Should you stay with a man who doesn’t have a job? (Page 2)

[BoopBoopBeep]

"my view is that he is just a bum and this is going to be a pattern forever"... uhm... he outright said "working isn't for him" of course it's going to be a pattern forever don't be a doughnut

[Confuzedgirl22]

I personally would not be able to be with someone who is not driven

I have two kids myself and I can not imagine raising a third that isn’t even mine he is dragging you down. You are a mom a good one ! You can do so much better you need someone on your level or above

he needs to go

[Zenpanda]

Does he take care of the household, everything included and your kids?
If so, he's pretty much a stay at home dad.

[Asker]

He isn’t their dad, so he doesn’t really have an obligation to look after them. But if I need to run somewhere really quick he will watch one while I take the other with me. And he is really good with the kids. But I do all of the cooking and a majority of the cleaning. He mostly just goes the trash and will help me with odd jobs around the house. Like last weekend he fixed a vent cover that wouldn’t stay attached to the wall. But the cleaning part is pretty much my responsibility

[Zenpanda]

Then he should really look for a job because otherwise he's being quite useless.

[VanityFair888]

Tbh I don't see why you love him anymore. Or why is he a great boyfriend.
Seems like he knows what he's doing and is planning to sit on your neck for his whole life.

[lightbulb27]

What does he contribute and what is his plan. Is he competent to work for himself?
Physically healthy or lack energy? What he do w his time?
In general breakup… but just checking boxes…

[lightbulb27]

hard to say what the issue is, but I'd consider getting his heart checked. May have a defect. Or an emotional wound. Understanding may help you determine how to proceed. But I've seen people with heart defects still work, but they lack energy.

[236color]

Depends, lost his job, but actively looking, sure. Independently wealthy, doesn't need to work, ok. Lazy fuck wants you to support him while he plays video games? Kick his ass to the curb.

[EmyyWolf]

I have a job, so no! 🖕

At least get one as a Door Guard. WTF 😆

[Boomchakalaca]

If he is trying to better himself or help around tge house looking for jobs its fine.
But if he a scrub, no i dont want no scrub

[pickles77]

He’s gotta man up and show up for his job. No one likes it but it’s part of being an adult. I’d tell him he’s gotta move out if he can’t split the bills. He shouldn’t be a burden on a mother with kids he totally needs a wake-up call

[Joshydavid25]

You got kids and he is not pulling his weight.. I think you have your answer.. He actively quits his job like a teenage and doesn't want to work.. Geez..

[serious_miss419]

Sounds like u haven’t realized you’re his mom. Toughen up girl, he’s an adult (I’m assuming chronically) and you don’t need this!


Unless it’s your style, then I apologize.

[strateguy632]

tell him move out, and you can meet away from your home.

[Monalisa77]

I dont have 1 but its not without trying. If one can provide does it matter if they don't have 1

[MikeTheBartender]

Mam... Run... Like Forrest Gump, like the speed of light. Run.

[whistlingwh0res]

I mean.. if he doesn't think that working isn't for him then what is for him? He just want to hang around and play video games? who's going to give him money for food and stuffs?

[Anonymous]

Yet again, girl chooses worthless guy thinking she can change him, until reality slaps her like Will Smith...

[Ms_Facesitter]

I have. We're still together. And he has a job now.

[goaded]

Doesn't have a job, maybe. Isn't willing to work, no.

[AmeerX]

No self respecting man will live off a woman's money if he is able bodied. This guy is using you. Did you have kids with him?

[Anonymous]

Yeah he sounds like a great boyfriend indeed😂 idiot

[Opinion Owner]

And you're raising kids with that brain? Gosh