So my ex and I broke up 2 years ago and it was more so him ending the relationship because it was becoming unhealthy but we both for some reason didn’t talk about it. Anyway after we broke up he seemed to struggle with the breakup because he had a hard time leaving me alone. anyway the last time I had seen him was January of last year. He said he still loved me and that he wasn’t in a spot for a relationship but I could come to his therapist with him. Or course found out he had been drinking and he started backtracking the next day. Anyway we both stopped contacting eachother for a whole year almost and then a month ago. I saw he ended up getting a girlfriend for a bit. Anyway he texted me and he asked if he saw me driving. Which I was out of town. Anyway I finally texted him back weeks later because I couldn’t stop thinking about him and he asked how I had been and if I wanted to hang out.
He is recovering from back surgery so I went to his place. It was so fun, we caught up, he made snacks for us, we shared ice cream, watched a movie. He kissed me at one point, kind of made out but just for a quick second. And then he was in the chair next to me reclining for his back. He noticed I was using a towel as a blanket and told me blanket was on his bed but I said I was ok. Few minutes later he walked to his room and came out and covered me with the blanket. I ended up leaving at 11 because I told him I was going to leave so he could get some sleep from the meds. He walked me out and just said it was nice catching up and we will catch up again soon. He texted me this morning that my dog is a menace (bc I brought her over to play with his dog) and that’s it. I still have feelings for him and wondering if any of that points
To him maybe having some feelings too. I wish we could be together because I love being with him so much. And it seems we are both still attracted.
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I think he does have feelings for you but he’s reluctant to get involved again because he’s not in a good place for a relationship
It’s just weird because he said he wasn’t in the spot for a relationship last January 2023 and we stopped talking and he got a girlfriend soon after for almost a year. And he didn’t even mentioned his relationship when we hung out … I just know bc I saw through his friends Snapchat
I think he misses you but he’s not ready to get involved with you again. Be patient. Don’t push him.
So don’t reach out to him at all? When I left he said we’d catch up again and then texted me on Sunday saying that my dog is a menace lol. I said she wasn’t and he said bullshit lol. But that’s it.
Yeah it’s ok to text him just to say hi and see how he reacts
I’m pretty sure he still likes you
Thanks, I know this is weird and may over analyzing but he was also sharing his dessert snacks with me and he saved the last bite for me. I read that this is a sign of love lol. And he also draped blanket over me so I thought mahbe that was a good sign too.
Those are both good signs
Thanks, still
Haven’t heard from him but trying not to have expectations. I guess guys are better at being more logical even when they have feelings. Def easier than it used to be but it would be nice to be with him again.
Yeah I guess so. Good luck.
Maybe you should talk about why it was becoming unhealthy. that should give you the info you need
I have asked why we broke up multiple times and never received an answer. I thought
It was something we could work out, not just throw in the towel.
If can't give you an answer to that then it will never work out. More on the premise he would rather ignore issues than address them
It’s just weird because we seem to have such a good time together and he’s obviously attracted to me. He said it was the most fun he’s had in a relationship. I know we drank a little too heavily together but I’ve got it under wraps now.
The unfortunate thing is its not just having a good tike together that will make a relationship work. How you both view a relationship, what do you want out of it, are your life goals conflicting, how are you both at handling issues that arise? Keeping your cool n such
That’s the thing, I just wish we could talk about it. We did last January and I thought it was a great talk and then he said he was drunk during t the talk. So he won’t discuss things sober but wants to when drunk but takes back Everton f he says when drunk so I don't know what to believe. At this point I wish he’d just talk in person sober even if it means we don’t get back together