Guys, do you open the door for your girlfriend/wife after months or years of being together?

Question

My boyfriend currently does it and I'm hoping he continues to do so for a very long time.

jarkitor20 · Accepted Answer

I would do it even after 50 years

MikeTheBartender · Accepted Answer

Abso-fucking-lutely

PrincessBunBuns · Answer

I've only had one guy ever hold all doors for me, like car doors and other doors. and only like 2 actually hold doors on buildings for me. its like, a 1 in 15 chance. but it’s really nice when they do that.

AviatorTom · Answer

I do, unless she opens the door herself first... that's something she often does, especially getting out of the car. I open the door for her more often when she's getting into the car.

TrueConfection · Answer

My husband is still opening my doors for me after 20+ years.

Lliam · Answer

I rarely opened a car door for a partner, but I have on occasion. To do so habitually feels like I'm treating her like she is helpless. I mean, she can get in and out of her own car, so why does she need me to do it for her when I'm driving.
But on special occasions like dinner dates when she is all dressed up, I definitely do open the car door, help her in or out and treat her like she's on a red carpet.
And if we both arrive at the passenger side at the same time, I open the door and close it once she is settled inside.

I do have gentlemanly habits and always open doors to buildings to let her enter first. But if a partner gets to the door first, she rarely stands there waiting for me to open it for her. In that case, if she opens the door, I hold it open and allow her enter ahead of me.

Women aren't helpless, but I do love the lady-gentleman game. It makes a woman seem more delicate and feminine when I can treat her special. And I enjoy being treated like her big, strong man who makes her feel protected and cherished.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

A lot depends on the culture people grew up. Between Poland and Germany is just one border on the Odra river. In Poland opening doors for women is an important lesson for boys in early teenage years, in Germany such thing doesn't exist at all :D

I'm fine with whatever... I'm able to open the door for myself :D

Anonymous · Answer

Nope she wants to be a modern independent woman so she can open her own door. This is what women want now a days. Women like to say I don't need a man or they say I can open the door I got hands. So, l let them be themselves but when they need me to help I tell the nope you want to be independent remember you don't need a man and I walk away. I'm not going to allow the modern woman to control me when it benefits her only. Until she appreciate me as a a gentleman then I will treat her like a lady. But if she want to be a modern woman then I allow her to be independent. Woman vs lady are totally different. Google it and you will se what I mean.

sawno · Answer

"hoping he continues to do so for a very long time." ever told him how much you like it? You clearly really care about it since you posted the question. Don't let him get the idea in his mind that its just a simple gesture that didn't mean much to you. If there is ever a moment where its appropriate to compliment on it do so, its valuable feedback for him that will make him never stop.

zeitgeist057 · Answer

lol this reminds me of a funny story on NYE we were leaving a party and got an Uber. When it arrived I held the door open for a girlfriend of mine. She ran around to the other side and got in (thinking I was opening the door for myself)

KEN5846 · Answer

I tried opening doors up for my ex girlfriend but she doesn't like it cause she a feminist. She believes she can be independent. But men don't open doors for you cause they think you can't. They do it cause they love you and trying to show kindness by opening the door for you. Also if someone open a door for you say thank you they just trying to be nice. People don't say thank you much anymore in this generation. I always say it cause I was raised to be a good man and also raised in a church so I believe kindness is needed in the world

Kaneki05 · Answer

I think women know how to open doors so no lmao. And if she's going to tell but your the man so you have to, I will just go okay so since this is the 1800s I am gonna call you a witch and we'll see how far that goes lucky for her it ain't the 1800s.

Naturally I wouldn't date someone who puts a meaning on sexist roles. So don't see how this would ever happen.

HawkPerception · Answer

Yeah... no. If you wait in the seat expecting me to come around just to open your door, you're not my kind of girl in the first place and I wouldn't be dating you. It's not like the car door is even 20lbs of weight. There's a pretty distinct line between chivalry and practicality.

matchrestore · Answer

I do when we're going to a restaurant or some sort of social function, but otherwise its whoever gets to the door first. And my wife loves to go through the first door I've held open for her and dash across the vestibule to hold the inner door for me. If she wanted me to, I'd hold the door open for her more often, but she's told me multiple times its not important to her.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Tell him you like this and really appreciate his doing this for you.

Both men and women need to not only talk about the things they don't like, but make a point to talk about the things they DO like. The more you communicate your "likes", with a grateful and feminine tone, the more he will do these things for you ---guaranteed.

You also need to encourage him to tell you what he likes and doesn't like.

Surely · Answer

I will open car doors for people that are injured, handicapped, disabled or have their hands full. I will hold other doors open for anyone if I get there first and they are close behind.
A very wise mother told me not to start anything that you will not continue!

NathanDavis · Answer

I only did that with my 80 year old girlfriend... also helped her out of the car (=

Samantha36 · Answer

My partner does it a lot. Opens doors. Pulls my chair out at restaurants etc. Always let's me order 1st. I used to think it was old fashioned but now I love it

wolfcat87 · Answer

Mine do it, always have and have never stopped. Building doors, car doors, etc. Just let him know you love it.

wiltingrosepetal · Answer

I honestly will never understand that gesture. So he gets out of the car and races to the other side to open hers? And in that time she just sits there? It kinda seems like a waste of time 💀

strateguy632 · Answer

not any more. the first time i did she complained "you think i am too weak to open a car door?" opening the door like chivalry is seen as a chauvinist evil, like they are weak. let 'em open their own door

molonski2 · Answer

Its something I was bought up with and something I always do , even for strangers if the chance is there , and I will do it for the rest of my days , because its one thing I'm not changing , no matter what.

ByronWolf · Answer

Absolutely, have some chivalry men. Take care of your ladies. I open the Door for any woman like goi g into a store and what not. But always open the. Odds for , y girl.

Paul09 · Answer

So do you just sit in the car and wait for him to open the car door? That's weird. I'm all for opening or holding doors. But come on the car door? You a princess or something? What if you opened the door for him? Would it be that bad?

hahahmm · Answer

I open doors for my wife. She knows 100% for certain if she ever acted like she took it for granted or was rude in any way about it, it would end right then & there.

Novacane · Answer

Typically that is something I do at the beginning of the relationship, down the line I will do it here and there if when the opportunity presents itself but there might be times I miss it.

smne35 · Answer

Of course are you kidding, and it don't have to be just for your wife I do so for any lady if the situation presents it self, it's the respectful thing to do gentlemanly,

MrOracle · Answer

Yes. My role is to provide security, and getting in and out of the car is a vulnerable transition zone. I take security very seriously, especially for those I have direct responsibility for.

SereneScribe3 · Answer

Do you mean car doors or other doors in buildings? If it's the latest, I hold doors for all people. It's common courtesy

WhiteSteve · Answer

I’m an old school gentleman. I do all that stuff. Not so sure it’s always appreciated anymore, but I mean well, so I’ll keep doing it, haha

Anonymous · Answer

No, never really did when we started. Traditional treatment requires a traditional woman. In this day and age of society, women want the benefits of tradition without being traditional. Every women I’ve thought about encountering has done that. Sooo, no… that kind of behavior has to be earned when you learn to follow the standards and values I expect from you as a woman.

CubaPirate · Answer

I used to open doors for everyone until a "politically correct feminist" complained to me about so that put a stop to that. Now jus people I know or elderly folks

Nikki1989 · Answer

My husband has never stopped doing it for the last 8+ years of being together.

JacobJordan · Answer

I do. The thing is my wife continues to show why she is worth that effort. So if you want it to continue continue showing him why it is worth doing that

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I make her open the door for me.  Switching the game up! She's gonna pay for my dinner!

RingOfFire · Answer

Yes... and if she doesn't enjoy it, we are not a match.

tfan1 · Answer

Yes 😃 unless she beats me to it sometimes 😞

rosemilk · Answer

mine always does that, 7+ years, never will it stop either

mstbooblover · Answer

Some distracted moments set aside, yes, I nearly always opened the door for my wife during the 38 years we were married.

Anonymous · Answer

So long as she's not a typical manhating feminazi then I'm happy to be chivalrous in thought and deed.

MiddleAgedClimbee · Answer

Absolutely! Sometimes I'm not able to get her car door if she drives :-)

Phoenix98 · Answer

Always have but that's just how it is in general for folks where I live you open or hold open the door for everyone.

joehypo1 · Answer

When ever i can its just what guys do or should i think

Anonymous · Answer

I do. But. I feel like so many women are one sided. I see guys with a woman who doesn’t work or anything and she can’t even open a door for herself? WhF does he get out of it

EmmaMary · Answer

Thankfully my husband has never forgotten his manners, and of course neither have I.

systemsareyo · Answer

I'd rather she be able to do it herself the way I do it for myself 😁

kingmaker21 · Answer

Being kind & good manners doesn't make me poor... So i do always.

Yannae · Answer

We're almost at our anniversary. I still do open the door. It feels nice. It's not like she deserves any less.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Sometimes, she usually gets out before I can get to her side of the vee hickle.

tanya_s21 · Answer

Yes my boy friend does it and I pretty know the reason

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Always and forever.

OfDeath · Answer

Only if she has her hands full and can’t open it herself

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I would never open the car door for her, period. She's an adult. She can do it herself.

Sparkie460 · Answer

Yes I still do it. We've been together for 35 years. I haven't stopped yet

Sharkstealth · Answer

I open the door for everybody if the situation encourages it.

Jerre · Answer

Yes, I always open the door for women. Just the polite thing to do.

Rizzlekicked · Answer

I love guys who do this!!! It's so sweet! Chivalry isn't dead thankfully 🙏🙏

Guido · Answer

Yes I always do. It's how I was raised and it's never changing.

OddBeMe · Answer

Fck no. I do Tokyo drifts to get her wet enough to give me a bj.

Nice222 · Answer

I just opened the door for my wife of 24 years today.

ISFPCaramelPrincess · Answer

Nah my boyfriend never did but he still is so sweet to me in other ways

sheikalana · Answer

Yes, my husband still opens the door for me.

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