Me and my former coworker are the same age and we have been friends for 2 months. Not exactly friends as we’ve hardly ever hung out outside of work. Just 3 short times since he’s quit. But we’ve talked just about everyday. We both never been in a relationship and when I hung out with him the other day, he started making a move and asked if I think we should date. While I like him, talking to him, and being around him, I don’t know enough about him to make that choice plus at this time, I don’t see a future with him. We continued and while I didn’t feel much with more of the intimate moves he made, I was open to it but didn’t feel anything when we kissed, but I enjoyed the closeness, hugging, and hand holding. I told him I might need more time and that I care about him. I think I like him but I think he rushed the process. If I spend more time getting to know him, I think I might wanna be more. But is it ok to want that although I don’t see a future? Is it worth it even if it won’t be long-term? Or perhaps I’m overthinking? Is it better to explore and experience rather than say no from the start? Even if I don’t see us ending up married, maybe us being each other’s first partner can serve as a growing and learning experience? Is it worth it to be happy even if it’ll most likely end than to not have any of that happiness? Any thoughts? A part of me wants us to both experience this new experience together and learn from it and end it on good terms when we feel it’s time (that is, if we’re on the same page) but another part of me thinks that if I don’t see a future, why go into it?
Should I give this relationship a chance?
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This is tricky. On one hand, giving it a shot could be a good learning experience since you're both new to relationships. But it doesn't sound like you're super into him yet either.
A couple things to think about - have an honest talk with him. Make sure you're both on the same page about taking it slow and just seeing where it goes. Don't wanna lead him on if you already know it won't last.
Also think about whether you're actually willing to cut it off if/when feelings change. Wouldn't be fair to string him along just for your own experience if you know it won't be long term.
If you do try it out, keep your options open too. Nothing wrong with dating other people casually at the same time if you agree that's where you're both at. Take the pressure off finding "the one" right away.
I don't know, follow your gut. If you don't see it working in the end but want to try it out anyway, just be upfront about that so nobody gets hurt. He seems like an alright guy so maybe give it a shot if you're cautious going in. Nothing lost if you keep it short and casual.
Just quit while you're ahead before you dive into the gray