I'm scared we may not be compatible?

[Moirine]

We've been together for a good year and I'm scared that even though he might be right for me, I may not be what he wants or doesn't even like me that much , I don't want to self destruct but it's terrifying. Our relationship is so good but I can feel myself pulling back because of fear of getting hurt. I'm scared that one day he'll wake up and realise that I'm not what he needs and that right there scares me to death. I like our relationship simply because our communication is good, we do the little things that matter and we're far more mature {emotionally and mentally} than most married couples and older folks (no disrespect ❤). I don't want to ruin a beautiful thing but this thought keeps coming back, what if I'm not "the one" but "the one" who helps him find his "hell yeah".

I don't carelessly throw powerful words around (words like I love you). I know without a doubt in my mind that he likes me but does he see himself loving me is the question. I've never been in love before but I'm just wondering.

Some may ask "why don't you talk to him cause your communication is so good?" I would but I need a 3rd person perspective.

[DreamCrescent]

hey, girlie

i wouldn’t say “irrational”.

I’m happy for you that you’re in a healthy, loving relationship. please try to focus on the moment, live in the now. we’re not guaranteed the future. there are no promises for tomorrow. know this: if he wakes up suddenly and realizes you aren’t the one for him, there’s nothing you can do about it now to prevent it. worrying and stressing won’t reduce the odds. and you seem responsible enough to be investing in your relationship and feeding it properly anyway, so why are you worried about those odds? remember that at an energetic level, this isn’t the kind of vibe you want to be putting off. your thoughts have power so i suggest find some comfort and calm so that the negativity doesn’t scramble your life or current situation.

take things day by day. it’s good now, please don’t ruin it. you’re doing wonderfully and you deserve it. tomorrow is for whatever tomorrow will bring

if you’re after the realist answer, i still don’t think you have terrible odds because your relationship is healthy. but if it does come crashing down, for what it’s worth, i promise you will recover.

[Moirine]

I've always struggled with believing that I deserve nice and good things, I've always felt like those were reserved for others 😁 not me. I agree, we should focus on today because tomorrow has enough problems of its own. He's everything I prayed for in a man and he's sooo>> good to me it makes me cry tears of joy and happiness.

[DreamCrescent]

i understand the feeling. sooner or later, you’ll gain the confidence to realize you are valid and deserve good things just as much as the next person

in the mean time, maybe look up “imposter syndrome”. or reach out to a safe resource for some support dealing with anxiety. i wish you the best, girlie

[Moirine]

Thank you sis ♡.
You were super helpful and may God bless you with nothing but pure wisdom and everything you need to grow 🦋 ❤.

[DreamCrescent]

and you as well, beautiful soul

[Jkgordon]

Being scared to lose someone is a red flag. For starters what are your signs? I’ll let you know.

[Moirine]

Signs of what 👀?

[Jkgordon]

Astrology

[Moirine]

Sorry I don't believe in horoscopes.

[Jkgordon]

Horoscope is not Astrology. Astrology is the characteristics of who you are. That’s the secret to a compatible relationship I learned this along the way. Sag male w/ Gemini female
Libra male w/ Aquarius female
Etc

[Moirine]

It kinda sound and/or is the same to me, do you mind to school me?

[Jkgordon]

Lije I stated Astrology is the aspects of one’s character. Horoscope is just some random speculation dictating your daily stance in life. It may or may not resonate with you. With astrology you will notice on a basic level that most Aquarius behave the same. Aries male esp black ones they love to use women. Each one I come across they have the same pattern. Cancer men r usually successful whether it’s a good occupation or their own business. Mama boys too. Gemini males are jerks when Gemini girls are usually wild & belligerent but smart snooty they want the best in life. Sag men has seem to be a good match for them. This is just a quick overview so you can comprehend

[slatyb]

You are fine. If you can, see a counselor and talk through this.

[NamerOfStars]

If the prospect didn't scare you, he wouldn't mean much to you.

[KrakenAttackin]

Don't destroy your relationship because or irrational fears.

[sezhdjdndn]

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