Does anyone truly know us? Do we put up a false facade in order to pretend we are something else because if someone knew who we really were they might either be amazed or aghast? What do you think most people can do in order to really know you? Or, do you even want anyone to know you?
Knowledge is a social construct. ﾠ
Every part of me that I reveal is real. But, I rarely reveal everything.
It takes time and energy to invest in any relationship, romantic or otherwise.
I reveal more of myself to those whom I deem worth investing in.
Everyone else only sees a fraction of me, only that which I choose to show.
So I never pretend, but I do hold back.
Those who are close to me, see the best of me.
Those who aren’t close to me, only see what I allow them to see.
As for the worst of me, I keep that under control and work through those dark things rather than bottle them up.
Any trauma or existential struggles or deep fears or dark thoughts are dealt with by myself, as always. Those demons are mine to conquer, to control, and to resolve.
We know ourselves better than anyone else. Unless our thoughts are openly displayed to someone 24/7 no one knows you as well as you do. That’s not necessarily a bad thing, either. The image of who we are is imprinted on the mind of every person we interact with, whether that image is accurate or not depends on the amount of time spent with that person. No one is going to know you as well as you know yourself, but the more time you spend with someone being honest and showing those inner workings in your mind, they can get pretty damn close to knowing you as well as you know you.
Who am I?
I am getting to know myself too.
I am not a person I was 1 year ago,
I am not a person I was yesterday,
How can anyone know “me”,
when I am still searching for it and building it?
There are people who knew me truly, but with every new day, every life change I come across, they know me a bit less and less.
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I don't even know the real me.
Yes, everyone I am around.
First, I can't shut up. I am an open book. I not only tell everything that I should, but many time things that I shouldn't.
In some circumstances some would probably like to know less... lol
https://www.youtube.com/embed/EheLN-MDzrA
“You never really know someone until you have lived with them.”
And the longer you live with someone, the more you learn.
Depending on what state you live in will determine the amount of time for a divorce to become legal. Where l am it is 30 days. The state below me it is six months.
More religions need to allow living in sin first. Same with the states. This would allow for the honeymoon phase to wear off and lead to longer, happier marriages. The whole biblical reasoning for no sex, no cohabiting before marriage is actually more detrimental to the marriage to begin with. Until you know you can live the rest of your life with someone, the healthier marriage you will have. To marry first, then having children, leads to more dysfunctional families where the children suffer the consequences. The children should not suffer while their parents fail at settling their differences.
No one could possibly know everything about someone else. They would have to have been that person and lived their life. And most people don't even understand themselves completely.
My wife knows the most about me. We've even enrolled with counselors to learn more about each other. I'm an open book with her, but she will never understand everything that's in my head or everything I've experienced.
People are complex.
Ironic you posted a question like this. I was just at a Christian men’s conference today that my father invited me too. They got into deeper subjects and discussions ( i. e. sexual deviance/addiction/porn issues) and i was tight lipped. It’s a very uncomfortable thing to discuss around people I know well especially family members.
Anyway I’ve got some skeletons in my closet but in the past 2 years I’ve brought many of them out to light. But not all of them. I am going to a anon group for one of them.
I’m not a criminal or anything but I definitely can’t claim I now seriously question if how I sometimes act and think is “normal” especially I am getting older. There are just some things I’m very ashamed to admit out loud.
But I am taking this much more serious now. Not getting any younger. But the only thing I hate more than liars are hypocrites. I want to change/improve and I am making progress.
I tick the Poor Life Choices, Things I Shouldn't Say, and Inappropriate Humour category. It's every one else around me who has problems with the other three. I try not to blame them for my issues.
Shit, do WE know ourselves? Are we honest with ourselves? How can we expect others to accept us is even we won't accept us?
Know thyself, love thyself.
u yes... even here at the G@G forums, for anybody that really paid attention, most about me is here
is it everything out there? no... that requires a bit more time and time is what I've always dedicated to friendships, family, partners and everyone in my life...
I am an open book.
Anyone who talks to me can get to know me within 10-15 minutes. Although I don't talk much about myself usually in the beginning.
My hubby knows me best. He is a lot more analyistical than me when we met and that was kinda annoying. But he is putting up with me so.. i give him all the love and credit for putting up with me. :P
None of the above apply to me. where is the one that says: I'm perfect :) jk
Honestly, no one really knows who I am. I'm the type of person with multiple personalities for everyone. So even at some point, I don't even know who I am. But I feel like it's a beautiful thing. Because I'll always learn something new.
I feel like everyone in person around my age and under know the real me. Im pretty open. I feel like the people on here also know me. I’ve only ever faked it around my boss or my mom because she can't handle who she truly raised.
I’ll take Things I Shouldn’t Say for $500. lol
I’m always honest and willing to talk about anything, but no one’s ever asked me about those sorts of categories.
Nope, none knows me and none ever will. It’s funny how they don’t even bother to know me but I guess that’s normal since even if they did they wouldn’t be able to last till the end!
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Everyone that I’m close to knows me.
Everyone who isn’t a friend only knows the surface. There’s no facade.
I wear myself as my clothes, so I think everyone knows me :/
@yesterdayschild Enya fan?
It really depends on the person... There are some things that I like to keep for myself but with close friends I'm pretty open. With my best friend and older brother I'm an open book
Everyone who matters to me knows me for who i m.. n those people r my family n close friends
Only a few people. People are so judgmental and critical many of us keep up a wall. I don’t blame women one bit for being careful when dealing with people
I'm pretty upfront about my life ain't no shut on my name. What I say would seem personal to others but really happen so imma say it because it's something most people don't experiance in life, shit real.
Not all of me. My boyfriend is the closest that has known me though, more than my best friends. In the long run, he will most likely end up knowing literally everything. Im okay with that. Its the kind of love i know he will still want me.
