tldr; boyfriend never talks to me ever. doesn’t ask about my day and has no clue what happens in my life. we both got jobs but i know he has a free day once a week, i am free on the weekends. he never talks to me, doesn't ask basic questions and when he actually wants to talk to me, is about his own interests. Can someone actually be so busy they have no time for their partner? i’m deciding if i’m gonna break with him or not but i’m not sure on what to do.
What you should do is weigh your pros and cons — what does this relationship do positively in your life? How much value is there in being his girlfriend anymore vs being single? Maybe he wasn’t always like this and I know things were different up until a certain part in your relationship, but it’s important not to live in the past and instead adapt to your present. If he’s become too busy to be with you then yes that will hurt a lot to end things but it’s better than feeling like you’re in a relationship all by yourself, which is lonelier than you’d probably ever feel as a single person.
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This is both a yes and a no.
There are possibilities that a person is too busy for their partner... but this will always be a temporary thing and there will be clear signs that they at least try to make time.
Sometimes things happen at the same time, like grandma getting sick at the same time the basement gets flooded and they are currently in the middle of a very demanding project at work... in such cases there could be no time left for the partner... but in these cases the partner would also be aware of what's happening and attempts will at least be made to make time.
But nobody in the entire world is always so busy they doesn't have time for their partner.
Nah thats bullshit. I do believe he is very busy but when you really value someone you make to connect with them. Even if it’s just 5 mins a day texting or something.
People who find themselves on the opposite end in this situation are really in denial about the ugly truth: the other person just doesn’t value/respect them. It’s just hard to accept that reality (been there myself).
Now there is a remote possibility that this guy used to be “too available” for past women and they lost interest in him because he was a lack of challenge. So he might be playing a “challenge” game with you. However considering what you said above I don’t think so.
No. I don’t care what anyone says. People make time for the people they want to make time for.
There’s no excuse to supposedly not have any time to speak to me for the entire week. I’ve been across the world doing exercises and I’ve still made time for people I care about. I’ve have friends that were on deployment who still made time to check up on me weekly. So to me, there’s no excuse. Because if I care for you, I’m going to make the time. Even if I fall asleep with you on the phone 🤷♀️
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You are Not on His Top Priority List. I Agree, You Deserve Better. xxoo
Have literally never seen it. In today's world with people going to the bathroom with their phones and the number of people that smoke and spend time sitting in the car before and after work or in traffic. Etc etc always have at least 2 hours of time to talk to a partner if one wants to. Meaning if they aren't they don't want to
Seems to me like you need a better boyfriend. Let me put it like this. For the past 10 years i have been working 60 to 70 hours per week. I ALWAYS make time to talk to, and spend time with my wife. she's more important to me than anything else, including my job.
If any of this suspicious c*** is remotely true, then some fucking lowlife so-called boyfriend you've got yourself there... Sorry.
Of course it's highly possible that he's too busy getting his leg over somewhere else.
No, nobody is that busy that they don't have time at all.. By the looks of it, it seems he doesn't have interest in you.. Maybe you should talk to him about it first and see if you guys can reconcile.
No. Everyone has the time, no matter how jam packed their schedule is. If they're not making the time for you, it just means they're not interested enough in you.
Absolutely. Life can get in the way of everything.
I mean some days people can get really busy but if it goes for days, weeks or months in a row then they're probably not as invested.
Not if they are real interested in keeping said girlfriend!
No. Because if you put up a SMOKING hot girl who was super in to them, they'd drop everything for her. There is NO such thing as "too busy to date." There is ONLY "too busy to date YOU." Goes for both guys and girls.
i am busy and traveling all the time and so is my boyfriend and we find plenty of time to be together
I think you should move on, seems a bit one sided. He is career driven and you're only there for him to vent about his interests
No, no one's that busy, it takes a few seconds to text
Something is fishy and something very wrong about your boyfriend... One thing you can do, stop talking to him for 7 days. See what happens..
Sure, I'm so busy I just don't date at all
Yes and such people should be single.
No that’s a scapegoat
We make time for the people we care about.
No. You make time.
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