IT's not that people don't change. But this guy is high on weed all the time, isn't he? Of course that's why he can't remember what you've said. Why are you with someone who is using weed abusively?
Unless he STOPS using weed, there is no reason for you to get back with him.
He sounds like a typical physical abuser. He apologizes for what he hasn't done, (remember what you've said), says he won't do it again, and is a changed man.
The ONLY reason that you would get back with this man is that through his ACTIONS that indicate that he HAS CHANGED. Words mean absolutely nothing. Actions do.
And if this guy is STILL SMOKING, forget it. Good luck.
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No no do not go for it again nothing will change it will only get worse!
As he has shown he won't change and pot smokers never do just lie till you believe them and then get high in secret!
He is flat out gas lighting you can he has no brain!
This will never change don't go for him again! He won't quit weed it's to addicting and they depend on it emotionally too!
sure, but put some rules down for the betterment of both. people can change. are they likely to, no. give them a chance, sure. it's your call.
my rule is no drugs. if there is a need for drugs, then seek help to resolve the need for the drug.
Only you can make that decision, not some random people on G@G.
Having said that, your moving on is probably the best idea. Any ex is in the past, and should stay there.
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Based on your situation I would say no… anyone who says they have changed.. run..
If they say… I value you, I am willing to get rid of my weed intake slowly because I don’t want to lose you.
with your help and support.. and ask that you give us the time to move pass from the past… then yes.- u
Tjats upto you and if u think he has changed or is worth trying again
In my case, why the fuck would I wanna do that? She's already proven to me that I can't trust her!! She lied to me, stole from, me and cheated on me! WHY would I wanna go for round 2 of that? It'd be like pulling the milk out of the fridge, discovering it's gone bad and putting it back in the fridge saying, "Maybe it'll be better tomorrow".
If you really feel the need to go back to him, throw the hammer down hard. Set hard rules on the things you absolutely cannot overlook, and if he breaks them leave. I've seen men genuinely change for love. But then again, I've seen men not change in religionships.
If it ended on good terms, both love each other but it didn't work for whatever reason then its worth trying when the issues have been overcome. But in this case thats not one of those scenarios.
What broke once will be easily broken again.
Not because people change, but because you'll never have the same level of trust or even naivette you had the first time around. Love might be there but there is precedent that your relationship wasn't strong enough from the start. Second chances won't always fail, but require more than double the effort to succeed. And most of the times, it ain't worth the effort
Did he get off weed? If he really can prove he changed the problem I’d be more likely to say yes to a second chance. If he’s still doing all that, well I’m sure you’ve heard the definition of insanity.
If he's a new man, he can walk that path without you and be okay with it. Losing you was a consequence for his behavior and he will have to really mean it in order to succeed in the future. But you should not be there for it.
In my honest opinion it's a waste of time. The issues will still be there and it's really hard to go back to the times where the spark was still there. Just because you love someone doesn't mean you're meant to be together.
It’s up to you if you can determined he’s changed, but I don’t encourage it since it’s a repeated bad behavior pattern and it usually takes a min to make that type of change.
Yes, but if you were thinking about doing that, it should be years between the breakup, if it's recent, you will have the same exact problems you already had.
Well that’s up to you. If you want to give him a second chance then sure if not tell him no and move on
He is smoking weed , just forget about him , he's never going to remember anything anyhow , the guy is a looser , cut clean the dead wood.
If I were single there is one I might contact again.
Getting back with an ex is like putting shit back in your ass.
Break up for a reason so have be pretty good reason to make up. Both have want it work at it and mean it actions speak louder than words
That depends on what he was forgetting and what he promised to do or not do
Most of the time that's a losing bet. I'd say your odds are about 40 to 1 long term.
if the fight is worthwhile. if the love is worth salvaging
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not worth it , all the trauma he caused was enough
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