how they don’t even bother to know me but I guess that’s normal since even if they did they wouldn’t be able to last till the end!
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Everyone that I’m close to knows me.
Everyone who isn’t a friend only knows the surface. There’s no facade.
Oh, but there is. I bet you have one right here on G@G.
A facade.
As a guru you have been here awhile. But this is the first I have seen your name. I doubt we know even 5 % of the people here on G@G. I'm guessing that most of the person that people show here is nothing like they are in real life.
No, but the odds are when you go out on a date you watch your P's and Q's and are on your best behavior as most want to make that initial good impression. That is why they use their best pics too, as the initial impression you make is what garners you attention. That in itself is a facade, although a harmless one - unless you are using 15 year old pics. 😅
A facade is a false front and referred to parts of Victorian houses that were for decorative purposes and served no structural purpose. What is your definition?
I wear myself as my clothes, so I think everyone knows me :/
@yesterdayschild Enya fan?
I've listen to her music. Only Time is her favorite song for me.
I love the whole The Celts and The Memory of Trees albums. But I generally love almost every her song. Nice to meet fellow fan
I'm sure I haven't heard all of her songs yet.
It really depends on the person... There are some things that I like to keep for myself but with close friends I'm pretty open. With my best friend and older brother I'm an open book
Everyone who matters to me knows me for who i m.. n those people r my family n close friends
Why, do you talk more when you have had a drink?
Only a few people. People are so judgmental and critical many of us keep up a wall. I don’t blame women one bit for being careful when dealing with people
I'm pretty upfront about my life ain't no shut on my name. What I say would seem personal to others but really happen so imma say it because it's something most people don't experiance in life, shit real.
Not all of me. My boyfriend is the closest that has known me though, more than my best friends. In the long run, he will most likely end up knowing literally everything. Im okay with that. Its the kind of love i know he will still want me.
Knowing yourself is the first step to knowing others. I have learned it really soon
Pretty much an open book with someone I'm intimate with.
My best friend since I was four knows me better than anyone else, but as I do not even know myself fully she clearly doesn't.
Two or three do.
The others are kind of irrelevant.
Do you know the real you?
If people knew the real me they would run like hell.
I definitely wear more than one face, depending on the crowd. I think it takes an intimate relationship, if even then.
People know some real part of me. But not completely who I am. To be honest I don't fully know myself either
I like think that I do. Probably the only one though.🤔
The only person that knows the real me is my wife. It would shock many people if they knew some of the things about me.
the man I love truly knows me. Everyone else only THINKS they know me.
Not me my gal on here knows everything about me
People I’m really close with do
People I’m friends with know the basics about me
Some know this part of me, some know that part, never the twain shall meet
King Jesus knows the real and true you
Barely two people.
I'm fairly open and honest. ☺️
Some people do some not
I don't even know myself
A lot of people don't know their self, or what they are capable of doing. We can see ourselves short.
My best friend
Yeah unfortunately
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