I’ve been with my partner since I was 19 ( I am 34 now) it’s been a difficult journey alongside his addictions but I’d say the last year has been the worst. He has thrown me and my children out the house at least five times all relating to his drug addiction, has took money that’s mine and the children’s Christmas money, called me names a slut etc wanted me to get a tracker on my phone, he goes through all my emails, checks my bank account, text messages and Facebook, in December he said that if I didn’t give him money he was throwing all my clothes out when I was at work, I have a lady who I’m know working with who is saying all of this sounds as though it’s domestic abuse and the shock of it all
Is unbearable for me,
She can help me and the children be rehoused, although it’s a big scary leap for me. Can anyone else tell me there opinions on this please? There’s moment he’s okay but I know the future is uncertain when he will kick off again, snd he underestimates the pain he’s put us through, blames me for a lot of is continuously looking for things to blame me for faults in our relationship. I am tired and getting older now, his sister is also the same and when they get together he often disappears with her for hours or days and are usually under the influence, they aren’t speaking at the moment but I know they will get back in toe, and he has asked me and the kids to leave and let her stay on the house with him also. Anyone’s input would be greatly appreciated. Thank you
Is unbearable for me,
She can help me and the children be rehoused, although it’s a big scary leap for me. Can anyone else tell me there opinions on this please? There’s moment he’s okay but I know the future is uncertain when he will kick off again, snd he underestimates the pain he’s put us through, blames me for a lot of is continuously looking for things to blame me for faults in our relationship. I am tired and getting older now, his sister is also the same and when they get together he often disappears with her for hours or days and are usually under the influence, they aren’t speaking at the moment but I know they will get back in toe, and he has asked me and the kids to leave and let her stay on the house with him also. Anyone’s input would be greatly appreciated. Thank you
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If I take your word to be true, it's definitely not worth it.
There's only a certain point until which a human can keep his calm and sanity under such circumstances. If you've not lost it already you will eventually.
More than you, it's a toxic environment for the kids to grow up who will be scarred for life if not already seeing all the abuse.
Like you said, it'll be e huge leap for you if you choose separation. But that seems to be the rational solution in this scenario.
I'd like to add though, before you decide to get out of this, make sure you've left no stone unturned. As in every possible solution there can be like talking to some of his elders whom he respects or fears or medical help if you can convince him.
If you see no ray of hope then it's best to get out of this abusive relationship. Hope it all gets peaceful easy and peaceful for you.
Only an idiot would stay with someone like this. So why do you stay?
This guy is a proper c*nt and needs a restraining order in my opinion
Would you believe this person loved you … ?