Any advice for Men on Relationships with Women After Childhood Abuse?

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Any advice for Men on Relationships with Women After Childhood Abuse?
1. Sexual Abuse
At the age of about 3 years old I was sexually abused in my bunkbed. I believed I was sexually abused by my mother. I dont know the details but I believe that being willing to touch her in sexually places was then rewarded by her affection.

2. Abandonment
Shortly after that I was abandoned by my mother. My parents were sepearted and there was s dispute on who would get the kid. My dad left my sister and I alone on the apartment steps of my mother. i was 3.5 and my sister was 2. We were then taken to a juvenile center.

3. Emotional Abuse
I was taken to be raised by my grandparents. Because I didn't talk after the experience, my grandmother labeled me as mentally handicapped (retarded) for 25 years. Sometimes, if I made a mistake she would scream at me for hours. If I walked away while she was screaming at me and calling me names then I would get into bigger trouble. My only survival for self esteem was to be somewhat narcissistic.

4. Lies
My mother every Christmas would call me her "man". She would then say she loved me and each year would promise she would come get me and we would be a family again. She promised this every year for 12 years. It never happened.

I know therapy is needed. I get that.

My question is, who else has dealt with abuse growing up as a child. How does someone get to a point of trusting a partner when they have been lied to their whole life? How have other people dealt with these things in relationships?
Any advice for Men on Relationships with Women After Childhood Abuse?
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