Is it adultery if you "cheat" with an AI chatbot?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

According to this article,(https://www.walesonline.co.uk/news/real-life/i-caught-husband-cheating-ai-28075332.amp) this woman is divorcing from her husband because she discovered him having romantic and intimate chats with an AI chatbot.

This raises the question that with AI becoming more and more advanced and responsive, is can be considered infidelity if it's with AI?

In my opinion no, after all it's just a program and not an actual living being, akin to a videogame, at least at the moment. If it advances more, to the point of self-awareness and maybe even sentience, I'd more in favor of destroying and banning such technology.

[OlderAndWiser]

For the, the real question is not whether something should be classified as "cheating." The legitimate question is whether this violates your partner's trust. If it is something that you must hide and can't do openly in front of your partner, then it is probably a violation of their trust.

[CalmUntilAbused]

I mean... You cannot really cheat on anyone with an AI chatbot. If it was about a certain kind of robot (or even a slightly enhanced "doll"), it would be more understandable. I guess if a man engages in this kind of conversations with an AI chatbot, it might mean He's lacking human warmth from His girlfriend/wife (it's basically what women mean when they say: "He doesn't pay attention to me anymore", but in this case, the men are the victims). And while this kind of behavior is problematic in its own way, it's an important sign that the woman in this relationship might not be doing enough to keep the man happy (and it's not even always about "this" kind of intimacy, I presume).

[etsylo]

there's a point where it's just a joke and then a point where it's actually real.

there's literally a woman out there, I think still to this day, married to an inflatable. So it really just reaches to if the person pays more attention to an AI than the real person.

[RoseySarah]

So how is it different from an erotic sexy novel? Most wives I know love those! Especially when there is no romance.

Only difference this is a game 😔 not a story.

Wives list after way more fictional characters then guys some times.

[smne35]

It's not healthy to do, what's wrong with being with a real person, afraid they won't respond say as you want them to, compared to a bot your manipulating to telling what you want hear to boost your ego that's not real and nothing to gain from it, we have emotions feelings for a reason to experience pain loss sadness rejection, it's how we become human and be empathetic toward another, not go through life with a script already with questions answers, life is tough at times but that's what makes you resilient to have deal with overcome what ever comes your way

[NathanDavis]

adultery means... with another that is not your spouse, so yes... it is

and cheating is about being unfaithful to the one you promised not to be, in any way it's done and hurts the spouse... well it is cheating

now, replacing an actual spouse for a script... that's just weird, lol

[Asimiv]

Yes. It's emotional cheating and it's not the same as a book because there is interaction. It doesn't matter that it's not a living being, the person who does it still gets the same areas of the brain triggered as if he/she was messaging a real person. It's 100% emotional cheating

[sawno]

Depends on the partner, if you can openly mention it in your relationship and your girl is fine with it then its fine. My girl was fine with it since it wasn't a real human and I mostly did it since its my hobby. She knew the bot provided nothing for me that she could and was just a hobby. We also frequently enjoyed AI together. In my case it was before the chatbot era though, was more written fiction and text adventures.

[blueonblack22]

It’s one thing if she divorces him because this guy has much deeper issues going on. It’s not just the so called act of having so called adultery with a AI bot. It’s the fact he’s so taken in by this to begin with which is scary.

But I predict there is going to be a lot more of this given how advanced AI is becoming. Technology (and politics) is driving men and women further and further apart. It’s actually well beyond depressing now. It’s horrifying

[Anpu23]

Didn't I just write a mytake about this very subject? Technosexuality, sex in the 21st century! ↗

In my opinion if you must hide it from your partner your cheating, on the other hand if you have discussed it and everyone is cool, then you are not.

[JustinTheGreat]

I wouldn’t say it’s cheating I guess.

But it’s a sign that they are interested in seeking intimacy from someone other than their partner.
it seems like it’s an excuse to get sexual gratification from someone (or something) without it technically being cheating.

Which is still a huge red flag.

[Agape93]

No. AI has no actual sentience. It's a program, that's it. No more cheating than reading a naughty CYOA novel

[CalmUntilAbused]

I'm truly happy to find this kind of rational approach voiced by a woman. Thank You for Your opinion, it really raised my level of hope for humanity.

[KittygosMeoWW]

lol that’s so weird… if anyone is that lonely they need to get off emotionally with a robot while in a relationship… there’s no relationship. Getting off physically with a robot is another story

[CalmUntilAbused]

Whoa... I really should have found this site sooner. While some of what I find here is "the usual", I really appreciate this kind of rational and understanding approach, especially when voiced by a woman. Thank You for Your opinion!

[KittygosMeoWW]

@CalmUntilAbused lol

[DextroShade]

What are women going to do when men can actually have sex with robots that are at a Westworld level of realism? These men aren't going to want their tax dollars going to support a bunch of worthless spinsters.

[Unit1]

😂

Some women will classify anything as cheating. But that's besides the point.

Most likely she felt her needs were not met and simply divorced for it. Understandably so.

[Chandelier8]

Yes. Also porn is cheating. This is according to Jesus Christ's words.

[LiamJHayden]

Cheating is what the partner deems it to be. People can moan and argue all they want, but that is the fact.

[exitseven]

You are conversing with a machine. Pretty pathetic.

[syncheart]

I guess it's a lot like porn, it is not real, and yet it makes the wife jealous.

[Worst]

Your relationships gotta suck real bad if your S/O "cheats" on you with a robot

[Username234123]

Nah, but it sounds just as pathetic and sad as cheating is.

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

I can't wrap my mind around this one. How does one commit adultery with lines displayed on a screen?

[RingOfFire]

I'd say it's just a more high tech form of porn. So if porn is cheating so is sexual conduct with an AI chatbot.

[Likes2drive]

Not cheating, that’s like sex chatting with Siri and even a robot it’s still just high tech masturbation since it’s not a person