Boyfriend visits his mother a lot. Should I be worried?

[Anonymous]

Recently found out that my boyfriend spends abnormal amount of time at his parent's house. He isn't very close to his dad, but talks with his mother at least twice a day on the phone in my presence and compares me to her a lot.

Anyway... I find it disturbing, cause he has his own place, which by the way is only 200 m away from his parents, but somehow goes first to his mother's house immediately after work.

He never asks me to spend the night at his place and I'm already suspicious of what's really going on.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, sounds like your boy might have some mommy issues goin on. Comparing you to his mom all the time is weird as hell. And choosing to hang at her place over yours every day is a red flag.

I'd be pissed too if my girl was always ditching me to hang with her dad or something. Relationships are supposed to be between you two, not his whole fam.

I'd try confronting him about it, straight up. Be like "why you always at your mom's place when we could be kicking it here?" Watch his reaction closely. If he gets real defensive, then you know he's hidin somethin.

Also pay attention next time you're at his mom's. See how she interacts with him - does she act like his girl and try cuttin you out? That's mad disrespectful.

And look through his phone when he ain't lookin. See if they textin more than a mom and son should. Might give you some clues on what's really poppin.

If he won't give you a good explanation and stops the shady behavior, then I'd say it's time to hit the road, dude. You don't need that Oedipus complex BS in your life.

[Anonymous]

I dont understand what the big deal is about him spending so much time with his mum. My brother in law lives 2 houses down from his parents home and he visits them daily.

Have you even asked him if you can spend the night at his place?

[Anonymous]

Well, he might be a mama's boy.