Can the thought of not getting anything better trap you in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

So I was abused in my previous relationship I was physically hit, called all sorts of horrible names. But yet I stayed often saying things to myself as that’s not really her or maybe it was a bad day and even defending her behavior to my family who had already said she was abusive. I had never had a relationship prior to this and I was often alone a lot I didn’t have friends and I didn’t really want to return to that sort of life

[jennifer_bloom]

I know somebody who married out of lust and desire and not because the woman was intelligent or a good person and then later on he got sick and required care by his wife. She is very toxic and verbally abusive. So much so, that I don't want to be around her for even 60 seconds and he's been with her for decades. He can't leave because he is ill and needs a woman to take care of him. And he told me she is with him because he gets a post job work pension that exceeds the amount of money she makes at her minimum wage job. So she is married to him and keeping him alive for financial gain while not loving or respecting him or even liking her husband. This is why it's important to choose the right person before calamity strikes. A good guy or girl is a bonus when you're healthy but when you'er sick, it's medicine to your soul.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Yes. And that's typical of toxic relationships.
Manipulative people will also slowly try to get you away from your support system until you only have the toxic partner left, and you feel like you cannot leave.
Those who are victims will give excuses for their partner, or always hope it gets better, think of the few good moments.

[Asker]

Yeah I was guilty of this

[Little_Bumblebee]

I hope you're out of it and healing.

[Asker]

Well I feel empty like I had never experienced a relationship and I got so excited because I thought that this was my chance at living a normal life and to have it end the way it did is scarring

[Little_Bumblebee]

I get that so much.

[boggboss]

Yes being lonely or scared of being alone can make people stay is shitty relationships

[HateyouxD]

Yes especially if you know you deserve better yet stayed in shit

[Asker]

I really don’t know what I deserve, like sometimes I question how is it fair to say I deserve a relationship

[HateyouxD]

You've been abused too long. Time for therapy or continue to wallow in your shit. You deserve much better