Is it okay for your boyfriend to take out his ex baby momma and his 5 year old son out for lunch for his sons birthday while you pregnant and at home?

[Anonymous]

We have been constantly arguing since the day it happened because I feel like it was wrong towards me. His ex baby momma hates me and hates that I'm pregnant and hates that we together.

So I don't know what to do. I'm at cross roads. It's harder because I'm pregnant of this guy right now.

We were actually supposed to go to the mall this weekend to go get some more stuff like we planned 50/50 financially. And then his sons birthday was last weekend. So he told me he don't got no more money and I must wait till he gets paid again.

I wasn't having it so he went to go borrow some money because obviously I didn't make this baby alone. So I am actually pissed off that he took his ex out with his son. Look I'm for all if he wanna spoil his child I love and adore his son. His a sweet boy. But tell me why his ex had to go with. She is unemployed. Obviously he paid for her lunch. And stuff. I am his girlfriend i feel like that was completely wrong.

I want to leave him but it's my first time being in a situation like this. I don't know if I will cope being a single mom. He isn't a bad father but he was a bad bad bad boyfriend. Because I feel hurt and very much disrespected. They took pictures on his phone. She's on his phone she and the kid. It's on his phone. Tell me am I weird for going so on.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

It’s his son’s birthday. The child would be happier to have both parents with him on his birthday. Whether the parents are together or not, they are his mom and dad. It was a right thing to go there to make his son’s birthday a nice and a sweet family memory for him.

Try not to be jealous.

He’s trying to be a good father.

[Asker]

Awww thank you. I understand

[Anonymous]

I'm just going to say if you leave him over this, this makes you an AH. You claim you don't have an issue with him spoiling his son, but you do because you got pissed about him spending money on lunch. So what if he brought the mother lunch. She is the mother of his child. I bet your ass would be wanting him to do the same for you as well.

This poor guy has 0no hope with you. Getting pissed at him for spending money on lunch instead of spending it on you and the baby. I can already see it right now from the way your selfish ass reacted here, that you are going to use the baby as anemo to hurt him, anytime he doesn't do something for you and he doesn't do it right away. I can already see you are going to out him in a position where you will force him to pick between you and the baby and his son.

[Opinion Owner]

Also who gives a fuck if there are photos of him with the mother of his child. He has every right to take such photos. Again that is the mother of his child.

[Asker]

But if he claims he isn't with her and they only went out for his birthday. I feel like he made his ex more important than me. They no longer together why must she go out to lunch with him. Just my opinion. I'm not saying what you saying is right here because you probably going through the exact same thing. That's why you can swear because how selfish of you to not understand the situation from both sides. Bet you the ex baby momma of somebody else huh. Didn't ask for rude comments just an opinion so STFU if you can't say anything nice.

[Asker]

You don't know the full story and you do not know him or me to judge like this. You probably don't have any idea how it feels to be the pregnant girlfriend and your boyfriend takes out his ex baby momma with his son for his birthday without even telling you. If you didn't ask him if his alone with his son then he wouldn't have told you. You seem pretty selfish to just understand one side of the story. You don't know any of us but you come judge here like you are God. I just asked if you think it's weird or not. I asked if it's okay if he takes out his ex then I just stated my opinion and yes ofcause you may state yours but why the anger towards the one who asked. Are you a full grown woman or a child or somebody ex baby momma who has a grudge against new girlfriend baby mommas.

[Asker]

Lmao and girl you don't know me. You don't know my upbringing or my past. I won't make the stupid decisions that his ex girlfriend made she is the one who kept his child from him whenever she hears he is with me or so then he can't see his child. You don't know how petty she is. His mother was at the baby shower. She usually does his moms hair. She didn't even do his mom's hair because the reason was his mom was at our baby shower. He supported me. She couldn't take that. And now all of a sudden their child gets sick left right and Centre. Do you know such pettiness. You don't know what's her intentions. You don't know the full story to come judge here.

[Asker]

Lmao you must be somebodys ex baby momma. You bitter fr

[Asker]

And nope I'm not leaving him over this. I said I want to but I'm not going to. We actually working things out rn as we speak. So yeah are you happy now

[Asker]

And also she claimed she will never accept my child. But I accept her child. But both of it's his kids but she still wanna be in his life and she still wants to be around. She doesn't wanna move on with her life. She wants to mess and cause trouble between us. That's what her intentions is I can tell you that much. So how can you tell me I should be okay

[dudeinohio]

It was a family event, so both parents naturally should be there. This all was before you. Don't worry. This type of thing happens all the time and is normal.

[Asker]

I totally understand. Thank you.

[dudeinohio]

You are very welcome 😀

[HelpfulWoman]

if you can't cope with him doing a BASIC act of affection for his other child, you need to leave and think about an abortion frankly.

[Asker]

Thank you for a very polite and sweet comment.

[Asker]

But you saying it was for his child. But the mom was with. I am solely just saying that I didn't like the idea of the petty ex that went with. Usually he takes his child out alone. And he didn't want her with but she insisted that she wanted to go with. y'all don't know how petty she is. And how many ugly messages she sent me already. Never liked me and never will and will always try to come between us. So nobody looks at it that way.

[ThrillSeeker01]

No, I completely understand how you feel.

[Asker]

How so

[ThrillSeeker01]

I might feel left out, kinda.

[Asker]

Thanks now I'm not ashamed to say I felt left out. But okay I get it now. It's normal plus its the first time I'm going through this. We all learning things through life. Experiences shapes us now this was new to me. Plus accept her son. I bought him a gift for his birthday but she claimed and told him she will never accept my child. She hates my guts that woman

[ThrillSeeker01]

I'm sorry, she sounds very immature. You have nothing to blame yourself for, your feelings are totally understandable.

[In_Trance]

if you're ok with it, it's ok